look at them! they’re just a bottom!

nathan. 27. they/he. 18+ queers only. terfs can piss off.

[gendercensus]

2026 nonbinary name survey: results

While the big annual survey continues (until 13th August), I'm here to give you the results of the nonbinary name survey!

This is on the blog because it's technically a side survey for fun. The survey ran from 5th July to 3rd August, and there were 11,340 usable responses. You can see the spreadsheet of results here.

The required opening checkbox was intended to make sure that everyone fit the usual criteria:

Yes, I confirm that I don't really fit into just one of the two boxes of "always, solely and completely a woman/girl" or "always, solely and completely a man/boy".

Top 20 names

Alex (1.01%, 204 people)

Jay (0.69%)

Sam (0.51%)

Charlie (0.49%)

Robin (0.48%)

Rowan (0.41%)

Ash (0.40%)

Max (0.33%)

Lee (0.31%)

Eli (0.31%)

Kai (0.31%)

Moss (0.29%)

Quinn (0.28%)

Wren (0.28%)

Aster (0.28%)

Jamie (0.28%)

Kit (0.26%)

Jack (0.25%)

Morgan (0.25%)

Ari (0.24%, 49 people)

Here's that top 20 as a graph, for the visual-brained folks:

The gender intentions of 18 of the top 20 names was "gender-neutral"; the two exceptions were Eli and Jack, where people were more likely to be aiming for something more masculine.

Here's the last name survey I ran, in 2023. The design was quite different, but the top 4 were the same names in the same order. The top 10 are the same names in a different order, but with one change: last time Kit was in the top 10 (this year it's at #17), and this time Lee is in the top 10 instead (last year it was #20).

This time I gave participants three slots to enter names. 20,118 names were entered in total, of which 2,358 (about 12%) were entered more than once. 22% of participants used all three slots, which seems like a lot to me, and maybe if I do this again I should provide more slots.

There were 8 names in the top 100 where people entering that name were more likely than not to be keeping a birth name:

Hannah (93.8% of Hannahs were keeping a birth name)

Elizabeth (93.3%)

Emily (91.3%)

Anna (86.8%)

Sarah (84.4%)

Emma (84.2%)

Laura (80.8%)

Claire (75.0%)

On the flipside, there were seven names entered over 20 times that were exclusively chosen by the participants themselves:

Aster (56 participants)

Rain (39)

Crow (29)

Niko (25)

Nyx (24)

Elias (22)

Briar (20)

Here's a graph of the gender intentions of each name:

Of the names that were not given at birth, here are the gender intention options and their top 3 names in each:

Gender-neutral:

Riley (74.2%)

Quinn (70.2%)

Sasha (68.8%)

Nonbinary:

Echo (50.0%)

Moth (35.3%)

Mars (34.1%)

Feminine:

Luna (64.5%)

Alice (34.3%)

Willow (30.3%)

Masculine:

Oliver (75.6%)

Alexander (70.6%)

James (65.9%)

Which means, this time, we have achieved our goal and discovered that:

the nonbinariest name is Echo! (24 people, 0.12% of participants.)

the most common name among nonbinary people is Alex, with an incredible ~1 in 100 nonbinary people going by this name.

And finally, despite the stereotype that nonbinary names are all three characters long, the most common number of characters in all names entered (including every name entry counted individually, and including names entered only once) is 4 or 5. Here's a graph:

As promised, the full spreadsheet of results doesn't contain individual responses, and any name entered only once is left out of the list. This is because names are identifying information and I don't want to risk anyone accidentally outing themselves due to having a very unusual or unique name.

Here's the results spreadsheet link again. Enjoy!

[ Take part in the 2026 Gender Census before 13th August 2026 ]

Changelog:

2026-08-03: Updated "Gender intentions" graph due to dramatic miscount of blank entries. I was including the blank cells from people who hadn't even been taken to that page and hadn't seen the question!

[gendercensus]

The 2026 Gender Census is now open!

[ survey.gendercensus.com ]

The 13th annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 13th August 2026.

It’s short and easy, for most participants it takes 5 minutes or less.

After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.

If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks. Every share is extremely helpful!

Survey URL: https://survey.gendercensus.com

The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.

Thank you so much!

[ Link to survey ]

PS: You can see some regularly-updated statistics about incoming data here, with lots of demography and graphs to peruse!

PPS: Image credits, bark and grass.

[faeriefag]

"why suck a strap?" have we all forgotten the beauty of theatre? have we truly fallen so far as to think the mind mustn't be pleasured too?

[chainmailstrapon]

let's hear it for transmasc strap (check rbs)

[chainmailstrapon]

[pup-jpg]

Did you know? You can put him in a chokehold and feel him tense and go limp in your arms. And his hips buck feebly against the air. Food for thought.

