Ram - they/them - over 25 Mainly a coining/flagmaking blog Previously @pantasticenby [avatar i.d.: the bi-angled aroace flag // end i.d.] [header i.d.: a pipe with a pansexual flag on one end and the bi-angled aroace, asexual, and nebularomantic flags on the other, along with the text "'Do you like girls or boys?' 'Yes…' 'No…' 'Maybe…?' 'But not like, in the way other people seem to.'" all in comic sans // end i.d.]
So, it’s been two years since I last logged into tumblr, and since then, I’ve realized some things about myself:
I’m not aceflux, I’m just ace.
I’m on the aro-spectrum as well; nebularomantic(link) to be exact.
Pan as a label no longer fits me (hence the url change), but bi-angled does.
I am, in fact, a we! Not gonna talk about it much, and don’t ask me my opinion on syscourse. All systems are welcome here; if you don’t like it, you can leave.
Still Ram, still a they/them (although I don’t really care about singular vs. plural usage anymore), still a neurodivergent nonbinary guy.
I’m back because I missed coining weird, niece terms for my queer experience and making flags for them. (Coining masterlist here)(link) Likely won’t be posting much else.
I decided to remake this blog rather than just changing my url for the sake of everyone who’s ever linked one of my terms. The links will break if I change @pantasticenby .
I’m disappointed (but not surprised) to learn that queer discourse is still a prominent feature of tumblr, and I’m too old and too tired to deal with it. So, let me get this out of the way:
Queer isn’t any more of a slur than gay or lesbian.
Censoring and arbitrarily policing queer people who reclaim slurs puts the power back in the hands of the queerphobes.
I’m out here fagdyking it up, and you will not stop me.
Gatekeeping is stupid. Policing queer identities and queer language is stupid. Go touch grass.
A-specs are queer. Yes, even aroallo cishet men.
“Weird,” “cringe,” and “contradictory” labels are valid. Queerness is about non-normative relationships with sexuality/romance/gender/sex. Stop trying to make a new norm to conform to, and accept that there will always be queer experiences that you don’t quite understand.
Transition is for anyone who thinks their life would be improved by it, regardless of identity or dysphoria.
I’m not giving you a free pass to misgender me by handing out auxiliary pronouns. If you genuinely have difficulty using they/them for whatever reason, I’ll be patient with you, but I’m sick of gatekeepers using disabled people and non-native English speakers as an excuse to be transphobic.
Transandrophobia and transmisogyny are both real, and neither experience invalidates the other.
If you disagree with me on any of these fronts, that is a you-problem. I’m done playing along with bad-faith discourse and people taking out their internalized queerphobia on the weirder queers.
I can’t stop you from interacting or using my terms/flags, but I can block you and wash my hands of the situation.
why is it feminine genders instead of female gender?
Because I didn't write that. It's incorrect. Genderfaunet includes feminine genders, and while I didn't coin genderfaunetflux, I'd assume that it does as well.
I had this idea to make an aromantic pride flag based on the concept of Cupid's arrow. "Cupid's aro" is a pun that I've seen every now and then, but as far as I can tell, it doesn't have any assigned meaning within the aromantic community. This term has been floating around in my brain for at least several months, and I wanted to make something of it. So, here's my coining:
"Cupid's aro" is a term for aromantic people who have a notable connection to attraction, romance, love, affection, intimacy, and/or partnership. For example, this includes:
People on the aromantic spectrum who experience some level of attraction, regardless of whether that attraction is romantic or not. This includes greyromantics, aroallos, oriented aroaces, etc.
People on the aromantic spectrum who are romance-favorable, romance-indifferent, or otherwise have feelings towards romance which can't be described as wholly averse or repulsed.
People on the aromantic spectrum who are partnering, regardless of whether they are romantically partnering or not.
People on the aromantic spectrum who experience love.
People on the aromantic spectrum who enjoy being deeply affectionate and/or intimate with other people.
People on the aromantic spectrum who enjoy aesthetics like lovecore, and/or enjoy holidays like Valentine's day.
It's an intentionally loose term because I'm not the first to come up with it, and I won't be the last. I'm mostly coining this for fun.
Here are some variants featuring different identities:
You don't have to identify as a "Cupid's aro" to use any of these flags. Using them as flags for the identities they represent, without "Cupid's" attached, is also fine.
an arospec asexual flag for anon, plus a corresponding acespec aromantic flag, based on the ace and aro flags and these arospec and acespec flags!
flag id: the left flag has 5 stripes. in order, they are dark aqua blue, green, cream, pinkish-purple, and pinkish-purple. the right flag has 5 stripes. in order, they are green, light green, red-white, faded light pink, and soft indigo. end id.
