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Imagine thinking that qui-gon jinn would WILLINGLY go into battle/war and no question the FUCK out of why the hell heโs being asked to do any of that shit?! ๐คฃ๐ซฃ
My moods are all over the place and I have this pit of dread in my stomach and I just want Qui-Gon. Sometimes writing about him just isnโt enough and I need him physically but thereโs no way for me to have that and so then the feeling just lingers. Thatโs the worst part of selfshipping: needing a physical connection that I canโt have because fiction isnโt quite enough. Iโve never quite known how to deal with that. I usually just wait it out and eventually it stops bothering me so much.
Tags: Qui Gon Jinn x Female OC, age gap (female oc in her mid 20s, Qui in his early 40s), fluffy smut, established relationship, praise heavy, gentle dom Qui, thigh riding
A/N: Just a short little thing to ease myself back into writing. It might be bad but at least its not AI. Yep. This disastor is all me folks. I'm also not editing this. I just need to write and not think about it. Sorry!
There was a gentleness to his touch that she had never known before.
She thought she had, at times. Glimpses of tenderness from past lovers. A slower thrust, a softer look. But it was only ever that. Slower. Softer. But never slow, never soft. As if gentleness is measured only in comparasion to the harsher act that predated it.
With Qui, she began to unlearn this. Slowly at first. The way he watched her with a gaze as soft and as slow as his hands over her clothed skin as he asked for consent before even beginning to insinuate it. And she would give it, freely, nearly every time. Not because she had to, but because she had begun to desire this new found gentle love. The unlearning of the violence of her past. The idea that intimacy could be as soft as the sheets he lay her down upon, that even on the occasion their movements were faster pace, it never outpaced the respect, or the love, either of them shared.
It was this knowledge that had begun to make her feel more confident in asking for her own pleasure, rather than allowing him to take the lead.
In the dim glow of his quarters, they borrowed stolen time in bed. Propped up against the wall, Qui-Gon sat with her in his lap, her soft thighs straddling his, shielded by only the sleep shorts she wore.
The council could never know. The feel of her near bare skin warm against the restraint of his own robes and pants was almost enough to ground him when he caught himself drifting into his own anxieties, now matter how hard he had tried to unlearn the shame that came with being raised with non-attachment doctrine. But the divinity of her body against his, how could he not worship the force through her?
His large hands held her firmly in place on his lap, a gentle stength that mirrored the rest of his restraint as he devoured her lips slowly. Each movement drawn out, his tongue tracing her lips, dancing with hers as she whimpered against him.
She held onto his shoulders, fingertips feeling the rough ends of his hair where it fell against his robes as she attempted to ground herself in the moment just as thoroughly as he had.
He pulled her against him a little firmer in an attempt to bring them even closer and in doing so, caused her clothed arousal to brush against his thigh. A shaky gasp escaped her lips, breathing in his own air as he pulled back slightly to look at her.
The pleasure that accidental brush had brought her was obvious: Pupils blown, cheeks tinged pink, lips parted and swollen from kissing. Beautiful. Every part of her.
She rolled her hips against his thigh, intentionally this time. Confident this time with the learned experience that he could, would, never harm her or mistreat her. That her pleasure mattered as much as his. Shown not only in his words, but his actions, both equally as gentle.
He hummed, a soft, low sound in the back of his throat as his hands remained on her waist, allowing her to set her own pace, her own motion as she began to slowly grind down on his thigh. It was a shameless, filthy motion by any other standards. But what could be more pure than two beings, two souls, seeking pleasure through each others physical existence?
The corners of his blue eyes crinkled slightly as he gave a small smile and an encouraging nod, murmuring with the quiet intensity and reverence of old Jedi propechies forgotton by many, but shown to those deserving: "Does that feel nice, my dear?"
And she sighed, a shaky, broken exhale leaving quivering lips as he began to move a little firmer, a little more confidently. Grinding against his thigh as she sought out her own pleasure, feeling no shame, but only love in his gaze as he watched.
"Yes master..." She whimpered, adding the honorific without second thought. There was power, in acknowledging the power imbalence between them that surely existed, but was never used against her in these times. A reminder of trust.
He groaned slightly, allowing himself the authority to only slightly shift her against him. Only barely guiding her movements. "Like that, hmm? Does that pace feel alright?"
Her eyes fluttered shut as she nodded. Unable to focus on the intense, loving gaze of Qui-Gon soaking in every moment of her moving on top of him. She focused solely on the feeling now, remembering every once of his training.
