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Horus (taken from ‘Myths of the male divine God’ by David Leeming & Jake Page)

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Osiris (taken from ‘Myths of the male divine God’, David Leeming & Jake Page)

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You’ve got to be brave enough to learn how to initiate and show love.

Teal Swan, 'The Please Love Dynamic'

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Pour all the energy you would pour into trying to get him to want to be present with you, into yourself instead. Tell him what you need and want and if he doesn’t follow through, live your own life as if he is not present. If he fades out of your life, that is your indication that he wasn’t supposed to be in it. To some degree you need to accept that if he wanted to be there, he would be.

Teal Swan, 'The Please Love-Me Dynamic'

[lisasimpsonwannabe]

You know, life just doesn’t hand things out to you. You have to fucking participate.

Erik Medhus (via lisasimpsonwannabe)

[r--ead]

If we did not have an unconditionally loving mother either, our desperation for our father’s love increases because we are trying to escape loneliness and also fear through gaining his attention and energy.

Teal Swan

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We want men who are masculine enough to not be threatened by us, and who are masculine enough to take the lead; men who appreciate us for exactly who we are here and now. But what’s the reality? The reality is that we find men who are never “all in”. We find men who are apathetic towards us. We spend every minute of our lives trying to come up with ways to entice them into the center of the relationship. We try to inspire them to put effort into us. We feel like we have to do backbends to try to capture their interest and keep it. We end up exhausted. We end up feeling lonely. We may be in the same room, but we are alone and in the same room. We start to feel desperate. Desperate becomes the emotional status quo. This desperation for love and attention, this desperation for energy to come towards us, makes us feel utterly powerless to our partner.

Teal Swan

[lisasimpsonwannabe]

If you look at the various gurus and sages that have lived throughout the ages, they didn’t have a lot of material things. They knew that within themselves, they had found this center connected to that sustainability. You don’t need a lot. Love is all you essentially need.

Erik Medhus (via lisasimpsonwannabe)

[lisasimpsonwannabe]

Remember, however, that if love isn’t available from the source from which you seek, it probably cannot be given. This isn’t a deficiency of your character. Rather, the person, or persons, from whom you desire love and attention may simply be unable to express such emotions.

Stephanie Hicks (via lisasimpsonwannabe)

[lisasimpsonwannabe]

Understand what love looks like. Sometimes, really horrible people in our lives will convince us that love looks different than it actually is. Don’t let them get you confused: love should never hurt, love shouldn’t feel one-sided, and love shouldn’t feel conditional.

Wikihow (via lisasimpsonwannabe)

[lisasimpsonwannabe]

Love is the thing that we’re all made of. If you want to look at it as something physical, it’s what creates the structure of everything. That structure isn’t possible without connections. You have to have connection, and those connections then enable the structure to form either through conscious thoughts or physical form or whatever. It’s the enabler of everything. Without it, we wouldn’t exist. We call it love, as human beings, because we associate it with connection to family, friends, romantic connections, all of those things. Ultimately, what that’s doing is forming a structure.

Erik Medhus (via lisasimpsonwannabe)

[lisasimpsonwannabe]

pretty great advice on developing bonds! -be strong enough to be vulnerable with someone -both give and take in a conversation. respond, share information yes, but also listen and let them know that you’re present with them -take risks when getting to know somebody. you’ll never know what you may find out. it’s better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are not, and that applies vice-versa. would you rather love somebody you didn’t really know that well or dislike somebody that you do know? be forgiving but be aware too about how the people in your life really are + how they affect your wellbeing.

[lisasimpsonwannabe]

Remember, however, that if love isn’t available from the source from which you seek, it probably cannot be given. This isn’t a deficiency of your character. Rather, the person, or persons, from whom you desire love and attention may simply be unable to express such emotions.

Stephanie Hicks (via lisasimpsonwannabe)

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If you are not personally free to be yourself in that most important of all human activities - the expression of love - then life itself loses its meaning.

Harvey Milk (via funkpunkandrollmuhfucka2)

[lisasimpsonwannabe]

I went to the store to buy some cigarettes and the lady at the counter asked me for some identification. I handed it over and she said to me “It’s your birthday today. You look so young. Your mother should be very proud of you.” It was such a flippant statement, but for some reason it struck a chord. After all my years of therapy, these words from a stranger hit home. I can’t really explain it, but I felt a whole hoard of emotions: anger, regret, understanding, and, finally, relief. I felt that, yes, my mother should be proud of me—and I felt sorry for her that she was unable to feel that way. I wanted to have a chance at life, to meet someone and have my own children that I could love and be proud of. I realized then that this would only happen if I stopped treating myself the same way my mother did.

Marie, tinybuddha (via lisasimpsonwannabe)

[lisasimpsonwannabe]

I also decided to be open with new people that came into my life. I didn’t scare them off at the first encounter, but as relationships began to develop, I would explain how my past affected me, and how I’d chosen to move on and be happy. Almost everyone I opened up to was completely supportive. Openness became a two-way street. I learned that most people had experienced their own struggles. Our confessions strengthened these new relationships. I also learned that not everyone is someone I can open up to—but the more I do it, the better instincts I have about who to let into my life.

Marie, tinybuddha (via lisasimpsonwannabe)

[lisasimpsonwannabe]

“While one person hesitates because he feels inferior, another is busy making mistakes and becoming superior.” ~ Henry C. Link