Image descriptions in alt text and below the read more
Synesthegender: A neurogender where someone’s perception of gender is affected by their synesthesia. This could be their own gender, or gender in general.
Flag meaning: The five colored stripes represent the five commonly known senses (sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell), although together, they also represent lesser known senses and concepts.
The brighter stripes represent projective synesthesia (directly experiencing mixed senses), and the duller stripes represent associative synesthesia (a strong and innate association between senses).
The white stripe and white circle represent gender, and how a synesthegender person’s perception of gender is innately tied to their synesthesia.
Symbol meaning: When looking for a synesthesia symbol, I couldn’t find one. So, I made my own.
The symbol is made up of a infinity sign and two arrow-heads. The infinity sign is a symbol for neurodivergence. Synesthesia is in itself a neurodivergency, but it is also more common among people with other neurodivergent conditions such as autism or ADHD. The two arrow-heads are placed along the infinity sign to represent a pathway or exchange between senses.
The colors share the same meanings as the stripes on the synesthegender flag: five colors to represent the five commonly known senses (sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell), and together, they also represent lesser known senses and concepts; brighter colors for projective synesthesia (directly experiencing mixed senses), and duller colors for associative synesthesia (a strong and innate association between senses).
Simplified flags, synesthesia symbol png, additional details, plain text image descriptions, and signal boost tags below the cut.
So, believe it or not, I was the anon who coined synesthegender and made the original flag!(link) It was my first coining, and I decided to do it on anon, because I wasn’t ready to have any attention on me.
Since then, I’ve coined three other terms, and gotten a lot better at flagmaking, so I thought I should revisit it and make a redesign.
[flag i.d. (1): synesthegender flag: a flag with 11 horizontal stripes; the first 5 stripes are all even width and brightly colored (from top to bottom: hot pink, purple, cyan, green, yellow); the middle stripe is white and thicker than the rest; the remaining 5 stripes mirror the first 5, and are even width with muted colors (from top to bottom: yellow, green, blue, purple, pink); in the middle of the flag is a white circle containing the synesthesia symbol (an infinity loop with two arrow-heads running along the lines, colored in the same gradient as the flag; the left-hand side of the loop is dull while the right-hand side is bright) // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (2): simplified synesthegender flag (version 1): a flag with 11 horizontal stripes; the first 5 stripes are all even width and brightly colored (from top to bottom: hot pink, purple, cyan, green, yellow); the middle stripe is white and thicker than the rest; the remaining 5 stripes mirror the first 5, and are even width with muted colors (from top to bottom: yellow, green, cyan, purple, pink) // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (3): simplified synesthegender flag (version 2): a flag with 11 horizontal stripes; the first 5 stripes are all even width and brightly colored (from top to bottom: hot pink, purple, cyan, green, yellow); the middle stripe is white and thicker than the rest; the remaining 5 stripes mirror the first 5, and are even width with muted colors (from top to bottom: yellow, green, cyan, purple, pink); in the middle of the flag is a white circle containing the simplified synesthesia symbol (a dark grey infinity loop with two arrow-heads running along the lines) // end i.d.]
[symbol i.d. (1): synesthesia symbol: an infinity loop with two arrow-heads running along the lines, colored in a 10 color gradient; the left-hand side uses muted colors while the right-hand side uses bright colors; starting from where the loop intersects, the colors are: muted pink, muted purple, muted blue, muted green, muted yellow, bright yellow, bright green, bright cyan, bright purple, bright hot pink // end i.d.]
[symbol i.d. (2): simplified synesthesia symbol: a dark grey infinity loop with two arrow-heads running along the lines // end i.d.]
Signal boost tags: @beyond-mogai-pride-flags @webby-mogai @radiomogai @mad-pride
I hope it was ok to tag everyone, above. It’s been a while since I did this, and most of the blogs I used to tag are deleted or inactive.
Black: in memoriam of the trans people whose lives were claimed by hatred.
Dark blue: the joy of finally discovering your true self
Magenta: making the choice to accept yourself no matter what, even if it means losing loved ones
Light blue: borrowed from the blue stripes in the transgender flag.
Pink: borrowed from the pink stripes in the transgender flag.
White (stripe only): borrowed from the white stripes in the transgender, genderqueer, and nonbinary flags.
