Squishes vs Crushes
Squishes: similar idea to having crush, just you want to be friends/closer friends
It took a close friend taking about her squishes several time before I realized that had them too. I had heard about squishes before, not just from my friend. But it took a long shower of worrying whether I had a crush on someone (while dating someone else) before I realized, this attraction was not romantic.
I once read somewhere that having a crush while dating someone meant that you weren't really in love with the person you were dating, that you weren't meant for each other. It really bothered me. Ive spent days worrying whether I really liked my boyfriend, or someone else.
But now I realize these "crushes" weren't really crushes; some were squishes all along.
This was a really important definition to make; not all of my attraction is romantic/sexual. As someone who shows affection to everyone (boys and girls) in a intimate, physical way (hugs, holding hands, messing w/ hair etc), I've often delt with people thinking I was "dating" my friends. But also, figuring how to explain to someone (who has a crush on me) that I did not like them say way, just thought them as a friend, yet I showed physical affection too, was hard until I learnt of squishes.
Just remember squishes are a thing,, and they're great!
