I think a lot of people in the current era of RPG are used to being chased and have forgotten that roleplaying is a two way street?
It's not fair to make someone else send YOU asks while you make no attempts to interact with their blog in anyway.
It's not cool of you to like a STARTER CALL and then all you do to interact with the post is Like it , either because it's not what you wanted or you decided that you had a problem with their portrayal for whatever reason. Don't interact with posts like that if you have no intention of actually interacting with that blog.
But ... If you don't like the portrayal then don't like a post to interact and follow them.
If someone sends you an ask, and they try to start a thread off of that ( And it's not in your rules that you don't do that ) but you ignore it. You are saying that you have no intention to write with that blog unless the other person does all the work.
You're not being kind or friendly when you do that . You are hurting people.
People are putting in effort to interact with you and you're making that wasted energy that could've been given to someone who WOULD interact with them. You're making them feel like their writing ' was not good enough for you ' and that hurts their feelings.
You have to INTERACT with other blogs for your blog to have replies. You have to actually respond to the prompts if you want your blog to be active. You have to put yourself out there and actually interact to be have threads that are active.
(( Tldr :: If you put zero effort into interacting with other people then Why would they put a fraction of effort into interacting with you? ))
If you ignore responses to people who you've prompted with an ask then they'll naturally stop responding to you. If that happens and you start crying that ' no one responds to you ' then I am going to side-eye you.
Because you absolutely did that to yourself.
it's not nice. It's rude and it's the reason that I am mutuals only. This is why I am selective of who I follow and interact with. I am tired of being ignored when I put effort into a starter call for someone who liked my post for a starter only to have them just like the starter and nothing else.
But let me give you some advice, if you are selective about who you write with : Say that outright. Warn people ahead of time that you may not respond so they can decide whether they want to risk it.
Be kind to your followers and potential new writing partners. Let them know if you're getting overwhelmed or need to take a break.
Being Low Activity is perfectly fine. You should be allowed to not be online 48 hours or more.
Take breaks, this should be for fun.
If you forget stuff like that,that's fine. But let the mun know they need to gently remind you. Be honest with your partners and let them know you just take a bit to respond. But make sure you actually DO respond.
Remember that other blog is run by a person who has feelings.
( my mutuals who I interact with can happily ignore this. This is not about you. I am not mad at you if you take a while to reply. This is about people who don't make an effort to interact and then get upset when their blog is not active. )
If you have a reason for sudden radio silence then let the mun know about it through messages or somewhere out of the public.
TLDR :: if you don't interact with people who try and respond to your asks then you don't have any right to cry about not having threads or cry that people are not interacting anymore. That is your fault.
Boy, I wish I realized earlier I my life that a lot of my friends irl and on roleplaying situations where only interested as long as I was a clown,and the moment I showed I was a human with feelings... I became inconvenient to be around.
What I mean is that these people were only interested in being my friend on a surface level when they got free entertainment out of it. The moment thst I showed emotions like sadness or negative emotions or thoughts, I became real.
Real friends are people who show support and concern for their friends. They comforted their friends because they cared about them ,but they didn't care about ME. I was a means to end, and the moment I no longer filled the role of jester , I was no longer needed. ( I mean, even the bare minimum was too much for them... ) I gave these people the support when they needed it. I thought we were friends. I didn't know I was being used. But what's the worst thing is they didn't even have the decency to tell me that they didn't want to deal with me when I was sad or needed support from them. They just cut and ran off with their real friends. Left me confused and thinking that I must have done something wrong. __ I know I was not an amazing person or friend, but i didn't deserve that. I didn't deserve to be lied to.
ALL THINGS IN BOLD are things that I personally made up to fit in my verse/au.
These are my PERSONAL HEADCANONS, to explain why no one can tell that Donald is PK.
Donald F. Duck’s superhero persona, Papernik/Duck Avenger. A heroic persona that Donald took on with the help of his bestie, Gyro Gearloose. ( My gyro @iiamnotagadgetman is the main Gyro for this story )
The suit he wears has a VOICE SYNTHESIZER that helps further protect his identity. The hat he wears with the suit has an IDENTITY NULLIFICATION FIELD which also protects his identity. Both were created by Gyro. However, the suit is an artifact of the GENTLEMAN THIEF FANTOMIUS. It is slightly re-tooled to fit Donald’s plan to be a vigilante hero.
