[retromediafan07]

yeah sure i'll make an introduction post.

i'm RetroMediaFan07 (RMF07), i'm an autistic artist, i'm 19 and i speak serbian and english. i mainly use he/him pronouns, as well as any neopronouns.

here is my carrd. https://retromediafan07.carrd.co/

i post about anything i like, but it will mostly be music or five nights at treasure island. i make funny stuff sometimes or i just whinge.

anyone is welcome but if i don't like you i'll block because i do not associate with TRASH of ANY kind: transphobes, racists, ableists, sexists, homophobes.

i reblog anything i like or think needs to be said, but i don't do deep research on every single person i reblog from, so whomp whomp. i won't reblog often so i don't drown myself out.

sfw but may include sex jokes and that kind of stuff.

i'm new to posting on tumblr so i don't know how everything works yet, please be patient.

[retromediafan07]

right so

meat sweats

cheese nightmare

Voting ended onJun 6

[malewifesband]

its always helpful imo to remember theres a cis person with whatever problem you have as a trans person 9/10 times. theres a cis man as short as you, a cis woman as tall as you, with hands and feet as big or small as yours. theres a cis woman scared to go out without shaving twice a day, theres a cis man whos upset bc he will never grow a beard. theres a cis woman who worries her infertility makes her less of a woman, and theres a cis man feeling similarly about his lack of potency. theres cis women who dilate and cis men with phalloplasty. theres a cis man scared that painting his nails will make people think hes not really a man and a cis woman whos exhausted with spending hours grooming just so people treat her like she wants to be treated as a woman. they dont put it in the terms we do but theyre worried that these problems make them inadequate at the gender they want people to see them as. our patriarchal system has made the boxes were supposed to fit into so small and you arent alone in not fitting it--nobody really fits

[luxiomahariel]

"im a misandrist but not in a terfy way"

theres no feminist way to be a misandrist that doesnt bleed into terf ideology.

[luxiomahariel]

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be racist towards men of color.

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be ableist towards disabled and/or neurodivergent men.

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be intersexist towards intersex men or intersex people that look like men.

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be transphobic towards trans women who don't want to pass or cant pass for whatever reason.

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be transphobic towards trans men.

if youre a misandrist, then i dont trust you not to be exorsexist towards nonbinary men or nonbinary people who might look like men.

if youre a misandrist, i dont fucking trust you. you are not an ally to me or to marginalized people.

[retromediafan07]

got into mike krol recently and not only does he look like paul simon, he sounds like him too, and they both make (banging) music for people who are equally as big of losers as themselves??? did paul clone himself??? they have the same middle name and microbangs too. respect

[drizzles-in-paradise]

I honestly think that nonbinary people should be allowed to be mean* about our genders without getting shit for it more often.

*(Read: Assertive of our boundaries and stood firm on the fact that our identities are deserving of respect)

We should be allowed to make a sour face or take a cold tone with someone when they carelessly misgender us for the fifth time in a row despite multiple corrections. We should be allowed to complain about erasure and ask where our needs and experiences come into play when we hear people reinforcing binary normativity in their discussions of gender related issues. We should be allowed to be visibly/audibly angry with other trans people when they try to forcibly categorize us as fem or masc, or imply that our enbyness is a mere phase that will eventually lead to "real/full" (binary to binary) transition.

Nonbinary people should be allowed to take our identities seriously and expect others to do the same for us, regardless of whether or not we will come off as mean for doing so. Because quite frankly, upon seeing how exorsexist the world has become recently, I think we haven't been mean enough.

[transmasc-theory]

A moment of silence for the trans men who, due to their assigned gender at birth, have been legally banned from speaking in public in areas under Taliban rule.

A moment of silence for the trans men who, due to their assigned gender at birth and religious backgrounds, have been taught that they are forbidden from being anything but broodmares to a man they may or may not consent to marriage or sex with.

A moment of silence for the trans men who died in childbirth from a pregnancy they may or may not have consented to.

A moment of silence for the trans men who dropped out of high school after getting pregnant.

A moment of silence for the trans men who only knew their desire for masculinity, but were beaten to death for it and told they were going to hell.

A moment of silence for the trans men who had their clitorises mutilated by female genital mutilation.

A moment of silence for the trans men who died without ever once getting to wear pants or cut their hair the way they wanted.

A moment of silence for the trans men who committed suicide rather than be seen as a woman anymore.

A moment of silence for the trans men who never were allowed to learn how to read.

A moment of silence for the trans men with perfectly treatable conditions who were allowed to die to avoid violating "modesty" rules.

A moment of silence for the trans men subjected to honor killings.

A moment of silence for the trans men who were murdered by abusive partners.

A moment of silence for the trans men who were subject to "hymen checks."

We remember all of you, past and present.

[retromediafan07]

some CDs i got today at a secondhand / music shop in cork.

1. a psychedelic compilation (lots of beatle covers on it). the only artists i've heard of on it are ''the hollies'', ''the yardbirds'', ''deep purple'' and ''the bonzo dog doo-dah band''. i actually quite like the bonzos and the hollies, and while i haven't listened to anyone else, i'll probably quite like it.

2. two things i've never heard of.

first is ''graham central station'' - according to rym, it looks to be funk + psychedelia + rock, which sounds awesomeee.

and ''the frosted ambassador'' which is apparently noise pop + art pop + neo-psychedelia + experimental + slacker rock which also sounds amazing, i feel like i hit the jackpot.

i love psychedelia and i've been getting into slacker rock as of recent (mike krol, crustsox, your heart breaks) and i love experimental stuff so i'll likely love this. i haven't listened to much funk outside of ''parliament'', but i'm always happy to add to my music knowledge.