The ouroboros, a snake that eats its own tail for all eternity, represents two things: the never-ending cycle of self-discovery we all experience as we learn and grow, and our inability — our refusal — to be stamped out of existence. It is scientifically impossible to eradicate us, no matter how hard some people will try.
Its single fang is a reminder that, whether we're fighting against dysphoria, fascism, or harmful myths about ourselves, we're not helpless to defend ourselves.
The stripes of this flag are warped and glitched out — by the ouroboros, as it slices through the white center — to symbolize the way we inherently challenge gender norms and society's expectations, pulling them apart at the seams and turning them back into thread, which we can weave a new tapestry with together. Before we can build a better foundation, we have to break free from the institutional restrictions that hold us back.
Okay so basically I’ve wanted to make this for a really long time, but didn’t know where to start. Since any discussion surrounding the slur ‘fag’ is inextricable from discussions about ‘dyke’ I felt that the best approach would be to directly mirror my dyke flag design.
black - power, strength, and freedom that comes with reclaiming ‘fag.’ also representative of any and all black mlm and black nonbinary achilleans who identify as fags, as they have always been the backbone of this community.
red - the history of ‘fag’ as a violent slur, then being transformed into a more positive identifier that many of us reclaim.
orange - strength in numbers, solidarity, and a sense of community, all fiercely dedicated to protecting vulnerable LGBTQ+ people from harm.
yellow - unapologetic love and support for LGBTQ+ men, regardless of attraction to men or lack thereof.
white (carnations; typically green) - became a queer symbol in 1892 (thanks to Oscar Wilde). wearing a green carnation on your lapel was a secret, subtle hint that you were a man who loved other men (since ‘fag’ is a slur most commonly associated with / used against mlm).
read more about the symbolism of green carnations
thank you for reading! 🧡
please feel free to use this flag in edits, icons, etc. (you don’t have to directly credit me, but I won’t stop you.)
so it was brought to my attention that while there’s a sapphic/wlw flag, a multitude of lesbian flags, and the labrys flag, there’s not really a dyke flag. (and don’t get me wrong, plenty of people in our community identify as dykes, but not every lesbian and/or sapphic is comfortable reclaiming dyke, so it’s important to make that distinction.)
I was asked to make this flag by the (other) mods of @DykeHistory on Twitter, please check out their awesome content!
black - power, strength, and freedom that comes with reclaiming dyke. also representative of any and all black wlw and black nonbinary sapphics who identify as dyke, as they have always been the backbone of this community.
purple - the bittersweet history of ‘dyke’ as a violent slur used against us becoming a positive identifier in our lives.
magenta - a never-wavering love for women (as attraction to and the desire to be with women in public is what gets us called “dykes” by homophobes on the street).
pink - inner peace. and acceptance of trans women.
white (labrys) - empowerment, justice, and intolerance of bigotry (we don’t welcome TERFs/TWERFs, butchphobes, femmephobes, bi/panphobes, lesbophobes, homophobes, racists, or any bigots. period).
Angled Aroace flags; now with actual angles, for all your queer-geometry-pun needs!
The angled aroace flag I used is this one,(link) by IAmArtemisTheCat.
Image descriptions in alt text and below the read more.
Bi-Angled Aroace
[p.t.: Bi-Angled Aroace // end p.t.]
Pan-Angled Aroace
[p.t.: Pan-Angled Aroace // end p.t.]
Ply-Angled Aroace
[p.t.: Ply-Angled Aroace // end p.t.]
Gay-Angled Aroace
[p.t.: Gay-Angled Aroace // end p.t.]
Lesbian-Angled Aroace
[p.t.: Lesbian-Angled Aroace // end p.t.]
Achillean-Angled Aroace
[p.t.: Achillean-Angled Aroace // end p.t.]
Sapphic-Angled Aroace
[p.t.: Sapphic-Angled Aroace // end p.t.]
Diamoric-Angled Aroace
[p.t.: Diamoric-Angled Aroace // end p.t.]
Plain-text image descriptions and boost tags below the cut.