Gyro somewhat knows about his identity, however, she uses ‘ Car-Can Sweeties’
Whether or not Scrooge knows that PK is Donald is up to the mun behind Scrooge.
i took some time away from the ducktales fandom and the series but im ready to come back now.
i hope that the people that i have attempted to ruin my friendships and isolate me have gone off and done some soul-searching. hopefully, become better people.
- ro,rollie
Please do not mine this blog for media or headcanons.
i am getting back into DuckTales again, i took time away from roleplaying the characters because the fandom at the time was not a friendly place to be around full of ex-friends who wished harm and false friends who tried to ruin my reputation because i cut ties with an ex-friend years ago and they thought they owned characters.
i added Donald because i love Donald not to get back at you. I wrote him because I wanted to.
I had a problem with the sexism in the fandom towards Della and the passive-aggressive need of fans to promote Donald as the nephew's only parental figure while villainizing Della because she doesn't let a child get away with almost erasing his entire family. I wanted to write Donald as someone who doesn't passively condone that.
I also felt raw about how the writers did not take Donald seriously and got him out of the way instead of having Della return and having Donald SUPPORT his sister's goal to become a part of her children's lives. Instead, the show made Donald give up for the most part, as soon as Della is there he doesn't know how to act. instead of co-parenting, they just make Donald run away with Daisy and abandon the nephews instead of having him stay put and work with Della to take care of them.
I am not writing him like that. my Donald recognizes that Louie, Dewy, and Huey are Della's children. Della is the one who acknowledges that he's done a good job in taking care of her children and that she is grateful to him. But she points out that he made his own life harder by trying to do it all without asking Scrooge or Gyro for help and that was never what she wanted for his life. ( Even Gyro acknowledges that the triplets are essentially just as much Donald's kids and Della's children. )
I dislike the idea that Della is a threat to Donald's status as Father to the three of them. That's reductive and short-sighted.
look... I KNOW that isolating yourself when you're grieving is not a healthy coping mechanism...
but at the time... THAT WAS WHAT I DECIDED TO DO.
I re-read my threads from 2019-2020 in the dt fandom and i can see the change ... i was so full of life in 2018. so happy.
But my entire life from 2017- 2020 was spent Caregiving and careing about myself felt SELFISH.
roleplay was my one outlet and my one source of happiness so of course, i decided to be unhealthy and dive into that instead of actually processing things.
I had been silent with everyone - no discord or tumblr messages to anyone for about 2 weeks... then i slowly moved to talking with people I felt SAFE talking to.
he was not one of the people that made me feel safe. That's on him.
it didn't work - im still not over it. i never will be. im sorry that people i know now never got to meet that ro from 2017-2018 who was so happy and full of life and vigor. She's gone now.
i took some time away from the ducktales fandom and the series but im ready to come back now.
i hope that the people that i have attempted to ruin my friendships and isolate me have gone off and done some soul-searching. hopefully become better people. i have struggled to act like an adult in this situation.
tdlr :
i had a former rp buddy that i wrote with for about 3 years but when i was grieving he refused to give me space. then he stopped being my friend over an anime - mostly to save face.
when i joined the dt fandom, i thought we could co-exist, but found out that he was shit-talking me when our mutual friend came to me with the stories that he was spreading about me. i blocked him and another person everywhere for being fake friends and trying to get our mutuals to pick sides instead of us all just existing in our own spaces.
re : some drama that happened years ago that I'm tired of keeping quiet about.
( T his is not about anyone that I currently interact with. - im getting something off my chest. please be patient with me.
dear soy and m.
i will admit that ghosting you is something that i did but in my defense, you made it impossible for me to talk with you about ANYTHING regarding my grievances and always treated it like a personal attack. the door was not open for me to tell you anything.
so instead, i pulled away from you and focused on grieving.
- And also, i told you that i was grieving and the combination of that and the election had made me depressed and i could not be your little jester friend - your response was to pretend to hear me and ignore that two days later.
if you think ghosting is a terrible thing then i guess but i don't know how I'm expected to be the one who reaches out when I'm in the process of coping with a tremendous LOSS of beloved family members in a horrible double whammy right after Christmas.