"That's it," He murmured, sensing her thoughts. "Breathe, my darling. Focus on the moment. Feel me beneath you. That's it."
A whimper escaped her lips, now parted in bliss as she rolled her hips shamelessly against him. Every brush of her against his thigh, even through the restrictions of their clothes, was enough friction to send pleasure coursing through her, the heat building up in her lower abdomen.
Her breath came in quick gasps despite her attempts to slow it down, to bask in the feeling. And even in the face of tenderness, do old habits find a way to slip in sometimes. Anxieties resurfacing from the back of her mind and taking her out from the present moment: What if she looked strange, doing this against his thigh? What if he found her unappealing from this angle? Could she even come, fully clothed? Or would that be disgusting to him?
"Shhh...." He whispered, tucking a strand of her now sweaty hair behind her ear as his gaze remained soft upon her face, watching ever flicker of pleasure dance across it. "Let go of your anxieties. Just feel me... Feel me.... That's it. That's my good girl."
She whined, needily at the praise. She always did. The way he praised her so authentically, without any hint of jest or mockery in his voice. As if he was, and he was, genuinely proud of her for taking her pleasure so confidently from him.
Her breathing quickened, rutting against him harder as he chased her release. "Master," She whimpered, "Close. Please. Close. Close."
"I've got you." He whispered gently, soothingly as both hands found their way to her hips again. "You're safe, dear one. Let yourself go. I've got you."
She shattered, thighs shaking as she gasped out his name, rutting shamelessly against him as she desperately chased her climbax. Qui-Gons grip on her hips anchored her through her orgasm, pulling her against his thigh with firm, sharp movements as her pace faltered in order to prolong her pleasure as much as possible. Whispering sweet nothings into her ear, "My pretty girl, there you go. That's a good girl. My good, sweet girl."
She finally stilled against him, thighs shaking against his, head tilted against his shoulder as her forehead rested against his long, brown hair. "Qui..." She whispered. "Oh... That was... I love you."
The smile upon his face was as true as the way he felt for her. "And I love you, very much."
To some, it was a sentence forbidden more than most other things in the Jedi order. If Qui-Gon was a more maverick Jedi, he would have never been in this situation in the first place. But with his lover blissed out on his lap, still drunk on post-orgasm haze, anchoring herself through the force by clinging to his physical form... There was nothing more divine, nothing more binding between Qui-Gon and his purpose as a man, as a jedi, than this connection to the living force, through her.
I canโt remember whether I made a marriage post for me & Qui, so Iโm finally making an official (overdue) announcement! We were married in January and Iโve been keeping it to myself, mainly because I do most of my self-shipping privately now. Anyway, Iโm sharing it now because Iโve had enough time for it to sink in & Iโm happy & content that we made the decision to tie the knot.
The moon pendant (bottom right) is our official wedding pendant and is symbolic of our union. I chose to wear a necklace to signify our marriage, rather than a ring. It is a "moon flower" pendant and moonflower is one of his nicknames for me. Qui-Gon chose it because of the flower being a rose and the pendant itself being a moon is a subtle reference to a galaxy far far away.
I am also including a photo of our marriage certificate (I designed it because I didn't like any of the free templates lmao.) The centerpiece is the pendant I wear in place of a ring, because I don't like the feel of rings on my fingers, so I wear a necklace instead. The quote is an excerpt from a poem I wrote about Qui-Gon that encompasses our overall feelings towards each other and that our relationship is a garden that we must tend to lovingly each and every day. (Also, I wanted to add that Benedict is NOT my real last name. It is my self-insert's last name, but for obvious purposes, I will never be sharing my actual last name here.)
WARNINGS: Anxiety and stress symptoms, nudity mentioned.
A/N: As promised, here are my general headcanons list for Qui-Gon Jinn! I've been working on this collection for a long time, functioning as a living document for almost a year. I took a lot of liberties with this one, but since the Star Wars universe is so vast, I tend to treat it as a fantasy world where just about anything is possible. At the end, I did include a few general headcanons about what I think he'd be like in a relationship. I'll probably write more of these at some point, but enjoy these for now<3 Unedited, because it's getting late and I'm feeling lazy.
Qui-Gon Jinn Headcanons
He is fascinated by trees and has his own bonsai collection that he keeps in the Temple Gardens and maintains them during his free time.
He is completely unashamed by nudity. When heโs off world on remote planets, heโll sometimes bathe in creeks or lakes.
