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You probably know it's me... Thank you, Liam. I have been put through absolute hell lately and I just needed help. I dont know if I deserve better than what's been happening but I like to wish that I do. I've been raped, betrayed, mocked, humiliated.. I lost my job and for the last four months this "boyfriends" parents have been telling me how shitty I am evedyday and how disappointed they are in their son for settling so low... I just want to know if wrong for being upset. Am I?

Don’t think for a moment that anyone could go through what you’re going through and not be upset. I think that you coming to me, and talking about it, shows incredible strength.

Your “boyfriend”‘s parent’s actions are incredibly disrespectful and unwarranted. For his parents to be concerned with their son “settling”, at your age, is ludicrous. They must have a very jaded view on relationships. Has he not spoken out to his parents in your defence?

Regardless of how your situation develops, and the decisions you make because of it, you will make it through. Keep your happiness at heart and don’t sacrifice it for someone who doesn’t respect your emotions.

When I confronted him about it he said that he was just really hurt about it and that's why he talked about it, but I still... I'm a bad person but I just.. it hurt me so deeply that there hasn't been a day that I could forget that it happened. I sometimes think I deserve it. I'm awful and I always have been but what happened was traumatic on its own and I feel absolutely disgusting, to add to it people know. People know about it. I feel so tainted and gross

I understand why he would want to talk about it, but that doesn’t mean he should have. At the very least, he should have asked whether you’d be okay with him talking about your situation with others. There’s also a variety of helplines he could have used to talk about it anonymously, without causing you to suffer through humiliation and judgement from your community. To me, it sounds like he didn’t put much thought into how his actions would affect you.

I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through, but to think that you’d deserve it is a crime within itself. You are not disgusting, nor tainted or gross. You are you. Nobody can change that.

I’m far from the best person to talk about this, so if you need help regarding your abuse, I suggest you try talking to someone more appropriate.

I was raped a month ago. I confided in my boyfriend who ended up telling almost everyone we knew and now even a simple trip to the grocery store I get laughed at and it's the most humiliating thing. Was he right for telling people something like that?

Regardless of the subject, it's wrong for someone to betray the trust given when you confide in them. He was in no position to tell anyone, let alone everyone.I can't imagine that you'd need to be told this, but you deserve better. Way better.I'm, frankly, disgusted that a society could ridicule a victim of such a hideous crime.