I'm sorry that my decision to look after my mental health was hurting you...
but , i had to hear that you two were shit-talking me because a mutual friend of ours told me about it. and i had to ask them to tell you both to BLOCK ME and stop stalking my roleplay blogs or vague posting about me as though i was this terrible person while pretending to be friendly to my face. - so neither of you are innocent here. stop pretending to be. we're all people - but i think you forgot that i was one.
i shouldn't have to be told something by a fourth party that had NOTHING to do with your childish beef towards me. you shouldn't have put that on them. and i shouldn't have to worry about my then-current rp partners hearing your slander and taking your word on it.
really - i can deal with you two being mad at me for petty stuff but im really mad that you made our mutuals have to PUT UP with that shit too. That wasn't there problem and it was unfair for you to do that to them.
I gave up on shipping with you. You just assumed that G.rizz having a crush was a way to force a ship but Gri.zz just cared about nom//nom and respected your character's desire to just be friends. Typing i love you was a headcanon that gri.zz does with EVERYONE... your muse was not the only one... but ok.
just so that we're clear : tagging audio files ' grizz nom ' ... is not forcing a ship... it's saying that i ship that ship. i asked you about it and after you said ' no ' i was like okay and i asked you if grizz having a crush was okay and you didn't say anything about it affecting you negatively.
That's on you. you have to SAY it or I'm not going to know that ship makes you uncomfortable. And tagging it like that helps you because you can just BLACKLIST it. ( There were at least two ways to blacklist back when this happened )
also, people reading this please utilize the Tag Filter system. it has saved me so much grief and stress by just blocking the posts labeled that tag i don't like or person i don't want to interact/see on my dash.
I can't believe that I was quiet about it until a friend asked me and i w clarified what actually happened :
I was grieving the loss of beloved family members and just came online to post replies and went silent WITH EVERYONE. You're not the only one. But the fact that you were unsupportive of my grieving and needing space did not encourage me to interact with you afterward.
i respected you enough to let others interact with you if they wanted to and never bad-mouthed you but clearly, you did not mirror that respect. you lied and slandered me - making me out as some horrible person for the crime of grieving and going into survival mode as my depression got so bad i didn't feel l like eating and didn't want to do anything that used to be fun.
( That was a mistake. I should have warned my friends about your actions and how stubborn you were about ships. )
Your actions made me not want to talk to you and that's on you.
You two act like rp is all there is and no one is allowed to have a personal life outside and not talk to someone daily. if i became your favorite person to the point where you became upset if i didn't message you every day - and you decided writing me multi-para guilt trips in tumblr messages was a good way to convey that ... Your actions are why i can't hear the tumblr message sound without flinching. That's your fault.
It was never my responsibility to take care of your needs. We were just friends, dude. and we weren't even that because you were never a good friend.
I set boundaries with you or I TRIED TO. I told you that I don't want to hear about other blogs but you ALWAYS brought them up and made me upset. You always griped about my muse but if i said one thing about yours that wasn't 100% positive, you got upset.
I was never allowed to freely write with others because of how small the fandom was and i should've just cut ties earlier.
I tried to be kind to you. I really did. I was as kind as I could be. But sometimes I didn't chat with you because I had other friends that didn't treat me like a jester - as entertainment. That's what you did. You followed me to other fandoms and at the time I saw no issues but looking back, that should have been more worrying.
you... made a fan fict version of my muses when i didn't write them the way you wanted me to... You showed me that fan fict as though I was supposed to be happy that you had copied my muses headcanons and used them in your story. You would force me to ship things but if i wanted to ship a ship that you didn't, it got shut down. You would sulk if I didn't write your preferred ship. I never felt like I was allowed to say no to you.
You made it clear that you would throw a fit if i did.
I should have stopped talking to you way sooner. I wish I could go back and stop myself from interacting with you for the first time and stopped myself from joining the We Bare Be.ars Fandom entirely.
