I wanna rant about what ive been calling "the death of personal taste" with media. It might have an actual name but this is what I call it.
Why do i call it "the death of personal taste"? This is because it seems to have become the norm that people cannot express that they personally dislike something in/about a piece of media without it also being that the thing they dont like is inherently bad/wrong either morally or as an artistic choice.
If we are in a clothing store together and I point to a pair of trousers and say "I really like those but i wish they had less yellow in the pattern" you know that im not saying that the pants are inherently wrong or bad as they are. You know I'm not saying that this version shouldn't exist. You know that I am saying that they dont fit my personal taste and I wish there was a version that had a pattern I liked more.
But when it comes to media personal taste seems to have stopped being a thing, especially if its related to depictions of sex. I cant say "I personally would have liked this book more if there was less sex" without the assumption being that i think books with a lot of sex shouldn't exist. I cant say "I found the main character of this movie really annoying" without the assumption being that I think the whole movie is bad.
But along with that is not only the assumption that the opinion also includes thinking a thing is bad or shouldn't exist but also that the opinion includes thinking anyone who disagrees is bad/wrong.
These assumptions exist for a reason though, and thats because peoples behavior has driven them. People do often, more so now than ive seen any other time in my life, genuinely act as though what is actually just their personal taste is the only correct opinion on a piece of media or even media as a whole.
My friends, who did not used to be this way, can no longer reasonably communicate the difference between "I didnt like this movie because [blank]" and "the movie is objectively bad because [blank]" when we talk about books/movies/tv shows.
I no longer even feel comfortable talking to my friends about any movie/show i watched between the last time we talked because when they ask if it was good I have to talk around it. I have to be careful to say "I enjoyed it" and not something like "it was pretty good". I have to be ready to give a rundown of every possible thing they could find wrong with it so that I dont have to hear them tear apart this thing i enjoyed later more harshly and with the, unintentional as it might typically be, implication that I was stupid for enjoying my time watching the thing.
I cant tell them about a book I read where the characters that are not villains are not morally pure without them feeling the need to remind me, as if I am unaware, that those things are bad in real life. "Oh the books about two immortals both over 800 hundred years old where one searches across the world for the other for 100 years? Well obviously we need to make sure that [OP] knows that in real life that would be stalking and creepy and not ok because [OP] couldn't possibly have enjoyed it already being well aware of that"
And the thing is, my friends like movies that have plot holes or some questionable quality writting choices and books with morally gray characters and protagonists that sometimes do bad things (I mean fuck one of them reads dark romance and I mean really dark) and are fully able to understand nuance when it comes to themselves and these pieces of media but when someone else does suddenly the other person has to be lectured like a child about what is and isnt "good [media]", which is inherently subjective, and what is and isnt ok in the real world that was shown in fiction, which is common sense to the overwhelming majority of humans (including children above the age of like 5).
They arent only doing this to me, to be clear. They do it to each other and everyone ends up pissed off because no one seems to want to admit that most if it is personal taste and not objective.
Because nothing with media can just be personal taste anymore. Everything has to have some deeper reason. It has to be Morally Correct or somehow otherwise Objectively True. Nothing can just be "i happen to like/dislike this thing" it has to be "this thing is Objectively good/bad and if you dont agree we have to argue about it"