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🌼 After my long illness, I arose/From where I had lain too long abed/I returned to the land of the nearly-living/From the heaven of the nearly-dead 🐌 host is 23 🎶 I feel validated if you reblog my vent posts go ahead

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It would be cool to die of carbon monoxide poisoning actually

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No wonder I can't reparent my fucking inner child when the disgusting bitch should have died and won't leave me alone and keeps making me feel terrible!!!

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"Karlen and her colleagues had expected that hostile/intrusive behavior on the part of the mothers would be the most powerful predictor of mental instability in their adult children, but they discovered otherwise. Emotional withdrawal had the most profound and long-lasting impact. Emotional distance and role reversal (in which mothers expected the kids to look after them) were specifically linked to aggressive behavior against self and others in the young adults."

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"Karlen’s research showed that dissociation is learned early: Later abuse or other traumas did not account for dissociative symptoms in young adults.40 Abuse and trauma accounted for many other problems, but not for chronic dissociation or aggression against self. The critical underlying issue was that these patients didn’t know how to feel safe."

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"[Lyons-Ruth] found a “striking and unexpected” relationship between maternal disengagement and misattunement during the first two years of life and dissociative symptoms in early adulthood."

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"Some of them, called RA cells, have been activated by past exposure to toxins; they quickly respond to environmental threats they have encountered before. The RO cells, in contrast, are kept in reserve for new challenges; they are turned on to deal with threats the body has not met previously. The RA-to-RO ratio is the balance between cells that recognize known toxins and cells that wait for new information to activate. In patients with histories of incest, the proportion of RA cells that are ready to pounce is larger than normal. This makes the immune system oversensitive to threat, so that it is prone to mount a defense when none is needed, even when this means attacking the body’s own cells."

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"Generally the rational brain can override the emotional brain, as long as our fears don’t hijack us.... But the moment we feel trapped, enraged, or rejected, we are vulnerable to activating old maps and to follow their directions."

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"Change begins when we learn to “own” our emotional brains. That means learning to observe and tolerate the heartbreaking and gut-wrenching sensations that register misery and humiliation. Only after learning to bear what is going on inside can we start to befriend, rather than obliterate, the emotions that keep our maps fixed and immutable."

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"Rage that has nowhere to go is redirected against the self, in the form of depression, self-hatred, and self-destructive actions."

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"Generally the rational brain can override the emotional brain, as long as our fears don’t hijack us.... But the moment we feel trapped, enraged, or rejected, we are vulnerable to activating old maps and to follow their directions."

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I hate myself and I wanna fucking die dude lol