( looking at your old blog, you had a lot of friends who suddenly stopped interacting with you. I can only assume that they slammed into the same wall with you that I did. Where you became so laser-focused on them to the point of complaining if they didn't message you daily. Obsessing over the ship to the point where that's all you wanted to write. Obsessing with making their character out to be bad so yours could be the victim who got to be nice and forgive them. )
When I joined the Duck.tales Fandom, I intended to stay away from you but I didn't know that you had poisoned the well with another person I had been interacting with. Who was spreading a rumor that I force-shipped back with We Bare Bears characters - I didn't. I asked them about it , was told no and went Okay but warned the that Griz,z might still have a crush on Nomnom. this was said to be fine. In Character posts about Gri,zz having feelings for Nom,nom were not meant to pressure you. If you felt like they were, You should've TOLD ME. Instead, you said nothing to me and went behind my back to make others think I was a bad person.
I had two friends ask me about you and I didn't slander either of you at all. I made it clear that I didn't want to interact with you after learning that you had been lying about me and asked them to pass that along to you. I stayed out of your business.
I didn't make Don.ald as a take that to you. I made Don.ald a muse because I love Don.ald and I preferred his classic personality to the Reboots.
At this point, I haven't heard from either of you so this is mute point. But I need to get this out somewhere.
I was greiving. I was heartbroken over the many deaths in my family and my mother dying was the last straw. My mental health was shit back then and it's not much better now. I'm sorry if I ever said anything that caused harm to you or my then rp friends. I didn't mean it to come off as it might've. But I'm not someone who forces a ship. I told one of you that someone had tried to FORCE SHIP WITH ME AND THREW A TANTRUM ON THE DASH over me not accepting it.
( it's possible that im combining years because honestly - i feel like i woke up and it was suddenly 2023 and 4-5 years of my life had just wooshed by me. But i know for a fact that my grandparents had died during this.- and my mother's health was fading. )
For the longest time , I couldn't ship kevin and jamie together because of that asshole bu t I've gotten over it now.
And what your friend did to me was FORCE SHIPPING... so I find it really fucking hilarious that you took his side.
Don't lie about people because you have a problem with them. Either block and vent to friends ( while being honest about what actually happened ) or tell the person you have an issue with straight up what the issue is. Be an adult.
I have moved on and I hope that you two have grown up,
If I accidentally implied to you that I wanted to ship something with you, it's just that. AN ACCIDENT. You misinterpreted my typing if you believe that I did anything like that intentionally.
Besides that, you never gave me a clear answer so i ended up giving up on a ship and settled for unrequited love. I was fine with writing my character secretly pining after yours.
And Actually, I'm sorry if I made you feel like you were pressured to do a ship with me. I didn't mean to.
But you have to realize that I'm not the bad guy here. No one was the ' bad guy' - this was all a lack of communication and open air. I didn't feel safe to talk with either of you about anything negative because you'd shut that down immediately.
And one of you never told me straight up how you really felt about things so I don't know how I was supposed to figure that out through TEXT.
dt17 Donald : Who are you ?
dt 87′ Donald : I’m the character you’re supposed to be but your reboot destroyed your whole character by making you a single dad for woke points.
dt17 don : well , at least I got a sister...
dt 87 Donald : Yeah, but the fandom actively hates her and acts like she’s going to take ‘ Your kids ‘ away from you.
dt 17 don : What? They’re not my kids. They’re my nephews! That’s stupid! ( looks into the camera )
dt 87 ‘ Donald : Yes. ( looks into the camera too ) Very stupid
@iihavethesword is my Multi muse for muses from the media of the Fantasy genre. muses like Mr. Ages, Martin Brisby , Willow & Gen. Yunnan. please LIKE/REBLOG to show interest!
but read the INFO ( google doc )first.
i wanna apologize to people who i have threads with on here. i need to move donald to a multi-muse blog probably cause i keep forgetting this blog exists....also my donald muse is a fickle bitch.
but the only blog that i could would be @butimrich ... except that is where my evil boys are .... so i’d have to.... REBRAND it .... hahahaa...
HC: When Donald and Della were Little, they use to follow Duckworth everywhere he go just like how little ducklings follow their mama duck. And Duckworth doesn’t mind and find it very adorable
That headcanon is just too adorable not to draw
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