My Relationship Advice

Lisa Redfield's relationship advice and tips. Warning: This is just my personal advice and I am no expert!!

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12 Easy Ways to Know if He is Serious about You

12 Easy Ways to Know if He is Serious about You

The beginning of relationships are so darn confusing. You know you really like this guy. He is definitely courting you, being attentive and saying some of the things you crave to hear. But: Is he really into you? Is he serious about you? Is he planning to stick around? You want to know if he is serious about you, because you don’t want to make a fool out of yourself. You are afraid to open your…

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6 Secrets to Writing the Best Online Dating Profile

6 Secrets to Writing the Best Online Dating Profile

Could your online dating profile be keeping you from meeting the one? I know: You put up your online dating profile with a ton of hope and anticipation. Secretly you hope to finally meet “the one”…only to click through your messages disappointed again and again as only the WRONG kind of guys write to you. And it feels worse when you find out: 1.    That Over a THIRD of the couples who got married…

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How to Handle Your Long Distance Relationship (With HIM)

How to Handle Your Long Distance Relationship (With HIM)

Constantly getting jealous. Fearing that he’ll cheat on you, or that he’ll fall for someone else. Worrying that he’ll lose attraction. Running out of things to say. These feelings are only some of the things you have to deal with when you’re in a long distance relationship. Your mind questions whether it’s even worth it, But your heart can’t let go. Do you think it’s possible to “survive” a LDR?…

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How to Flirt with a Guy over Text (Plus 27 Examples)

How to Flirt with a Guy over Text (Plus 27 Examples)

Flirting with a guy over text is scary, isn’t it?

He can’t see, hear, smell or feel you at the moment. It feels like your entire existence is being judged by what and how you text.

You have to be your best self, or you won’t get another chance.

How can you be playful, witty, flirty and charming – In only 1 or 2 sentences?

How can you make him want more and more from you – While forgetting other…

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Should You Tell a Guy You Like Him (FIRST)?

Should You Tell a Guy You Like Him (FIRST)?

Do you feel like you’ll burst into flames if you don’t tell him you like him – Right now?

Do you spend hours analyzing the pros and cons of telling your crush that you like him?

Well, you should.

You should think long and hard before you take this irreversible step.

Because telling a guy you like him can go great (if he likes you too) or go extremely wrong (if he doesn’t feel the same).

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At my job we have different shifts throughout the week. I'm on Mondays, but most of my friends work on Fridays. I'm somewhat close friends with everyone on Fridays except this one girl who is 21 (I'm 18) the reason we are not close is because she is always super awkward and reserved when I'm there. I think it's because she thinks I like her (& she doesn't like me back) She IS really pretty but I do not have those feelings for her. How can I get through the weirdness and become her friend?

You can just go over and tell her that you have to tell her something.

Then just tell her that you think she is really pretty but you have NO intention of chasing her or asking her out and she has nothing to "fear" from you.

Try to do it in a funny way, and she'll get the message. You cam start the convo by telling her that everytime she sees you she looks like she's going to call 911 or something, say something funny to break the ice. O.k?

Good luck!

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How can you tell if you really like someone or if you just like the /idea/ of having that person in your life? I met this guy I really care about but idk if I like him as much as I thought I did... Could it be long distance getting to my head? Am I just subconsciously playing a game with both of our emotions? Aren't I supposed to feel like he's the best part of my day?

Well if it's subcondciously, the bad part about it is that you're not aware of it... right?

You have to listen to your intuition. Try to turn off your head and listen to your heart. I can't do that for you.

Good luck!

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Hii so i met this really nice guy at this club we danced, talked about feminism, he told me i was beautiful and that he was glad we met, and had a great time together, i asked his phone number and i do really want to talk to him but the only problem is that he is not phisically attractive so i'm not sure if i should start flirting with him or just think of him as a new friend. Sorry if my english is not good :)

You can always start out as friends and than later chance your mind. No rules against that...:)

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is it sexual tension if a guy stands really close to you because we both have to use the same sink (to wash our hands)?

It could be, yes.

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I recently started seeing a guy. We went out once and the Sparks were flying everywhere. We actually did it that night. I've never done that before but with him it was almost natural. He has a kid and is on good terms with his ex. Not too long after his boss told him that if he wants he can move 11 hrs away to set up a new site and then his ex told him that she still loves him.He said that he possibly may want to get back with his ex. But he needs time to think. Should I stay or call it quits.

Call it quits.

