trans_irl
The DREAM
I distinctly remember the first time my dad called me my right name. I was sixteen, Iβd gotten my driverβs license not too long ago, and now that I was driving, my dad gave me a credit card so I could get gas, or food if I was staying late at school due to marching band. He was very clear, this card was for food and gas only. Only gas and food. Just those two categories of product. He would be checking the bill.Β I had no desire to buy anything else with this card.
However. Often when getting food after marching practice, or on our scant breaks, Iβd drive my friends to burger king or little ceasers or starbucks or whatever, and sometimes not all of my friends could afford the food they wanted. And wellβ¦food is food. I have a big appetite, and as long as I didnβt go crazy overboard and order catering for the whole band, a few extra burgers and shakes wouldnβt stand out on a monthly bill. So I bought my friends food.Β
I did this for several months, and sometime during that came out to my parents. They both thought it was a phase, and that I would grow out of it. Since theyβre not terrible people their approach to me havingΒ βa boy phaseβ was to let me do my thing and wait for me to change my mind. I didnβt change my mind, and eventually they understood that, but thatβs a whole other post. The point is my dad didnβt discourage me from transitioning, but avoided talking about it with me. He stopped calling me his daughter, but replaced it with child rather than son, that kind of thing.Β Β
But back to the credit card. Eventually I started feeling guilty. TECHNICALLY I was obeying the rule βfood and gas onlyβ, but I knew I was bending it. I nervously admitted to him one day that sometimesβ¦on occasionβ¦once in a whileβ¦ Iβd buy a friend food. I waited solemnly for his judgement. He walked over to me, put his hands on my shoulders, looked into my eyes sternly and said,
βZackary, we are Italian. If you let your friends go hungryβ¦.β (and here he decided to shake me just for a little emphasis)Β βI will disown you.βΒ
And thatβs when I knew heβd come around. Trans? Fine okay sure, give it a shot. Stingy? Get the fuck out.Β