He loves fog and likes to meditate in it.ย
The only part of his body that heโs a bit vain about is his hair because he views it as symbolic of his connection to the Force and the Jedi Order. He doesnโt let anyone touch it unless theyโre gentle and respectful not to pull any knots through or snag it when itโs wet.
Speaking of his hair, he loves wearing scrunchies because they donโt damage his hair, especially when heโs sleeping.
Heโs also definitely the type to be interested in using silk or satin pillowcases when heโs at the Temple. On missions, he sacrifices a lot of his usual routines and hair care out of duty to the Order (but he isnโt happy about it.)
He has very dry and sarcastic humor (Obi-Wan had to learn it from somewhere lol.)
He is the most patient man youโll ever meet, even when he loses his temper. He doesnโt typically raise his voice except when heโs passionate about something, but if heโs truly angry heโll deliver the most biting comments that could bring even a grown man to his knees.ย
Very few have ever heard him angry enough to yell.ย
Has a bit of a sweet tooth but prefers pastries and pies rather than sugary candy.ย
Bathing is a contemplative/reflective time for him.
Loves to meditate first thing in the morning.
He doesnโt like to eat as soon as he wakes up and typically wonโt eat anything until heโs been awake for at least an hour.
Heโs a very strong swimmer and thinks being underwater is very peaceful, however, he didnโt learn to swim until he was older.
He actually enjoys gambling, but prefers more elaborate games, occasionally with higher stakes (he enjoys the rush that comes from the risk.)ย
He has lingering pain in his left hip that flares up occasionally due to having dislocated it when he was a Padawan.ย
He loves to give piggyback rides and lets younglings sit on his shoulders.
He loves the smell of freshly fallen rain on warm soil.
He is extremely easy going and no matter what is happening, nothing ever seems to faze him. Heโll remain calm, just going along with whatever is going on; the only tell is his eyes and how they change depending on the emotion he is experiencing, or the slight shift in his inflection if heโs irritated or frustrated.ย
He loves to study rocks, gems and crystals.ย
He loves identifying new wildflowers.ย
He loves the physical act of writing, as opposed to dictation through his commlink or using datapads for record-keeping, but the technologically advanced galactic republic doesnโt provide much opportunity or afford him enough time to slow down and use a pen as frequently as heโd like, but when his time is his own, he likes to take physical notes or simply practice his penmanship.ย
As a Padawan, he went through a phase where he didnโt speak for weeks (as a form of meditation and introspective reflection), until his Master began to worry about him and he realized it was better to open his mouth and speak than let things progress to a point of no returnโone where Master Dooku, of all people, became concerned.ย
Absolutely hates being cooped up inside, but he keeps a handle on his emotions quite well, so no one around him would ever notice his restlessness, but if he hasnโt reconnected with the outside world for too long, heโll meditate much more frequently and might appear somewhat restless.ย
When his missions take him to planets with flowers, heโll sneak petals that he can press and save as little souvenirs or to study them back at the Temple.ย
He is passionate about learning different healing techniques and methods, so he would be the kind of person who will watch the entire process of having blood drawn from start to finish. Heโs perfected the art of doing it in a swift/stealthy manner if the situation calls for it or the person he has to draw blood from is squeamish.
Heโs a sucker for a sad story. When he was younger, heโd been accused of having a savior complex, but he just genuinely cares deeply for others and wants to offer solutions to problems whenever they arise, or to be the solution, if he can be.ย
His most expressive feature are his eyes. They seem to change shades depending on his mood.ย
Heโs the one everybody turns to for advice because he always seems to know what to do or how to handle any situation that arises. The part he struggles with is listening to his own advice.ย
Heโs introspective, almost to a fault. Heโll often zone out and it might appear that he isnโt listening, but heโs only deep in thought, taking every word to heart.ย
When he was a youngling and had time to himself, heโd visit gardens and โrescueโ little clumps of grass growing in between cracks in the concrete and plant them somewhere else, giving them water and checking on them as frequently as he could to see if theyโd take root and start to grow.ย
Loves to eat all different types of fruit.
Went through a phase of being really annoying about having the proper daily intake of water and carried around an obnoxiously large thermos.ย
If a stormโs coming, heโs going outside to watch it roll in. He has a healthy respect for lightning and as soon as the strikes come close enough he will take shelter.
One of his favorite sensations is grass beneath his bare feet.
