The Archiving of This Blog
Featuring an Explanation of Recent and Ongoing Events
DISCLAIMER No.1 : I am not leaving; I am moving blogs. I am restarting my blog. This means I am changing how I run it, making what I hope to be better, meaningful choices in how I interact with others moving forward. I will make a separate post for people to interact with if they wish to remain mutuals, but be aware, it will take time for me to get around to following people.
DISCLAIMER No.2 : I am going to err on the side of 'benefit of the doubt' here. For the do-no-good blogs out there watching everything I post, even now after all this time... Stols is NOT harassing me and never has. Am I being harassed? Yes. But it's not Stols, and I'd like to think it isn't anyone I've ever crossed paths with. Whether or not my hopes hold true, I cannot tell you for certain. I don't have live footage or a neon sign of proof to show you. I can only hope people will eventually hold themselves accountable and do better.
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I like to believe in and look for the best in people. I am also vividly aware of how dangerous and exhausting that is / can be. This is fine! I have always lived this way and while it is a great fault of mine, I've always believed the world could do with more kindness in it. This means that I have a lot of patience, too, and usually a great head on my shoulders when it comes to understanding differing perspectives, and creative problem-solving.
That being said... Even I eventually run out of patience.
It was one thing to receive repetitive messages about the same old things, but it is another to begin receiving anons about a very specific conversation and scenario that was privately discussed and only a small handful of people are or previously were aware of. I am talking about very specific word choices here.
The parting of ways between friends and writing partners is nothing new to any of us, and was, from what I know of, amicably done and agreed upon. I will not speak for my partner, as he has a voice of his own, but I will say, he does everything with good intentions and a reason. As do I.
Speaking of my partner...
ATL TEXT: From an anonymous sender, the message reads "hopefully you can talk to your lover about their behavior it will do them some good thank god you are with them anyone else will burn out"
You do not know my partner, and you do not know me. And if you know either of us, then we have an even larger issue here with the fact that you would hide behind an anonymous ask and send such shameful messages.
People are, once again, attempting to insert themselves into our relationship - which, by the by - does not concern the likes of anyone! Not only that, but both my lover and I are responsible adults capable of making our own decisions and taking accountability for them.
"their behavior" - as far as I am aware, I am not his parent, guardian, or keeper, AND I am damned proud of him most days (when he drinks water and makes good choices for themselves).
Or are you talking about this:
Maybe because I don't disagree with the sentiment, or at least have some knowledge as to what was said and how it sounds. And again, perhaps it wasn't meant ill-mannered, but it is the same cloying use of words, the way in which things were said, which rubs a person raw. Besides that...names weren't used, so why are you pressed? Your day should have continued just fine as it is.
If you think I am cruel, shallow, rude, or some helpless little fawn at the clutches of a grand manipulator, you are horribly mistaken. And to all but the last (being a helpless fawn), if you truly need someone to hate, to bang your firsts against, I raise you this:
So at long last, we come to this....
It is up to you to make your own assumptions of the integrity of my character and whether or not you wish to continue interacting / being friends. Just as it is up to me to curate my own space(s), as I am doing now.
Thank you for the fun and the memories. This blog has had a great run, and technically isn't dead! I kept the url, but am moving things and adjusting my interactions as I see fit and comfortable to do so.
If you've read this far and have any questions or concerns, you know how to reach me. But ultimately, I would like you to make your own decisions about how to move forward, with or without more information.
Your Exhausted Friend,
Faust
P.S. If it wasn't obvious, I do not and will never condone the act of sending anyone negative anonymous messages. Blocking and reporting does no good when either tumblr Staff doesn't do anything or the person has burner accounts. I've been at this game on and off for over a year now.
