Anxiety is actually a good friend of ours
That’s a tricky sentence right there in the title.
Today I had quite a hardcore session with my therapist about my anxieties and the way I cannot cope with them anymore. I told her that I suddenly want to do something else with my life, that I want to change. Obviously she asked me why do I want that, and my answer was pretty simple: I just want to meet a new self, to get rid of all my anxieties, considering it like a cure for everything.
She was smiling and realistically said: “So you really think that changing everything, the way you live, what you’re doing, changing yourself will get you rid of all your anxieties?”. How much I love those wake up questions. Of course not, I said to myself and to her. Even I knew how silly was my statement, but out of purely desperation, I just said it. I would lie a lot to myself just to trick the hell out of me, to just live at least an hour or so without fear.
Calmly then, she asked: “How about accepting the way you are now, and then plan out your change?”. My head exploded. “I can’t live with myself and all my non stop fear of everything”, I said, impatiently. “Exactly, that is what we need to talk about. That is exactly what you need to do. Befriend your anxiety.”
So there you have it. This is more like a long story short type of what happened today in my session. This also made me do this blog. I found a nice way to start getting along with my anxiety, with my worst nightmare. So I thing maybe writing about it, discussing it here with other people would do. And I am very excited about this!
Never fight it back, my therapist said. If you continue fighting it back, oh boy it will win. Or she. I will call my anxiety a she, because it’s a part of me. My new friend.
Have you ever had a mind blowing experience with your anxi-foe?
I made a side blog about anxiety in which I am going to write all my experience with its coping, the struggles and about the journey of accepting it. It’s something that I have been talking a lot about in my therapy sessions, therefore my decision of focusing more on it. Feel free to share and also to share you experiences as well
