[paras-doxical]

Hi! I'm Vash, and this is my para blog. I use any neos along with they/it. I am an adult.

I am the creator of the term paraqueer.

I am strictly anti-contact for any paras that would nonconsensual if acted upon. Children and animals can never consent.

I have multiple paras, and I am neurodivergent.

My 'DNI'/stances explanation

Pro-contact, contact neutral, or contact complex - children and animals cannot consent.

I consider myself a radinclu and am a mspec gay. If you exclude mspec lesbians/gays or lesboys/turigirls, you probably won't like my account. I also include all aspecs, not limited to: aromantics, asexuals, folks who don't use the split attraction model, loveless folks, aplatonics, alloaros, aroaces, alloaces, oriented and angled aroaces, aspec paras, and any others I may have forgotten.

I am anti harassment. If you harass people for their ships or believe it's okay to do so, you will get blocked.

If you are anti kink or kink critical—why are you interacting with this blog? You can't support paraphiles but not kinksters.

If you are a radqueer, I would feel more comfortable if you didn't interact. Not every radqueer is a bad person, but so many of them are and do not respect boundaries or excuse others who are doing bad things. If you are willing to learn, you may interact with this account.

TransID skeptical—I am willing to talk about TransID alternatives, but please don't bring discourse about TransIDs onto this account.

If you are pro-IRL consang (consensual incest), please do not interact with me for my own comfort

'Narcissistic abuse' does not exist. PwNPD are not secretly abusers and do not have a special way of abusing others that cannot be described in other terms, such as emotional abuse.

[paras-doxical]

Paraqueer

[ID: Two nearly identical flags. The flag has nine stripes, with all of them except for one being the same width. The middle stripe is twice as large as the other stripes. The stripe colors are: dark blue, dark green, yellowish green, off-white, pale sea green, off-white, yellowish green, dark green, and dark blue. The second flag has the symbol of a turtle over top, its silhouette in black. End ID]

What is paraqueer?

Paraqueer is inherently pro paraphilia and anti contact. It is a term meant be used by queer paraphiles. You can only use this term if you are queer and a para.

Paraqueers understand the importance of consent and are strictly anti contact for any paras that would be nonconsensual or harming to others if acted upon. They know that children and animals can never consent.

Paraqueers know that they can be proud of their paras without harming other people, and they support other paras. Paraqueers also support recovery for those who desire it and finding coping mechanisms. They understand that thought crimes do not exist.

Paraqueers know that paraphilias do not necessarily make them queer; however, their paraphilias can interact with their queer identities.

Turtle and mountain emojis can be used as symbols for paraqueers. (🐢⛰️) (🏞️🐢) (🏔️🐢), (🐢🗻), etc.

Paraqueers support:

Anti-contact

Kink

Sex workers

Plurality/Systems

"Contradictory" labels

Mspec lesbians/gays

Lesboys and turigirls

Neopronouns, xenogenders, and neurogenders

Those who are aspec, including aplatonic

Freaks and weirdos

Polyamory

Disabled people

Body inclusivity

Self-shipping

Informed self-diagnosis

People with personality disorders (including NPD, ASPD, BPD, etc)

People with mental disorders/who are mentally ill

Neurodivergency

Stigmatized disorders

Accessibility

Fictionkin/Otherkin/Therian/Alterhuman/etc

Cringe/being authentic

Solidarity

Identities they do not understand

Paraqueers are against:

Pro contact/contact neutral/contact complex/anyone who claims that children or animals can consent

Minors in kink

Purity culture/anti sex beliefs

Exclusionism

Gatekeeping

Censorship

Ableism

Fatmisia

Abuse and grooming

Harassment

Bullying

Shaming

[transiota]

Reminder that pro-para sentiments do not harm survivors, pro-para sentiments do not "glorify abuse", and pro-para sentiments ARE helpful for those with OCD and intrusive thoughts.

Your thoughts do NOT make you a bad person, your attractions do NOT make you inherently abusive. And yes this does include scary things like MAPs, zoos, and more.

[ i am anti-c. please respect that & dni if you are pro-c or supportive. ]

[paras-doxical]

"I'm anti-contact but I watch/view gore videos"

IRL gore necessitates harm to others, most of the time nonconsensual. It is not comparable to horror movies, where no one is actually being harmed

[paras-doxical]

Anti-consang incestophile

[ID: Two flags with seven stripes: dark grey blue, grey blue, pale sea green, off-white, peach, dark rose pink, and dark mauve. The second flag has a black graphic of two crossed swords in the center of it. End ID]

A flag for incestophiles who are also anti-consang. Crossed swords can be used a symbol. ⚔️

(Consang = Consensual Sanguinamory = Consensual (IRL) incestuous relationships)

This should go without saying, but this is also against nonconsensual incest as well. This also isn't referring to incest in fictional works, as the fictional characters do not actually exist and cannot be harmed.

Please do not put my terms on radqueer archives. This is an anti contact, anti-consang flag.

THIS IS ANTI-CONSANG

[PT: This is anti-consang]

Sword graphic under cut

[ID: A black graphic of two crossed swords. End ID]

[paras-doxical]

you're not anti-contact if you support minors making or distributing sexual materials of themselves, especially to adults. this is still CSEM and contact.