Not a lot of things shorten his patience as quickly as hair pulling. He thinks of it as being disrespectful and he doesnโt like if anyone tries to touch his hair without asking for permission.ย
Heโs fairly sentimental for a Jedi. Most of his possessions are gifts or things heโs been given throughout his life. He doesnโt feel comfortable getting rid of anything given to him in good faith or by someone he cares for.
Likes things to be tidy and in order. If his space is cluttered, his mind feels cluttered too.
Loves honey and is fascinated by bees.
Uses peppermint to combat nausea so heโs always got mints in his pockets, just in case.ย
As well as eating healthy, he likes to take a daily multivitamin and other supplements.ย
Has tried yoga on more than one occasion and is surprisingly agile for his height.
As a Padawan, Obi-Wan would sometimes forget to eat and so Qui-Gon got used to having at least one snack on him at all times, just in case his padawan got hungry or he came across someone who needed something to eat.
Loves dark chocolate, the higher percentage of cacao the better (80% or higher, preferably.)
Never puts ice in his water.
Is a big fan of birdwatching and has bird identification guides downloaded onto his datapad for every planet heโs been to.ย
He uses the same devices for as long as possible and wonโt upgrade to newer models until the ones he has practically no longer function or hold a proper charge.ย
When he was younger, he struggled with such severe anxiety that his stress began to mimic arthritis symptoms. Since that time in his life, heโs done everything he could to let go of any unnecessary stress and handle his anxiety in a healthy manner.ย
He prefers a colder climate as opposed to a hotter one. He cannot stand heat waves and wears his hair in a bun if itโs going to be especially hot, but not often because the sweat gets trapped in it and irritates his scalp.ย
Heโs written some poetry in his lifetime but has never shared it because itโs never been a topic thatโs come up.ย
Has a candle collection so vast that heโs forgotten about some of them. He likes to light one for evening meditation or while he showers.
Is a big fan of low light in the evening (think Himalayan salt lamp type of warm light.)
He loves turtles and amphibians, frogs and toads especially, and would put those little โtoad homesโ in the temple gardens. (I want frogs and toads to exist in Star Wars, so now they do lol.)
If he ever visited Earth, heโd love reading Grimmโs fairytales and folklore.ย
When he thinks what he is doing is right, heโs incredibly stubborn.ย
No matter how many times he travels through hyperspace, heโs never gotten used to how beautiful the stars are. He loves stargazing on clear nights, when heโs far from the ambient light on Coruscant that washes them out.
Qui-Gon in a romantic relationship headcanonsโฆ
His primary love language is physical touch, secondary to acts of service.ย
He loves the taste of lip balm on his partnerโs lips and will kiss it off any chance he gets.
Itโs the little things. Qui-Gon doesnโt like grand romantic gestures and wouldnโt want his partner to go out of their way to make a fuss over him. He prefers quiet nights together, sharing thoughts and ideas, maybe over dinner or a glass of wine.ย
Similarly, he is regretful when his partner wants to tend to injuries he has sustained during missions. He would prefer to let the healers keep him bedridden for days rather than see the way his loverโs eyes widen in shock when they see all the dark bruises and cuts on his body.ย
Heโs perfectly content enjoying โboringโ hobbies. Qui-Gon is the sort of person who would be happy to watch grass grow. Heโll lay in a field with you tucked under his arm, watching the clouds roll by overhead, pointing out ones which remind him of things (and of you.)
He brings you all sorts of beautiful little trinkets from all over the galaxy that he acquires from various sources like quaint markets and street vendors.ย
He has an impressive memory and remembers things even youโve forgotten that you told him.ย
Always uses a soft voice with you, like water that erodes hardened stoneโgentle, yet insistent.ย
He adores having you lay against his chest while he tenderly runs his hands along your sides and thighs, his heart hammering steadily against your back.ย
If you have arguments, he is extremely patient and wants to discuss your different points of view rather than letting it create distance between you. He will simply listen to what you have to say and expects that you offer him the same courtesy, but if you need some time to calm down before you are in a mindset that is conducive to holding respectful conversation, he will give you space to recenter yourself.ย
He wonโt let you wallow in your sadness and anxieties. If something is bothering you, he can sense it and will tactfully ask you about it, gently prompting you, because he believes bottling up your feelings isnโt healthy.ย
He never wants you to feel like your worth or his love are something you must earn. You are valuable simply because you exist and his love is freely given. He cares deeply for you and your well-being, mentally, physically and emotionally.ย
๐คฃ.๐ฅง.๐กผ.โQui-Gon x Rose Selfship Lore ๐คฃ.๐ฅง.๐กผ.โ
I've been working on this lore sheet for MONTHS. I made a couple of these a few years ago, but this time I created and filled out my own template, and included some questions that were not previously found on my old lore sheets. This is subject to change if/when more info is available or added. If you read this, I hope you enjoy learning about my little paracosm; life with Qui is so beautiful and I am so fortunate to have his heart.
