It’s the start of the week again. It’s good to reflect on things about life to keep us motivated in starting and pushing through the week. Here’s some questions you may also ask yourself when you join Pleasant Palette’s Monday Memos.
For the first week, we ask ourselves should humans be completely free to do as they wish? Or do we always need a limit for it?
Every now and then, we must remember to find time to meditate and think about the things we don't usually ask ourselves or perhaps anything we're curious about. To answer the question, I firmly stand with the idea of democracy, sovereignty, and independence; on the other hand, I also believe there must be a limit for this (such as rules and regulations). These rules are proposed mainly for the people's welfare which also serve as norms that discipline people into becoming morally-upright individuals. However, we must also bear in mind that the rules must safeguard our well-being and must never be intended to deprive us of our own rights.
Although humans have free will to do whatever they want, there should still be set limitations on our freedom. I am a firm believer that everyone can do whatever they want to do in life so long as they are not stepping on others. An excellent example of why we are not free to do whatever we wish is the laws placed upon us. We may want to execute something that will benefit us personally but affect others badly. Rules and regulations prevent these situations from happening. An excellent example of this would have been wanting to get something for yourself, but it turns out that someone else owns that object. It is widely accepted and morally correct that we cannot claim something that is not ours as ours just because we want to.
For the second week, we asked what is your philosophy in life about love?
Love is not just the tingling emotion that you feel when you say "I love you" to your boyfriend or when you hug your pets after a long day. Love is a very strong emotion that almost everyone cannot explain and get a hold of. Once you are in love, you can become thoughtless, selfish, and lost but at the same time it also has a power that can make you more mature, responsible, warm and affectionate.
On to the third week, JP explains why do humans seek validation?
There are many articles on why we should stop seeking validation. Honestly, it’s okay to validate each other's lives just like many other things in life, we should strike a balance between validating ourselves and seeking approval from others. The praise one receives from others should enhance the self-esteem which is already good. Good self-esteem of our personal value, appreciating ourselves which is stable and enduring is a trait to be grown.
A good thing about validating our feelings is we can not only appreciate us for what we did but also for what we did not. You have the right to feel what you feel. Yet, when we catch us going down the path of blues, recognizing it at the right moment to uplift ourselves will help us understand our feelings and work it out. The most important bond we need to have is with ourselves to function well with others.
For the last week of August, we can conclude the month by asking if is time only a concept made by humans? Is it something we restrict ourselves with?
Time, in my opinion, does not exist yet is still there. We use it to map out our past to the present and take our psychological, biological, and spiritual experiences of Time using calendars and timekeeping devices. There are many examples of ancient cultures that had completely different ways of understanding the passage of Time and keeping track. The Mayan civilization is an excellent example of this, where they used the cosmic view.
There are probably other ways of understanding Time psychologically and existentially. Our culture happens to rely on the sun and the moon, and we are restricted to the things we place our awareness on. If our knowledge is only placed on the setting sun and the moons’ movement, then our perception is limited to those repetitive patterns in nature. As I mentioned, the ancient Mayan civilization had an awareness of the cosmos. Therefore, they were less limited than we are in terms of understanding their place in the universe.
On another note, Eana answered the question Why do we love to love?
Ever since I was younger, I have always loved reading romance novels. It was just a genre that I genuinely enjoyed. To me, it was really interesting reading and imagining how the characters would fall in love and live happily ever after. It was a fairytale concept that I never really moved on from. As old as I am now, I still believe that that kind of love still exists. In this day and age, love is no longer much of a priority, a feeling, a bond but is considered as a business and necessity to most, probably. It kind of made me realize how different the world is compared to the world I loved to live in. In a way, this concept of love is something that I deeply love.
To be honest, I have never really thought deeply about love before until I was in the middle of my teenage stage. Back then, I loved to imagine myself being in love and happy with my idols/crushes then, one direction, 5sos, the vamps, and the indomitable, Justin Bieber. I was a big fan of all of them and I just loved listening to their music and watching their videos. It gave me some sort of inspiration and motivation back then, to work harder and be as successful as them. So, why do we love to love?
One, Love lessens our physical perception of pain and threat. Do you notice that whenever you’re going through something physically painful be it taking shots from the doctor when you’re holding the hands of someone you love, or when they’re comforting you, the pain that you feel doesn’t seem as bad? This has actually been already tested in the University of Virginia and it is in fact, true. Two, Feeling secure in a loving relationship makes us more open to the world. Love makes us feel whole and inspired, it makes us happier and more understanding. With these positive emotions that we get from love, it makes us more open and accepting of the world. Love makes us realize a lot of things about life and people. Being loved gives us encouragement and that small push that we need in order to share that love with others as well. Lastly, Love can help you better cope with painful emotions. Having to go through a really difficult time alone is really tough. You cannot vent and let all your emotions out, speak to someone, and ask for advice. When you feel loved, when you’re loved, when you love, you’ll feel more open to yourself and to others. In return, when you’re more open and accepting to your feelings, consequently, when facing an emotionally stressful situation, you’ll be able to handle it better.
It may not be as obvious to some, but indeed love is something that we need, it is one of our basic and fundamental needs. At times, we try to fight the desire to be comforted and be loved when we’re facing our toughest times. We ignore that innate feeling and bury it deep inside. Yes, love can be really intimidating, sometimes painful, other times amazing but let’s all agree that Love is definitely something that we love, consciously or unconsciously.
It is important to know how to reflect on these things so that we may be able to assure ourselves that it is okay.