[flag i.d. (1): bi-angled aroace (version 1): the angled-aroace flag with a chevron on the left-hand side resembling the bisexual flag; the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, off-white, tan, chocolate brown); the bi chevron has 3 stripes, with the middle being thinner than the rest (from left to right: navy blue, purple, hot pink) // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (2): bi-angled aroace (version 2): the bisexual flag and the angled aroace flag, split diagonally from upper right-hand corner to lower left-hand corner; the bisexual flag has 3 stripes, with the middle being thinner than the rest (from top to bottom: hot pink, purple, navy blue); the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, off-white, tan, chocolate brown) // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (3): pan-angled aroace (version 1): the angled-aroace flag with a chevron on the left-hand side resembling the pansexual flag; the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, off-white, tan, chocolate brown); the pan chevron has 3 even width stripes (from left to right: cyan, yellow, hot pink) // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (4): pan-angled aroace (version 2): the pansexual flag and the angled aroace flag, split diagonally from upper right-hand corner to lower left-hand corner; the pansexual flag has 3 even width stripes (from top to bottom: hot pink, yellow, cyan); the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, off-white, tan, chocolate brown) // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (5): ply-angled aroace (version 1): the angled-aroace flag with a chevron on the left-hand side resembling the polysexual flag; the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, off-white, tan, chocolate brown); the ply chevron has 3 even width stripes (from left to right: blue, green, hot pink) // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (6): ply-angled aroace (version 2): the polysexual flag and the angled aroace flag, split diagonally from upper right-hand corner to lower left-hand corner; the ply flag has 3 even width stripes (from top to bottom: hot pink, green, blue); the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, off-white, tan, chocolate brown) // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (7): gay-angled aroace (version 1): the angled-aroace flag with a chevron on the left-hand side resembling the gay (toothpaste) flag; the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, off-white, tan, chocolate brown); the gay chevron has 5 even width stripes (from left to right: navy blue, sky blue, white, mint, dark turquoise) // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (8): gay-angled aroace (version 2): the gay (toothpaste) flag and the angled aroace flag, split diagonally from upper right-hand corner to lower left-hand corner; the gay flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: dark turquoise, mint, white, sky blue, navy blue); the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, off-white, tan, chocolate brown) // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (9): lesbian-angled aroace (version 1): the angled-aroace flag with a chevron on the left-hand side resembling the lesbian flag; the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, off-white, tan, chocolate brown); the lesbian chevron has 5 even width stripes (from left to right: dark magenta, pink, white, light orange, red-orange) // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (10): lesbian-angled aroace (version 2): the lesbian flag and the angled aroace flag, split diagonally from upper right-hand corner to lower left-hand corner; the lesbian flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: red-orange, light orange, white, pink, dark magenta); the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, off-white, tan, chocolate brown) // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (11): achillean-angled aroace (version 1): the angled-aroace flag with a chevron on the left-hand side resembling the achillean flag; the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, off-white, tan, chocolate brown); the achillean chevron has 2 even width stripes (from left to right: off-white, sky blue) and a green carnation in the center of the off-white stripe // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (12): achillean-angled aroace (version 2): the achillean flag and the angled aroace flag, split diagonally from upper right-hand corner to lower left-hand corner; the achillean flag has 3 even width stripes (from top to bottom: sky blue, off-white, sky blue); the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, off-white, tan, chocolate brown) there is a green carnation in the center, over both flags // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (13): sapphic-angled aroace (version 1): the angled-aroace flag with a chevron on the left-hand side resembling the sapphic flag; the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, near-white pale pink, tan, chocolate brown); the sapphic chevron has 2 even width stripes (from left to right: near-white pale pink, pastel pink) and a violet in the center of the off-white stripe // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (14): sapphic-angled aroace (version 2): the sapphic flag and the angled aroace flag, split diagonally from upper right-hand corner to lower left-hand corner; the sapphic flag has 3 even width stripes (from top to bottom: pastel pink, near-white pale pink, pastel pink); the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, off-white, tan, chocolate brown) there is a violet in the center, over both flags // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (15): diamoric-angled aroace (version 1): the angled-aroace flag with a chevron on the left-hand side resembling the diamoric flag; the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, near-white pale pink, tan, chocolate brown); the sapphic chevron has 2 even width stripes (from left to right: white, mint) and a maroon myrtle flower in the center of the white stripe // end i.d.]
[flag i.d. (16): diamoric-angled aroace (version 2): the diamoric flag and the angled aroace flag, split diagonally from upper right-hand corner to lower left-hand corner; the diamoric flag has 3 even width stripes (from top to bottom: mint green, white, mint green); the angled aroace flag has 5 even width stripes (from top to bottom: golden yellow, pastel yellow, off-white, tan, chocolate brown) there is a maroon myrtle flower in the center, over both flags // end i.d.]
Signal boost tags: @imoga-pride @beyond-mogai-pride-flags @radiomogai
totally forgot to put these in the original lol, here. note if ur a fag & u dont feel like u have a connection to femininity and/or masculinity ur cool too this is just how i perceive the identity in general
