our-asexual-experience

[our-asexual-experience]

Hello! This is us a blog where you can share your asexual experiences, thoughts, ect. It’s based off of blogs like @our-queer-experience, @our-queerplatonic-experience, @our-aroace-experience, ect. So yeah, welcome aces!

This blog is run by three different mods.

Mod Cobalt, uses he/they.

Mod Kit, uses he/him

each mod will be tagged when they are posting!

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hi!! do any of you know any YouTubers or streamers or whatever in the ace spec? I know about Jaiden Animations but I'm sure there must be others I don't know

The only people I can think of (aside from Jaiden) is Shubble and Karl Jacobs.

(I swear I knew more ace creators than that)

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Starting to come to terms with my asexuality

I felt brave enough to put it in my bio!

Idk if that's big enough to classify as a win but oh well

That's definitely a win, congratulations!

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My asexual experience is sitting in my school's canteen when one of my friends asks "smash or pass" and I immediately say pass to everything and my friends not giving a shit bc they know I'm asexual XD.

Mood😭

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i just wanted to say i just figured out that im alloace and uh ive been looking for a label for myself for a while now so thats pretty cool

Congratulations‼️🎉

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mentions of sex

i think i may be aego, cupio, and demisexual. i only feel sexual atttraction to people i know really well but i also like reading smut n shit (also i kinda wanna sex......) also random question do the meanings of these labels contradict? i don't give a shit if they do im just wondering

-finally labeled anon

The terms don't contradict themselves (but contradicting terms are cool imo)

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is there a term for experiencing sexual attraction sometimes but not liking the fact that you do. like a brain vs the mind type thing

The closest term I know for this is lithosexual (you experience sexual attraction, but you don't have the urge to act on it). I suppose you could be somewhere on the aspec and are sex repulsed?

If anyone knows, feel free to reply/reblog with answers

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i just experienced aphobia from someone close to me. I don't feel good

I hope you're doing better anon🫂

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my asexual experience is when I told my mom that I was ace and she said “no one should be having any sexual things at your age” (I’m a minor) and made me feel so incredibly invalid

and yesterday she found my asexual pin:

Idk how to make it smaller sorry!

Invalidating parents aren't fun to deal with, I'm sorry about that🫂

(side note that pin looks really cool)

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my asexual experience was always thinking sex was made up for fantasy like superheros.

and then when i realized it wasn’t, it just became a joke to me.

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Hi sorry, mod Niko here, I know I haven't been very active on this blog but I figured I'd make a post saying I will be leaving the blog

I enjoy this community and seeing all of your asks, but I just haven't had the time or energy to ask them for a long time</3

Hoping the community around this blog continues to grow strong! :>

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I'm Asexual Biromantic. One time, trying to come out to my mom as ace, I brought up asexuality and said I thought I might be ace. She simply replied, "No you're not. You like [crushes name]. Made me question it again for a while.

🫂

(dismissive parents are the worst, I'm sorry you had to experience that anon)

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My ace experience is my parents telling me ‘That may change…’ when I kept saying I wasn’t interested in sex throughout middle school and high school.

I have now graduated from college for a couple of years and work full-time.

It in fact has not changed.

ME FOR REAL

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Hey aces!!! i just found out I’m cupiosexual (rahhh!!!) but only for people who are women/femme-presenting… does anyone know if there is a term for this? Xx

You could be cupiosexual and sapphic/a lesbian at the same time!

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I enjoy the idea of sex, but the idea of doing it myself is nauseating. I can get enjoyment from suggestive material and still, I will never want to have sex. I know I likely fit under a different label, but honestly? I like just being Asexual. It makes me happy.

Umbrella terms my beloved

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i think i might be asexual but i'm doubting myself a LOT rn 😓

the reason because I am hypersexual and often feel a lot more sexual attraction towards fictional characters

but i realized that i don't feel any sexual attraction towards my actual irl crushes, like none at all, and a friend of mine said that maybe i was asexual?

i thought about it for a while but im truthfully starting to doubt myself because with fictional characters and my hypersexuality but i always heard that fictional characters don't really count but i still have no idea 😭

i just wanted to ask because ive been thinking about this for weeks noe

I don't know much about ace microlabels, but you could possibly be fictosexual? Fictosexuality describes those who experience sexual attraction to fictional characters exclusively and not to real people.

(I couldn't think of a good transition sentence for this but our-hyperace-experience is a great resource for hypersexual ace folks, from what I've seen)

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I'm an asexual trans man, and whenever I'm with my platonic partner (we are in a queer platonic relationship), people think we're dating. Whenever I try to tell them, they think/respond like this: A. "You two would make such a great couple" B. They think we're making sh!t up C. "Is that another way of saying boyfriend??" Anyone can have a QPR, not just aromantics, and I wish some people would get it... My platonic partner (who is also a trans man) and I are so sick of it.

This is kind of the reason why I won't come out as asexual, I'm probably going to lose it if I have to go through this sh!t again.

I'm in a QPR too, and while (almost) no one irl knows, the people I've told online have been great

I hope you find someone who isn't gonna be a dick about it 🫂