Hello! It’s me. Again.
Well, I’m here to post the definitive version of my version of the aromantic flag, along with its meanings and colors.
I’m doing this after going through several experiences and connecting with more aromantic people like me, so I thought it would be a good idea to create a flag that brings together everything I’ve learned and experienced.
“But why a new version of the flag?” It’s simple: I don’t like the current one that much. The meaning of the colors is very simple, and I’m here to turn each color and its meaning into a small guide to simple things that many people don’t understand about aromanticism.
So, shall we?
I present to you, Gumdrops, my new aromantic flag!!
Let’s start with the basics: the color green, which represents aromanticism and the lack of romantic attraction — which, as we all know, is not something that needs to be fixed. It’s not like we “just haven’t found the right person” or that we “don’t feel romantic attraction because of trauma.” It’s something that is part of our lived experience and our interpersonal relationships.
The next color is light green, which here represents the other parts of the aromantic spectrum, such as demiromantic, grayromantic, arospike, etc. You are just as much a part of this community as strictly aromantic people, so please feel represented by my flag as well!
Now comes the color white, which represents non-romantic and platonic forms of relationships, such as queerplatonic relationships. I’ve come to understand that aromantic people can absolutely form deep connections with others without necessarily feeling romance or the desire to date. The white color is here to represent that.
And here is the color orange — this is where my flag differs from the current one. Orange represents every form of affection and care, whether physical, emotional, or any other kind.
Many people think that this kind of affection can only exist if two people are dating or in a romantic relationship. That was something that always pressured me into pretending I was in love, because I’ve always wanted affection and care. But we don’t need dating for that — a strong friendship or a queerplatonic relationship can be filled with affection and care just the same!
And lastly, the color pink, which represents the spectrum of sexuality — including allosexual, asexual, demisexual people, and others.
I’ve heard from many people that sex without romance doesn’t exist, that it’s something strange, bizarre, or dirty. And I always felt that way about myself for experiencing sexual attraction but not romantic attraction. But it does exist — just as much as aromantic people who also don’t experience sexual attraction.
Many people think that being aromantic automatically means being asexual because sex = romance, but that’s not how it works. Just like affection and care, other forms of connection can validate a sexual relationship. Sex ≠ romance, and the pink is here to show that.
Well, that’s it! I’ll leave the flag here at the end for free use — it belongs to you, to the community. Use it and feel proud to be aromantic. This flag represents you!! 💚🤍🧡💖