[paras-doxical]

Genderqueer + Paraqueer

[ID: Two nine stripe flags. The middle stripe is wider than the others. The stripes are: lavender, blue-grey, mauve, off-white, pale sea water blue, off-white, yellowish-green, green, and forest green. The second flag has the symbol of a turtle over top, its silhouette in black. End ID]

A combination of the genderqueer and paraqueer flags! ⛰️🐢

[parabun]

✧ eclipse para :: a flag/term for paraphiles who don't take shit from non-paras and paramisics and stand up for themselves and their community.

eclipse paraphiles want to see paraphiles be liberated (not in the sense of allowing problematic contact to happen) and don't bend over backwards or throw eachother under the bus to appeal to non-paraphiles.

eclipse paraphiles are anti-assimilationism. they are also profiction and pro-roleplay and any other coping mechanisms and any other coping mechanisms that one may use as a harmless alternative to contact.

(consider us the "mean lesbians" of the para community. also calling yourself an eclipse para doesn't mean you can't also be another para sublabel, unless the para sublabel contradicts the values of eclipse para and i won't be making eclipse alternatives of existing paraphilia flags.)

pro-contacts, radqueers and radpara this is not your flag.

[paras-doxical]

[ID: Two seven-stripe flags. Near-black dark purple is harm reduction; dark grey is education; dark purple is community; off-white is solidarity with survivors; orangish yellow is self-acceptance; orange is anti-abuse; and red is protecting paraphiles. End ID]

[Plain text: pro-contacts, radqueers and radpara this is not your flag. /End Plain Text]

[paras-doxical]

Paraqueer turtle

[ID: A graphic showing the black silhouette of a turtle. End ID]

Here is the turtle symbol used on the paraqueer flag! 🐢

[paras-doxical]

Heeeey can’t I really follow you for being pro-c even if I’m minor??!? :( your blog is very cooool /gen

children and animals can not consent. 🐢 am concerned for your safety if you are surrounded by adults who say that children can consent to sexual contact with adults. 🐢 hope you are able to leave these spaces and find groups that are supportive of paras without condoning abuse. if you are genuinely trying to leave these spaces, you are welcome here, but not if you are insistent that these beliefs are okay and unwilling to change. 🐢 do not want abuse apologists to follow 🐢

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Rainbow + Paraqueer

[ID: Two nine stripe flags. The middle stripe is wider than the others. The stripes are: red, orange, yellow, off-white, turquoise, off-white, green, blue, and purple. The second flag has the symbol of a turtle over top, its silhouette in black. End ID]

A combination of the rainbow and paraqueer flags! ⛰️🐢

[paras-doxical]

Nonbinary + Paraqueer

[ID: Two nine stripe flags. The middle stripe is wider than the others. The stripes are: dark yellowish green, yellowish green, yellow, off-white, purple, off-white, daark purple, dark green, and greenish black. The second flag has the symbol of a turtle over top, its silhouette in black. End ID]

A combination of the nonbinary and paraqueer flags! ⛰️🐢

[paras-doxical]

Pansexual + Paraqueer

[ID: Two nine stripe flags. The middle stripe is wider than the others. The stripes are: plum, a slightly paler plum, coral pink, off-white, greenish yellow, off-white, pale turquoise, teal, and dark teal. The second flag has the symbol of a turtle over top, its silhouette in black. End ID]

A combination of the pansexual and paraqueer flags! ⛰️🐢

[paras-doxical]

Asexual + Paraqueer

[ID: Two nine stripe flags. The middle stripe is wider than the others. The stripes are: near-black gray, a dark greenish gray, pale gray, off-white, cool gray, off-white, purple, dark purple, and even darker purple. The second flag has the symbol of a turtle over top, its silhouette in black. End ID]

A combination of the asexual and paraqueer flags! ⛰️🐢

[paras-doxical]

Gay + Paraqueer

[ID: Two nine stripe flags. The middle stripe is wider than the others. The stripes are: forest green, green, mint green, off-white, pale sea water green, off-white, ice blue, dark ocean blue, and dark blue. The second flag has the symbol of a turtle over top, its silhouette in black. End ID]

A combination of the ocean gay and paraqueer flags! ⛰️🐢

[paras-doxical]

Trans + Paraqueer

[ID: Two nine stripe flags. The middle stripe is wider than the others. The stripes are: dark cyan, cyan, pale pink, off-white, peach, off-white, pale pink, cyan, and dark cyan. The second flag has the symbol of a turtle over top, its silhouette in black. End ID]

A combination of the trans and paraqueer flags! ⛰️🐢

[paras-doxical]

Lesbian + Paraqueer

[ID: Two nine stripe flags. The middle stripe is wider than the others. The stripes are: a burnt reddish orange, a burnt orange, cantaloupe orange, off-white, peach, off-white, mauve, pale plum, and plum. The second flag has the symbol of a turtle over top, its silhouette in black. End ID]

A combination of the lesbian and paraqueer flags! ⛰️🐢