There comes a time in our lives where the simple things that we do or try to do to unwind simply are not helpful and do not work. One may like to go fishing to relax, one may like to go for a nice run or even a bike ride… But there are some things that are needed within our minds that sometimes we do not even realize.
On the other hand, we can have quite an acute awareness of what’s going on and what is needed but not be able to actually get that thing… In the case for submissive‘s and Littles, it may seem counterproductive or even strange… But a good therapy spanking every once in a while can do the job to bring them realigned and centered with them selves.
When we think about spanking we often look too deeply at it as being simply a punishment or something negative that has to be done for correction. Therapy spanking though goes very deep on a visceral level to connect with the inner being of a submissive or little, and give them that emotional, mental, and psychological readjustment that they need but yet do not know how to find via typical methods.
A good therapy spanking can do a lot to relieve stress, anxiety, and other emotions and feelings that cause frustration and problems in their lives.
So how does one go about the action of doing it properly without making it into a punishment or a negative action?
Step one; understand what it is and isn’t . Punishment and therapy spankings are two completely different things.
Punishment is a sad but necessary thing in the lives of a lot of couples within our lifestyle, and it has its own set of benefits. But punishing properly is often overlooked in favor of just doing the action itself.
When ever you go to punish your submissive or little, a certain set of actions must be put into place to make it proper without doing any damage beyond the physical.
1.) explain the offense that was committed and why it was a mistake.
I choose the word mistake because that’s what it is… It may not necessarily be wrong, and it’s definitely not a failure… It’s a mistake. Mistakes are the way that we learn, mistakes are expected, mistakes are what make us better and stronger because we can move forward from them.
Yet mistakes need correction… And that correction should always fit the mistake itself. If you do find yourself to the point where a spanking as a punishment is needed, then you should thoroughly lay out the reasons why before hand and explain why the mistake is detrimental to either your submissive/little or the relationship… The future… And so on.
Simply telling her that you’re going to punish her and then going through with the act is borderline abuse and doesn’t do anything but make her fear you in a negative way and see you as a person who has no control or discipline over their own self
2.) deliver the punishment
And as I said before, the punishment should be appropriate and in line with the mistake. Don’t go overboard and don’t lose control of yourself in favor of “making her better”. Because there comes a point when all you’re doing is abusing her for your own pleasure rather than making her a better person.
Always always always perform aftercare and make sure that it’s much more than what the punishment was. Skipping aftercare or slighting her on it is only going to do more damage in the long run.
Love on her and explain to her why you had to spank her and how it also hurts you. Show her that it was necessary and tell her and explain how it’s going to help her grow and be a better person and improve her and your relationship. Give her justification for your actions instead of simply just doing them like some amateur moron who watched Fifty Shades of Grey and thinks that’s the standard.
So to recap… Punishment goes along with correction. Punishment goes along with mistakes. Punishment goes along with rule breaking and other similar actions.
The therapy spanking though, is purely for their benefit and purely for pleasure.
How to conduct the therapy spanking.
In my opinion they therapy spanking is something that should be asked for. And not really administered on the terms of the daddy or Dom. It should be something that is seen as a need and then discussed before hand, if not requested by the submissive or little.
Therapy spanking sessions should always be prefaced with discussion and a lot of planning. She will tell you that she needs it and then you need to spend some time caring for her and doing pre-session after care… Which may sound a little strange, but she will need to be put into a certain headspace to differentiate what’s happening between therapy and punishment.
Talk to your submissive or little about what’s been going on lately, what’s been causing all of the stress and anxiety… Tell them that you recognize their needs and why you recognize them because every little and submissive though they may enjoy the same thing have different needs for that same thing. Explain to her with great detail about how much you love her and want her to feel good and feel right and properly set up with the scene for the actions that are about to take place.
Therapy spanking is for her. Solely for her. It’s not about you or what you want or your pleasure at all… It is for your submissive alone and for her therapeutic purposes.
Step two; the action itself and how to go about it
When you conduct a spanking for punishment your submissive will often be very anxious or even scared of what’s about to happen. In the occurrence of the therapy spanking she should be well relaxed and ready to receive it after your proper preparation. Allow her to get into a comfortable position with out your physical assistance. Begin by rubbing their back and bottom and legs, saying sweet words, how much you love them, and so on… Because a therapy spanking can be a rather intimate action and SHOULD be an intimate action. It’s going to release a lot of endorphins, emotions… And more in such a way that will give you or submissive or little relief.
When you feel that they are properly relaxed and ready you can begin your spanking. With a therapy spanking I recommend using only your hand, the reason being that after you give a good swat, you can then follow it up with rubs and grabs and affection. The use of a paddle or belt will only inhibit the speed with which you are able to do this and will take the intimacy away. Because there is nothing like skin on skin contact to make closeness come together.
For added effect you can also light candles and dim the lights and put on relaxing music. Allow her to cuddle her stuffy or pillow or whatever will make her more comfortable in the process.
Spank slow… One strike at a time with lots of rubbing and ongoing after care in between, gradually picking up the pace in such a way where you are monitoring and paying attention to her actions. Listen to her body and go accordingly with it until you are up to a point where you can be freely spanking her.
Pay attention to her body and how it’s reacting, especially her bottom. Find your line between what’s needed and what’s too much and stick to it without compromising because it’s not about you. It’s not for you. And you are simply the instrument which is delivering the therapy that they need.
It goes without saying and I really should not have to reiterate but after care is definitely needed and will only improve both you, your relationship, and the intimacy that exists between you. Have your aftercare kit standing by with a blanket, her stuffy, and other items that will make her feel safe and secure. Love on her and kiss her and tell her sweet things. Tell her what a great job she did and how much you enjoyed making her feel better. Give her the treats and sweets that she wants… And overall just use it as a time to cuddle and lavish her with love.
Above all else be slow and patient with everything… it’s going to make the difference between cuddling the rest of the night and listening to her cry her eyes out on the bathroom floor with the door locked until she passes out.
Thank you for reading and learning. Be sure to reblog for others to do the same.
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