Dear “Tumblr Doms”,
Let’s talk about your submissive and their obedience.
An obedient sub does not give a pass to be lazy. It does not provide you the right to make them put forth all the effort. Their obedience is a daily choice and it can be reversed any time they choose. You do not “own” them as physical property, you own them because they choose you to.
Choice brings me to the next point. Obedience is not a blanket, all-encompassing state of being or act. You receive their dedication when they want to give it. So, if you demand sex or nudes or some act, they may not feel like carrying out the act for whatever reason. This is where you listen.
Are they not obeying out of playfulness? Perhaps they don’t wish to do something, but their kink enjoys being pushed to a limit. OR they literally have no interest in doing what you asked - coming from the person inside the submissive. If she says no in a genuine manner, you respect that. The End.
It does NOT make them a bad sub or disobedient if this happens, it means there’s something more important going on within that supersedes yourself. Find out why and act appropriately. Do not force your will beyond the lines of individual sovereignty unless explicitly asked to.
Rebloging this again because so many people still need to figure this out lol