3. lastly, i got melt-banana's ''cell-scape''. this is the only full album of theirs i've fully listened to already and i really loved it so i was super happy to see it.

i'll be going to cork again soon, so hopefully i might get more CDs. oh, and i also got a the first austin powers film on DVD, lol.

[azuremist]

Kinda sick and tired of having to roll over like a submissive dog to appease everyone who misinterprets my tone/intentions, and verbally berates me for it. I have never once gotten an apology. But I don’t really know any other way to live. Just another way being an autist turns you into an animal, I suppose. It becomes imperative that you just take the hits and let people roll over you any time they please, because to do otherwise will be seen as proof of your supposed “aggression”.

[retromediafan07]

does anyone want to talk to me in the comments? exchange music recommendations or something? i'm so lonely.i can't promise i'll listen to them immediately, but hopefully within the month.

[retromediafan07]

it is genuinely repulsive to me that not everyone likes me. no matter what i do, there will always be someone who just simply won't like me. it's disgusting. why should i even bother holding myself up to my standards when there will always be some loser still unsatisfied with it? if everyone was like me, the world would be a better place because i am the least judgemental, compassionate person ever. everyone is so judgemental of people whose circumstances they don't even know 😒

[this-is-trans-joy]

I don’t know if this is an obvious take or a hot take, but I think people need to start re-framing feminism as the fight for body autonomy as opposed to whatever this second wave revival gender essentialist bullshit we have going on right now. Once you reframe it in this way, it’s easier to understand intersectionality and why cis women are not the only people who need feminism. The lack of body autonomy effects cis women, trans people, intersex people, disabled people, poc, homeless people, sex workers, etc. and your feminism needs to include and prioritise all of these groups of people (which will include men btw) because feminism is about autonomy, not about establishing a matriarchy. Body autonomy is the biggest threat to the patriarchy, both with reproductive rights, LGBTQ+ rights, and even the right to not be drafted into military services. Once body autonomy is established for everyone, the patriarchy no longer has a leg to stand on.

And body autonomy does include things that you don’t personally like either. I was prompted to write this post after a series of bad takes from progressives, but one of them was re-hashing the Sabrina Carpenter album cover drama with “I don’t think it’s conservative of me to think that the album cover is a bad look when we’ve seen images of women being abused in this way” because I do actually think you’ve failed to understand feminism by projecting your morals onto a woman who was consensually expressing her own autonomy just because she expressed it in a way that you didn’t like or that made you uncomfortable.

Body autonomy also means unhealthy choices. Body autonomy also means regret rates. Body autonomy also means freedom of sexuality. Body autonomy also means mutilation. If you believe body autonomy has limitations and exceptions, then your feminism is most likely surface level.

TERFs are some of the biggest opponents to body autonomy, and if you find yourself thinking “oh people can do whatever they want with their bodies as long as it doesn’t harm them or make others uncomfortable” then you are far more susceptible to TERF propaganda than you think.

[interspadias]

"you can't call it transandrophobia/transmisandry bc misandry isn't a real axis of oppression, you're being an MRA"

"you can't call it (medical) misogyny bc you're refusing to let go of AGAB and misgendering yourself, you're being a TERF"

"you can't make a new term for it because you're acting like men are oppressed for being men by acknowledging trans men have any form of bigotry directed at them specifically"

"oppression is stored in the pronouns and none of your struggles are real unless you detransition. This isn't gaslighting btw ur just weaponizing ur male privilege by opening ur filthy boy mouth. I'm allowed to suicide bait you and harass you until you detransition or kill yourself. #feminism"

[what-even-is-thiss]

That last post I reblogged got me thinking again about how people can’t separate their idea of manhood from violence.

It’s like some people are capable of imagining womanhood without submission but can’t imagine manhood without dominance. Like for some reason in their minds women can escape their gender norms and make a new definition of what gender is for themselves but men can’t.

[raingardening]

i think there is a phenomenon where sometimes a trans person will go “hmm. i am treated as a man when it is convenient for others, and a woman when it is convenient for others, and often as a freakish third thing excluded from the advantages of both. surely, because of the gender binary, the Other Type of trans person experiences the opposite: they reap the benefits of maleness and femaleness at once.” like babes no they can do it twice

[anarcho-communism-revolution]

[helloelicia]

I love that folks are being more accepting of autism, but I don't love that autism is being sanitized into a quirk.

There's a cute and acceptable form of autism on social media, and I don't see any indication that folks are remotely ready for discussing the rest of it, which contains all the uncomfortable things that impede a person's everyday life, require support, and make acceptance almost impossible—where the hygiene struggles, inappropriate social behaviors, involuntary movements and outbursts, meltdowns, and emotional dependence issues live. And the cuter and more sanitized the "good" autism gets, the more unacceptable the "bad" autism becomes.

[pigeon-cave]

It's tricky when people say they're supportive of people on the spectrum but don't like it when you:

don't like shaving or wearing makeup

have food restrictions

stim a lot of the time

need sensory protection

have "childish" interests

need to know schedules ahead of time

need a lot of alone time

can't handle certain textures

have trouble regulating emotions

don't carry conversations well

correct their mistakes

show any other common autistic behavior