He is going to try and reconcile with his ex, which is the mother of his child.

It may not work, but you can't sit and wait for him to make a decision. If it doesn't work, he'll come back to chase you in no time.

But don't sit and wait, that's a huge turn off and not good for your self esteem either.

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PT.2 How do I stop being one of the guys and instead be a girl he would consider dating? It's not like I wear sweats and play basketball with them. I'm a girly girl but have just always been friends with the group. He's a new addition to the group though and he just took to their idea that I'm one of them. Sometimes it's cool and others it's really not!

Trust me, if you slept in the same bed with him he has already imagined everything that has to do with dating you.

He may not make a move on you because he thinks that you like someone else (you can just hint to him that you don't) or that other people in the group may not like him going after you (there's a big chance of that, by the way).

Just keep doing what you're doing, add some flirting and compliments, and give him time to figure you what to do about you.

Good luck!

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so, there's this guy. we hangout at parties together and he's really nice, I mean extremely nice. he just broke up with his gf and I've been helping him through it it's kind of brought us together. I know it's too soon to expect anything, but I've really started to like him. How do I let him know I like him but I'll wait til he's ready to date again? Or how do I know when he's ready to date again?

First of all, don't tell him that you like him. I'm sure he already knows. Trust me, when he is ready for a new relationship, he'll make a move and ask you out.

Patience, Just keep being his friend, support him and don't rush it, you may scare him away.

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anxgirl- uti or some infection because i do sometimes have smelly discharge? i have not told my bf why i am getting this procedure done but he is going with me to the dr. we both are convinced we are eachothers soul mates. i love him more than anything and i need him in my life. in case something does turn up after the procedure, do you think i should be scared of loosing him? or how should i break it down to him? what can i do here????

First of all I don't think you have anything to worry about. It's not a UTI in my opinion (but I'mk not a doctor obviously) it seems like a simple yeast infection to me, and as for your brother, herpes on the lips is not an STD, even if you cought it it';; only appear on your lips (when you're stressed) and not anywhere else.

In short, nothing much to worry about. And your soul mate is not going anywhere, don't worry about it:)

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PART TWO: I get confused because as good as everything can be for days, suddenly he'll call me 'mate' or 'buddy' and stop using emojis or not respond as soon (These are little things but I'm just trying to figure it out). But then when I see him in person things go back to playful flirting. Lately I was convinced he felt the same way his friends were giving subtle hints. But I've found out he's going on a date. I'm so confused about his feelings. But I dont want our friendship to change. Help :(

Well, that is confusing. He talks for hours with you every day and then goes on a date?

It seems like he still doesn't know how he feels about you and if you are his friend or more than that. Some people are just flirty by nature.

I would wait a little longer to see where it goes.

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I asked the guy I like to go with me to a wrestling meet recently and he was sick so he couldn't. Then I said we should hang out when he's feeling up to it, he said yes. He's been flirty this week so would it be okay to ask again this weekend?

Don't ask him, he already knows you want to, now wait for him to ask you.

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and then on new year's eve i asked him why he just didn't say he liked me. he replied with "i wasn't sure and i didn't want to come up to someone i hardly knew and tell them i don't like them in that way, and then find out you never liked me in the first place - which would have killed me of embarrassment." so i presumed that he didn't like me. was i right to presume that? [this isn't the end of the story btw] - (:

I don't understand: If you don't like him "that way" anymore and you just think of him as a friend, why would you care if he liked you than or likes you now?

I think that he may have started liking you, but these things take time to develop and he was rejected through a third party and didn't have a chance to develop more feelings for you. And now he is too embarrassed to tell the truth about anything.

That's what I think, But again, I don't get why you should care, since you don't like him anymore ...

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I need help! So a few months ago I started dating my best friend of 3 years. Our relationship is perfect. He's unlike any other guy, and I've been in enough relationships to know. But I am a minor and I live with my mother, and it's just not good for me (being with her). I live in Florida and my aunt in California said I could come live with her for a few months. 1. I don't know what to do 2. I don't know how to tell her no 3. I don't know if I should tell my boyfriend or not. Help!

So it's either living with your mother, which is not good for you, and having your boyfriend, or living with your aunt, which is better for you, but far away from your boyfriend.

It seems to me like you've already decided, since you want to know how to tell your aunt no.

Why don't you just tell you aunt that as much as you would love to accept her invite and you really appreciate it, you have a new bf that you're crazy about and don't want to be parted from?

She was in love too in her life you know, she'll understand.

Good luck!