Riding the mental struggle bus hard. Because I want to stick to my feelings and stay honest but I keep having people undermine my feelings.
M (who is my ex from like almost 5 years ago) got married today. It wasn’t a big thing. But J (who is also supposed to be my best friend) knew about it since Jan 1 and nobody told me. I had to find out when a mutual friend from Texas texted me and I saw it on Facebook.
Mind you - me M and J are, in my mind, besties. I feel like this is not something I should have found out about on the internet.
So I text J and I ask her if she knew and she said no. I then go meet her at a restaurant with 10 other friends and she tells me (in front of them all) “I did know, I’m sorry, are you mad?” Yes I’m fucking mad. #1 you lied to me. #2 my two “best friends” hid something from me. I told her had it been the other way around I would have said “can I tell J??”
Then she asks me “what did you think of their photo??” The one I saw was the one his wife posted on fb and honestly, the angle could have been better. It was a photo of them kissing. And I was like eh could have been better. Cut to 30 min later the group is talking about M getting married. And J’s ex husband pulls up an adorable picture of them outside the bar to show off. I later realize this is the pic J asked me about. That I never saw. That M texted to her, J’s ex, my other bff he knows.
I had texted M congratulations and he just replied “thank you! Celebration in the spring!” And did not text me that pic.
Listen, I get that M and I are ex’s x2. But you can travel back in this blog and see that when he started dating his now wife I confronted him about her attitude and he told me she would have to get over it because I am more important to him than that.
Why did I find out about this on Facebook and why does J think I’m in the wrong for being upset with her, too? Am I crazy?
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