Note: I also included the questions themselves at the bottom of this filled out sheet, so others can fill this out if they'd like to!
word count: 2,491
Relationship timelineโhow long have you been together/how long have you known them?
In real time, he's been an F/O for a year. I don't really consider a timespan relevant to any of my writing, since I mostly just write different scenarios/imagines, so it doesn't matter how long we've been together in relation to reading my fics. Things of this nature are very abstract for us and we don't put too much effort into remembering specific timelines. What's important is the time we spend together and the things that we do, not dates and timestamps. While it's important to remember, we don't uphold ourselves to unreasonable or impractical standards of memorizing every little detail.
That being said, I consider our official date that we got together as being July 11, 2025 and married on January 13, 2026. I do like to journal little things about us or thoughts I have relating to our relationship, just so that I don't forget, but we prefer to be as "in the moment" as possible.ย ย
How did your relationship start/how did you end up together?ย ย
In-universe, I headcanon that Qui-Gon likes to gamble a bit, within reason. While he does believe that all gamblers eventually lose, a healthy dose of betting is something he does enjoy and he likes the mental aspect of it, the challenge of leaving something up to chance, because he wouldnโt dare to cheat in a proper establishment. Perhaps heโs sent out on some mission that takes him to Bespin for one reason or another, maybe heโs dragged Obi-Wan there to teach his Padawan a little about letting go of his inhibitions and learning to trust his own instincts (or how to read the subtleties of a personโs expression when theyโre attempting to hide or conceal information.) Either way, he and I cross paths and the rest, as they say, is history.ย
Do you have a ship name or phrase? What is the inspiration behind it?
"A flower in his garden" is our ship phrase.ย
I chose it because my name is Rose, so flower imagery was something I wanted to include, and the way that I perceive Qui-Gon is that he is very in touch with the Force, meditative and reflective and that's the side of him I'm very drawn to. Life is, essentially, his garden and I'm a living part of it. Iโve described Qui as having โgardenerโs handsโ, which means to me that he is unafraid of putting in the necessary work and effort to achieve something beautiful. He is as much a gardener of his life as he is of actual flower gardens.ย
Another phrase I'll use for him occasionally is "secret gardens in my mind" and this is both a Taylor Swift lyric which I relate heavily towards self-shipping and my inner life, as well as in reference to the thoughts and ideas I have about my relationship with Qui-Gon. He is my "secret garden" and our relationship lives rent free in my mind every single day. I typically use this tag on my blog to lay out our more intimate details, while the main tag is used primarily for glimpses into our life together and specific headcanons and scenarios.ย Itโs a catch-all for everything relating to us, and sometimes Iโll use Qui x Rose as a tag, as well as the two emojis (๐ฒ๐น)ย if itโs something I want to reblog without the embarrassment of using our preferred tag/phrase.ย
Do you stick to canon or prefer to create AUs specific to your ship?
ย It solely depends on the mood I'm in/whether I'm just imagining him in various scenarios or am writing a fic. If I'm just imagining scenarios, typically it's an Earth!AU, which is essentially just how I'd imagine life beside him would be, i.e: the insertion of him into my daily life/routine and how I'd think my life might differ if he were a real, physical part of it. That's my favorite AU with every F/O and the one I stick to most of the time, but when I'm writing, that's another story. I've only written a couple of Qui-Gon fics and all of them are Star Wars canon AU, but I can't say its my favorite because if I existed within the Star Wars universe, I personally would never want to be a Jedi, but I feel that most likely that's how I would have wound up being close to Qui in universe, but I mostly headcanon that my self-insert is a casino mogul from Bespin, since that planet is so gorgeous in the original trilogy and itโs a known tourist hot spot.ย
I also have an angel!AU where my self-insert is an angel. I know canonically angels aren't a real thing in Star Wars, they're creatures that live on the moons of Iego, (thanks, Anakin) but it's my little world and I can do what I want with it.ย
Qui-Gon is always getting himself into things that are un-Jedi-like, so it's not that difficult to imagine different methods of meeting him, depending on which AU or in-universe idea I'm choosing to imagine.ย
Nicknamesโtheirs for you, yours for them.
