Pinned
Here's where you'll find some less (and some slightly) kinky information about who sits behind this account and how it is run.
There's a lot of text under the cut and it's not necessary to read it all but it does help if you plan on following or might want to send an ask or a message at some point.
You'll also find the tags I use here in case one needs to be blacklisted.
This post occasionally gets edited to stay up-to-date
About
Basic info:
I'm 26, attracted to both men and women, I'm dominant in power dynamics and I exclusively top. I'm autistic, which combined with my dysphoria makes my experience and attraction to both kink and sex nonconventional.
I'm a relationship anarchist (poly) that's currently solo. While I'm not here to look for a partner flirting with anons or mutuals is fine with me, but I do not do online bdsm or long distance.
Dysphoria stuff:
I'm a binary stealth trans man far into my transition and working towards bottom surgery. In my writing I most often just portray myself as cis or without putting any emphasis on a trans body being different to a cis one. You can read my writing as having a prosthetic, being post-op, having a fictionally enhanced tdick or being cis male. Either way I will always refer to my dick as a dick, never call it a strap or another anatomical word specifying that it's not a real cock.
On the same topic I'm not a butch nor a lesbian and I don't feel comfortable engaging sexually with people that identify with those terms. Doesn't matter if you're trans or cis, if you lean into the lesbian subgroup I'm not for you. You are however of course welcome here and can reblog things if it fits your tumblr (just no adding onto my stuff thank you).
Another similar note I want to make, I am not queer. I'm perfectly binary in my identity and as a bi man I want to put all the emphasis on that as bisexuality so often gets diminished. Just because a label can be useful doesn't mean it's useful for everyone.
Regarding RACK and SSC
Kink does mean more to me than just simple sex and arousal, yet there'll be mostly that in my writing and reblogs since I don't want to mix up sound advice and realistic ways of doing kink while simultaneously writing extremely unrealistic fantasy in a way that mirrors a realistic play pretend. That way it's easier to just assume everything on my Tumblr might not be how things actually work and new kinksters can assume that what I write about is make believe rather than a good example on how to practice bdsm and kink. Nor that it's a realistic interpretation of how my sex and kink life looks outside of Tumblr.
To put it very very clearly, bdsm and kink is grounded on consensual and risk aware practices. What you read on Tumblr, in erotic writing or watch in porn is not the full story. Behind every rape play clip is hours of trust, love and support. Behind every dirty dehumanizing confession is most likely exaggerated details and saftey precautions. In mine and others writing things are made up to be hot, you and your body can't do all the things we pretend that they can.
You can always draw inspiration from things that sounds fun and arousing but make sure you know how to do it safely. There's time and effort that goes into every erotic practice that you don't get to see in the material you've consumed.
Be safe, be smart.
Contact and Interactions
If you want to be here you're free to follow or look through what I've shared under the conditions that you are over the age of 18 and know how to act in a decent manner. This includes treating binary trans men like men and not force queer lables onto people that do not want it.
In general I'm a big believer in ask if you're unsure about something. Genuine good intentions and a will to better understand something is always okay with me.
Private Messages:
I'm always open to DMs (and I promise I'm nicer than I seem) just don't expect me to take on all the work carying a conversation or answer things I don't feel particularly into. If you want to talk in DMs then make sure you have something to say as I'm not your personal jerk off instructor.
On a similar note, I'm not your Dom either. I won't be upset with anons flirtingly calling me Daddy but if you're messaging me directly don't act as if we have a dynamic when I don't even know you. I dont want strangers referring to me with titles, asking me for tasks or showing me nsfw images I haven't asked for.
I will also most likely not sext with you. This is not an activity that generally interests me and even less so if it's not with someone I like who can write in a way that's inspiring. I'd rather talk about kinky things than role play them.
For Asks:
All confessions or asks that skirt around a little too close to the line of realism in a way where I can't tell if it's too true I will opt to not answer. Examples, don't send me rape confession or talk about CSA in any form.
If I receive things I deem unnecessary or provoking I will simply delete it. This is not a place for discourse nor do I want to deal with things I don't find appealing or fun.
On the other hand I really like writing short stories and play around with concepts for kink scenes so getting asks with combinations of kinky plots, fantasies or experiences someone has had to put my own spin on it is something I do enjoy. It's always okay to send an ask like that my way. If I'm in the mood you might get a little erotic piece out of it.
Otherwise you're welcome to send me questions about my kinks, my thoughts/knowledge on any subject, share your thoughts or just tell me something you wish to share. If you want you can use a signet to sign anonymous asks, but don't be parasocial creepy with it please.
Kinks and not
I like a lot of things and will write about whatever I find appealing in the moment but please note that this is my fantasies and not an open guide to what I prefer everyday with everyone. My kinks shift with my mood and my partners and there's a whole other vanilla and soft kink side to my sexuality that's not present here.
A selection of kinks I like:
Anal, Fisting, Object insertion, Dom/sub, Feral play, Piss, Throatfucking, Crying, Edging, Denial, Noncon/Dubcon, Overstimulation, Humiliation, Enemas, Pain, Impact play, Horror porn, Costumes, Latex, Bitchsuits, Cockcages, Gags, Bondage, Nipple play, Fat tits, Small cocks, Huge cocks, "Force"masc, Fantasy toys, Free use, Public play, Heat/Aphrodisiacs, Somnophilia, Wedgies, Sounding, Figging, Cumflation, Masks, Leather, Light musk, Toys under clothes, Breeding and Breathplay.
I'm very into T4T (both straight and gay), unconventional ways to play out kinks, unrealistic fantasies done realistically, kinks that are both non sexual and sexual at once, nonverbal sex and just humanizing ways to be fetishizing.
A summary of what I don't like and why:
I don't like dehumanizing kinks like raceplay, transphobia or misogyny. With dehumanizing kinks based on someone's identity I can't help but get too stuck in the realism of it, we have enough of that as it is. A little bottom shaming and objectifying is fine but not play pretend bigotry.
Gore, knives, blood, needles and anything else that's considered as a sharp kind of pain are also kinks I do not care for, nor do I like things like abdl, weight gain, biting, pregnancy, role play or feminization/sissy kink. "Gross" and smell based kinks like sweat, scat or ingesting body fluids are also off the table. These are just not my thing.
The scenario of a pretty little pet, priced toy or loyal servant is another thing I'm not intrigued by. Too much idolization and in my opinion overused tropes. Same with dirty talk, it feels more like a forced script to me than erotic desire.
Lastly "Illegal" kinks, even as a play pretend, is also not for me. Not a fan of bestiality/bugs, incest, underage or snuff. The one exception is CNC.
There's occasionally a fine line where I like things like rough throat fucking that ties into throwing up or diapers as a form of bondage and humiliation. The difference is that the emphasis isn't on the kink I'm not into but the focus is on the part of the act that fits the kink I do like. For example, the throat fucking being so rough it's enough to cause a violent and involuntary reaction, not about how it tastes or smells.
None of this means you can't like a kink or a fantasy or that I judge you for it, just that I don't and won't post about it.
Tags
I have a tag for all of my original writing called mean dom things, a tag for out of play writing or questions called not mean dom things and a tag for asks, mean dom asks.
*I plan on changing these tags and my username at some point to fit the theme of my Tumblr better but for now this is what I use.
All tags are added on this posts for people and myself to access more easily.