[candied-nyams]

brain melting thinking about dry humping mmmm

coming up behind me for innocent back hug, gentle idle swaying until i realize they're actually also subtly grinding on my ass. they start feeling up my thighs and rock us back and forth, the friction through clothes enough to get them aroused. they hold my hip with one hand and start gently bumping their bulge against my ass, and we shuffle closer to a counter for stability as they continue to mock-fuck me. they grope and rub at my inner thigh with their other hand, and i grow wet from the anticipation of them touching me where i really want, and when they finally do press two fingers against my tcock through my pants, it feels so good i can't help but roll my hips against their fingers, and they groan from they way it makes me rub against their crotch. they press their fingers against me in pulses to match the rhythm of their increasingly rough grinding and humping. i whimper as they pump their invisible cock into me, listening to them grunt with every thrust. i can't stand how empty my cunt feels, and i beg and whine for them to fuck me until they eventually stop to grab my wrist and drag me to the bed, practically throwing me down on my back. i start to get excited and prepare to take my pants off, but before i can even get my fingers under the waistband, they've positioned themself between my legs, their bulge pressed against my cunt as they grab my hips to hold me in place as they dry hump me again, punctuating their words with hard thrusts that makes me whine and tremble "fuck you? sweetheart, why would i need to fuck you when i know just being this close to my cock is enough to get you off?"

[gunksh1t]

Having a boy in a muzzle whining and near tears as he tries eating me out through it, Arms tied because why would i make it easy for him? Pulling his hair and cooing “oh you can do better than that” and he's holding back sobs and sniffling as he uselessly slobbers all over my thighs and he can't even touch me or himself, poor thing

Shoving my fingers between the slots and into his mouth, and he desperately sucks and licks because it's all he can get

[gendercensus]

The 2025 Gender Census is now open!

[ Link to survey ]

The 12th annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 30th August 2025.

It’s short and easy, for most participants it takes 5 minutes or less.

After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.

If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks. Every share is extremely helpful!

Survey URL: https://survey.gendercensus.com

The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.

Thank you so much!

[ Link to survey ]

[gendercensus]

The 2025 Gender Census is now open!

[ Link to survey ]

The 12th annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 30th August 2025.

It’s short and easy, for most participants it takes 5 minutes or less.

After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.

If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks. Every share is extremely helpful!

Survey URL: https://survey.gendercensus.com

The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.

Thank you so much!

[ Link to survey ]

[deactivatedog]

UMMM pushing my cock into their mouth while they sleep and then the. The little surprised gasp and moan just vibrates through my whole body so I have to shove it all down their throat, I have to I'm sorry. I shouldn't even be straddling you I know but..but I have to, you're too cute, too sweet, your mouth was open while you slept and i got so hard so hold still. God. Fuck. Keep gagging like that. Keep trying to scream. It feels so fucking good.

[delawarensis]

ok thanks!

[boycorruption]

playfighting that ends with me pinned by my wrists and being stretched open on their cock

[subspaceemo]

I want a dom to make me wear my biggest packer out in public. The bulge in my jeans large and distracting, my legs forced open when we take a seat. "such a big boy, a thick cock like that is just begging for attention," they say as they palm me over my fly, grinding against the base of the silicone, rubbing my tdick hard, friction making me wet and needy while I try my best to keep my composure. I want them to squeeze my packer until I'm bucking against their hand. I want them to fondle my silicone cock until the scent of my precum is heavy in the air. I want them to edge me with my packer until I'm begging them to touch my cock, pleading for more friction. I want them to tease until they are so feral that they take me to the bathroom to unzip my fly and pull out the soft silicone, jerking off the flaccid shaft with a sympathetic look on their face. "it's okay, never mind, babe," they say as I buck into their hands as they put away the thick softness and I incoherently beg for more, "I'll keep touching and maybe you'll get nice and hard for me later." I whine with frustration but they start to squeeze and my brain starts to melt in the rhythm of their pulsing hand.

[greelin]

sorry. i zoned out while you were talking because i saw the tips of your fangs and got hit with a wave of fondness & lust so strong it almost made me nauseous. What were you saying

[subspaceemo]

CW: somno

"morning handsome, check your videos." the message reads. I open it to see my spread thighs, my wet boxers, my undulating hips as I grind uselessly at nothing. "look at that mess," their voice says, "he's so needy, I think he'll wake himself up." They brush their thumb over the outline of my cock and I groan, grinding up again them, "he needs some help," they comment as they tug my boxers down, spreading my folds to show the camera my fat cock, soaking hole, and the plug in my ass. "how did he expect to have a good night's sleep with this?" they tap the plug, "makes him such a desperate slut." They catch my cock between two fingers and begin tugging, watching me buck and moan against their hand has me slipping my hand into my boxers now. Fuck, I know exactly how good that feels. The noises my sleeping body makes are obscene and their movements become more feverish, "I think he needs something else inside him," they comment as they slide two fingers into my wet cunt, a groan escaping my slumbering lips as I start humping their hand, "That's a good boy, such a slut, getting double penetrated in his sleep." The camera gets closer to their hand as they push their fingers in and out, in and out, their fingers obscenely wet. My moaning builds and builds until I'm grunting, groaning, cumming on their hand with a whimpering yell. My hips grind slower as they pull their fingers out, wipe the mess on my cock, "hopefully that'll help him sleep." They turn the camera around to show their face and suck my taste off their fingers, "sweet dreams."

[littlelemoncheesecake]

being used like a toy while ur dom just repeats "good boy, such a good boy" over and over while they fuck into you harder and faster, holding you close and kissing all over your neck

READ MY DNI BEFORE YOU INTERACT

[tboywhimpers]

pro tip! if you command a transmasc to do something and call them a pretty boy, they will black out and do whatever you ask and soak through their underwear. hope this helps!