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hatermaxxing , aromantic jaded adult

[medievaljester]

twenty two || aromantic allosexual

sex positive || romance repulsed

friend oriented || male || black

i use this account to talk about my experiences & opinions as an aromantic, i’ve been out for five years & i’ve been single for three years🎉

clarification : i do not hate arospec individuals or alloromantics, i am critical of how they discuss certain topics & i raise those concerns within my post

i am quite jaded so i’m heavily critical of romance in general just to let you know in advance

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i’d rather get my skin peeled off my body than hear another person say “i love my boyfriend” ever again.

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romance media has brainwashed ya’ll into believing romantic love is easily accessible & something you’re deserving of despite never putting any work into it or putting yourselves out there, if you want that for yourself, put the work into it, i don’t want to hear you complain

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i can only feel sympathy when people vent about having no friends, because venting about not having a partner is actually the most embarrassing thing a person could ever do.

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the concept of only being demisexual for men🤨

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i get the concept of a qpr but them getting mad when i call them my friend, just rubs me the wrong way, its like they put a negative connotation on the word friend, people also call their significant other their friend, & just like aromanticism, qpr feelings is also a spectrum & it being closer to platonic is okay, you can be just as important to me & still be my friend, idk mfs are weird🤷‍♂️

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there’s definitely a conversation to be had about how allos tend to view their partners as their property, i am not talking about being overprotective, having boundaries of your partner watching porn or flirting with their friends even as a joke or not wanting them to entertain others, those are all valid & don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, but not letting your partner stay friends with their exes or getting upset at them for wanting to hang with other people just as much as you, it feels like you don’t see them as their own individual & that shit is weird asf.

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it’s always “aromantic/asexual is a spectrum” or “aromantic/asexual people can still date/have sex”, but they never make room for the people who go to the end of the spectrum, i feel like an oddity in my own community with the amount of people that put this rhetoric out there, the amount of times ive been confessed to by fellow aromantics who i thought i was safe with because you want to feel proximity to allos is insane. i hate this community sometimes.

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sometimes i have sympathy for people who just want to be loved, but then i remember they could actually put themselves out there, but none of them do, all they want to do is complain, this is why you’ll never be loved

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when people say they want someone to share their life with, why is it only ever romantic, i hate allos, i’ll never be good enough for you

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it’s always “i wanna be someone’s special person”, but are you even special?