His for me: Little flower/little one, moonflower (this one also functions as an alias if we canโt use our real names for some reason, i.e. weโre having to keep our relationship secret due to the Jedi codeโs non-attachment rules), honey/honeybee, dear one, sweetheart, lovie (very protective of this oneโwon't let anyone else call me that.)
Mine for him: Most of the time, I just call him Qui or Master, but I also will refer to him as darling/love.ย Luna moth functions as his alias, like moonflower is mine. Thatโs how we refer to ourselves when we cannot speak openly/freely about our relationship due to the Jediโs stance on attachment.ย
What is your favorite physical and personal feature about them? Theirs about you?
My favorite physical feature of his is his hair. I think it goes without saying that I prefer his hair because not only is it a symbolic attribute of his chosen lifestyle and a tangible expression of his patience and dedication, it is also so silken and soft and I love running my fingers through it. Qui-Gon lets me help him care for his hair and together we've created a special routine where we care for each other's hair, comb, brush and style it, and occasionally he'll let me braid it for him.ย
In a similar vein, I think Qui-Gon likes my hair as well (and might be secretly a bit jealous because mine is longer haha!) but I think he also loves my eyes because, as they say, the eyes are windows to the soul and he can see every little emotion/nuance to my behavior as it is expressed through my gaze. I tend to keep my emotions close to my chest, but Qui-Gon knows exactly how I'm feeling just by making eye contact (which he knows that I avoid for this very reason.)ย
Sleep patternsโsleep talker, restless sleeper, bed hog, snorer?ย
Qui-Gon is a calm sleeper, but he rarely gets into a deep sleep. He doesn't need as much sleep as he did whenever he was younger and therefore it doesn't have much effect on him that he does not sleep deeply most nights. Whenever I wake up throughout the night or get up for any reason, his eyes are open almost immediately and he'll ask if everything's alright. He always welcomes me back into bed, shifting over to offer me the warm spot where his body has been laying.ย
He likes for me to fall asleep tucked into his side with his arm wrapped around me as he lays on his back. He is typically a back sleeper, as is his preference, but if I'd like to spoon, he will of course oblige.ย
Occasionally he snores through his nose, but it is very faint and unnoticeable and doesn't usually do it for very long before changing positions which seems to remedy the noise.ย
As soon as daybreak arrives, he leaves the bed to meditate. He never forces me to join him and will let me sleep for as long as I need. This typically means I wonโt wake up next to him, but he hears me as soon as Iโve awakened and heโll come in to check on me and will sometimes lie down again for a cuddle.ย
Intimacyโwho is dominant and who is submissive, preferences, etc.ย
Qui-Gon has a bit of a dominant streak, but most of the time he keeps it in check because he knows I am not at all fond of that type of dynamic in a relationship. He has no desire for it eitherโhe craves an equal, loving, committed relationship, but there are moments of weakness, especially during intimacy when he can imagine himself taking control, bending to nothing other than the will of the Force, and swaying me to follow suit, but other than that, he is very mellow and easygoing. He can get caught up sometimes, losing himself and momentarily craving something more and he worries heโll lose himself completely and make a wrong move, but he has never overstepped a boundary; heโs very careful not to push for too much.ย
We both have very similar preferences and the foundation of our relationship is built on consent and trust. Weโre very open with each other about our desires, needs and wants, and that open dialogue of communication cultivates and strengthens our deep bond.ย For the most part, he and I are asexual, at varying degrees. Our intimate needs are satisfied mostly through physical closeness.ย
Associationsโlist some things that you associate with your F/O, i.e: colors, activities, items, etc.ย
Flowers: Moonflowers, wisteria, yarrow, lily of the valley, lotus, mint.
Colors: Green, blue, silver, brown, grey.
Activities: Meditation, reading, writing, long walks, mind puzzles (word searches, sudoku, etc.)ย
What is your favorite quote of theirs?
โYour focus determines your reality.โย This quote has become somewhat of a proverb for me. Wise words to live by, meaning that what you choose to focus on will be your reality, which is a necessary reminder for me since I have severe anxiety relating to future events and the unknown. Qui reminds me to instead focus my thoughts and energy on the present, rather than the things which trigger my anxiety unnecessarily. