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[phati-sari]

Welcome to Phati Sari!

This is my space to fangirl over bitwa and his sanka devi :) If you’ve found me then chances are that you already love them as much as I do!!

Things you need to know:

This blog is full of spoilers!!

I live in Australia

I’m obsessed with potatoes

Please read the FAQ, everything in the greatest hits tag, and search the blog before submitting a question. Oh, and this post might be useful too :)

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[phati-sari]

Hello hi PS!

Make me understand this - This ASR locking up an 18 year girl in a room the entire night, physically assaulting her and ruining her reputation by releasing tapes only because he thinks she is some spy from rival companies and defending herself in the face of his accusations. That is how ruthless and merciless he is.

But after getting kidnapped, his will being tampered with and almost being burned alive, this ASR kicks Shyam out of Shantivan and that’s just about it? He doesn’t even try to get this man in jail, gather evidence or at least keep a track on him or find the goons who kidnapped him and almost killed khushi. He only decides to get a restraining order after Anjali's miscarriage. Why is he so inefficient in every family crisis?

His brain works best at how to punish, trap and torture Khushi only, other than that anyone can very easily setup hidden cameras in his home, attempt to murder him or his family members, his ex can walk in with a mini clone of him also named ASR and he'll mingle with them enthusiastically in front of his wife. The show may have ended with a happily ever after but we all know Arnav will consistently repeat his toxic pattern of abuse and indifference throughout his married life. This guy at some point is bound to cheat on his wife given his lifestyle and being a millionaire will attract more girls like Sheetal or worse kinds. We root for ASR only because of Barun. Barun is genuinely a good soul and a very loyal husband, so we overlook that ASR is a RED FLAG🚩

My inbox is not a place to rant.

And I'm not sure who the "we" is referring to but I've never shied away from calling out Arnav's abusive behaviour and certainly do not overlook it.

[phati-sari]

Hello hi PS. Hope you're doing well. LOVE your blog. So I have a doubt regarding the surnames. So Gupta is ofcourse a very common surname in UP which Khushi has. Well and good, but Raizada is Punjabi surname. How is Arnav a Raizada? Malik, Arnav's father's surname, also makes sense as Malik's are Jats of UP. But Raizada doesn't make sense at all, as they are strictly Punjabis.

Hello and happy new year :)

I am so glad you like the blog!

Hahahaha, since Arnav and Anjali's nana is canonically Rudra Pratap Singh, there's no explanation of why everyone goes by Raizada now. For funsies?

As for how a Raizada married a Malik - Devyani (Arnav's nani) and Subadhra (Arnav's dadi) were friends when they were younger. Presumably, they arranged a marriage between their children.

As a side-note, it's also unclear whether Gupta was Khushi's surname from birth (and it just happened to match Shashi's surname), or whether she took on Gupta after adoption and we never found out what names her birth parents had.

[phati-sari]

hi hope you're doing well. Did they ever reveal Khushi's mother name in the show? Her father's name was Tej something but what about her mother(biological)??

Hello!

Neither of Khushi's biological parents are named in the serial.

Arnav's mother is Rathna. His father was not named in the serial.

[phati-sari]

Do you have episodes of tu Aashiqui Ahaan and pankti

Nope!

[paobhaji]

“How do I look away now that I have seen you” - Rachel Mennies, The Naomi Letters

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[phati-sari]

Hi Phati Sari. Good morning.

How are you doing?

I wanted to know if you ever continued Rishtaa. I saw on fan fiction.net and wattpad that it was on hiatus and that was about 7 years ago?

Hello!

Thank you for sending a message about RISHTAA. Yeah, I haven't written for years. Life took too many unexpected turns! I hope to return to it one day, there's only one arc left in the story and it was the best one (in my humble opinion). Sorry for any disappointment!

[phati-sari]

Hello phati sari... How are you doing ? I wish you nothing less of joy and laughter and beyond as i write this.... Heaven knows i was laughing so foolishly reading every bit of how you described Shyam in every episode recap related to him. Fun fact : I intend to start using similar vocabularies with individuals just like Shyam i meet in real life. Just curious and felt like asking " Are you Indian? " though you made mention of living in Australia but from your extreme knowledge of Indian culture i want to believe you are Indian. I am sorry if i am wrong. I'm sorry for your live long disease and all you had to go through prior to your reacap haitus and i wish you all the happiness and laughter you need to continuing being amazing and how much you've directly and indirectly impacted people with your works including myself . Stay happy and resume the recap whenever you feel like even if you never do ( i will be among those who gets sad but then you owe nobody an special explanation ) Goshhh it seems i wrote a lot of sorries.

Hello!

I am ethnically and culturally Indian yes. Hindi is my first language.

Thanks for the sweet message, I really appreciate it :) It's very sweet of you. I'm always in awe of the way this blog has been received by folks, people are just so kind and sweet and we have the most wonderful community here on Tumblr.

I've been okay! I hurt myself recently so I've spent a month at home. My friends have been coming over and helping weekly. It is nice to be surrounded by love, but I miss being able to do things myself. Extremely disempowering!

Take care, and thanks again!

[phati-sari]

Hello PS,

I recently came to know about your blog!! I have watched IPKKND when I was 28 years old... re- watching again in 2025!! The feelings are same! This show means a lot to me! The only Hindi series that I ever loved and till today love to see.

Thanks a lot for the wonderful works!

Hello!

Thanks for stopping by! I am super glad you're enjoying the blog :) I have never loved any serial as much as I love IPKKND!

[phati-sari]

Hey Phati Sari! Is there a spot I can find the "Fun Facts?" I noticed you tagged fun fact 121 in one of the below posts. Thank you and hope you are well!

Hello!

Haha all the fun facts have their own tag. You can see them here. I'm not sure if the link works on mobile but it definitely works on desktop.

The fun facts are numbered randomly, so there aren't actually 100+ of them.

[phati-sari]

Hi Phati Sari,

How are you first of all? Hope you are doing fine. I have very recently come across your page and I'm so in love with it. I love reading your recaps along with your thoughts atp, cant wait to explore your fanfiction part as well. I already feel like we are best friends, <3. Take Care.

-Priya.

Hi Priya :)

Welcome!! I am so glad you're enjoying the blog! I'm not super active anymore but I try to hop on now and then!

Thanks for the sweet message :)

[phati-sari]

Hi Phati-Sari! I recently was watching IPKKND and came across your blog. It has been absolutely amazing to read your analysis as you’ve observed so many details that I totally missed.

I was fascinated by the post you wrote about Shyam and Arnav being two sides of the same coin. We see that in canon, Shashi on the first meet is pretty much grateful to Shyam(the one where Shyam rescues them from the goons) and then starts becoming wary afterwards as he think so many meetings with the same guy isn’t really a coincidence. He follows his instincts and is always rightfully suspicious of Shyam. So I was wondering if Arnav met Shashi(before the paralysis), do you think Shashi would be suspicious of Arnav? I don’t think Shashi knows how many times Arnav and Khushi have crossed paths for him to come to that conclusion. But considering Arnav and Shyam are similar characters, do you think Shashi would have treated them the same way?

I couldn’t help but wonder how the relationship between Shashi and Arnav would have been had Shashi not been paralyzed. I know that you don’t really answer what-if questions so you don’t have to answer this question either. Thanks for sharing your wonderful insights and analysis. I hope you have a good day!

Heylo!

o0o0o0o0o I don't answer what-if questions but this is something I think about a lot. We were deprived of Arnav-Shashi interactions. I like to think that Shashi would have been immediately distrustful of Arnav because he'd see how odd it is for Khushi's weirdly young millionaire boss giving her so much attention AFTER she literally fell into his arms. And I would love to see Arnav actually having to earn respect and love from Khushi's family (sort of like Bua-ji after marriage). Bitwa would be fine, but I would have liked to watch him squirm.

I think the initial reaction to both Shyam and Arnav would be similar. But I can imagine the tracks where Shashi tries to work out what's happening with both these men and accidentally seeing Shyam bribing clients and accidentally seeing Arnav support orphans and homeless people?

One thing to note is that Arnav is desperate for a father-figure in his life. Having taken up the mantle of 'man of the house' at fourteen, Arnav is always looking for someone who can fill that void for him. That's why he treats Shyam the way he does -- Jija-ji is an untouchable, revered figure in his life. So I like to think that Shashi and Arnav would get along extremely well because they are both exactly what the other needs -- Shashi needs sons in law like Aakash and Arnav who are steady like him and worship his daughters, and Arnav needs a clear-headed but fair father figure.

[phati-sari]

Hi PS, i hope you are doing very well. Hey this one question has been bugging me for days. We still remember IPKKND so fondly after so many years. Why can’t makers get their act together and make something even better. They have to get two really good looking leads who can emote, put funny sequences and a love story line together.. why do they keep feeding us this saas bahu crap And even the romantic serials are so blah, so regressive.. is that really so hard? Thanks and TC!

Hi hi!

I'm doing okay! Hope you are also well.

Honestly, I think they are trying, and have tried. 4Lions in particular has been trying since IPKKND. But in the end, the production houses make what's popular and what's easy. Sometimes that means saas-bahu serials. I've talked a bit about the Indian TV industry here and about the appeal of IPKKND here.

I know the tone of your message is flippant and you don't mean it literally, but the truth is that it's difficult to recreate the magic that is IPKKND. It's not just the actors and the dialogue and comedy. It's the directing, the costuming, the sets, the lighting, the story-writing, the acting, the editing. It's the entire team. And then, on top of that, it's luck.

On the serials being regressive. At some point we have to acknowledge that these shows are apparently popular with the audience the ratings are tracking. I've argued before that the web-series format might end up pushing the envelope and being more progressive than shows that rely on TRP, but I stopped watching almost all desi serials a few years ago so I don't know how that all panned out.

[phati-sari]

Hi, I recently came across your page and absolutely love your recaps of IPKKND. Also I found the series on Hulu after soo many years and watching it on repeat endlessly. God! It’s my childhood love series. I’m so glad I found your work—it really adds so much to my experience while watching the episodes. I did miss the final sections where you stopped writing, but I just wanted to let you know how much I respect your work and truly hope you’re doing well now. Thank you for all your work. Truly!

I also had a question: how did Arnav realize Khushi was lying when she went to Buaji’s house with the fake story about Buaji being sick? At first, he seemed to believe her and even brought the doctor along. How did he get to the conclusion Khushi was lying ?

Hello!

Thank you muchly for the sweet message :) I super appreciate it!

When Arnav comes back to Bua-ji's in Episode 305, he recites the story that Khushi made up to get the doctor to issue a false diagnosis. Which implies that the doctor shared the fabricated story with Arnav.

[phati-sari]

I watched all 398th ep but it didn't end

This is the final shot. The final episode has a long series of flashbacks and it ends on the remarriage.

I can't help you any further!

[phati-sari]

Hey PS. I started watching IPKKND recently and have fallen in love with the show and your blog. I am working on a PhD thesis and the show provides much needed respite. Sanaya mentioned in an interview (I think it was the zoom tv one) that when the script was presented to her, it was an ensemble cast and the show was a story of four people. What do you think of this and when do you think Arnav and Khushi become the primary couple in the show?

Hello!

The working title for Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon was Didi Ki Saut.

The original concept was about the unbreakable bond between a brother and sister, showing how they found love, but the brother’s soul mate being his sister’s rival.

The show evolved into what it is today in the planning stages, with the writers and other creatives deeming the concept too dark and electing to emphasize the romantic focus.

It was also briefly called Vaidehi, after the main character.

The above is taken from Fun Fact #121.

I would guess (but have no way of confirming) that Sanaya is referring to an earlier concept where the two couples were Arnav-Khushi and Anjali-Shyam.

On a related note, I once read that Payal and Aakash weren't really considered as a beta-couple until the end of the office track, but I never really believed that given that it is super normal for serials to have sets of siblings marry each other for ease of plot.

I've discussed some of the other changes made to the serial here.

Good luck on the PhD! We're all rooting for you!

[phati-sari]

IPKKND main series has 405 ep but I can't find ep from 399 .. can you help me with it

Hello @noyontara2603,

The main series has 398 episodes, the rest are a part of IPKKND Ek Jashn, which was made in 2015 (oh my gosh it is now 2025).

Links to watch are in my FAQ.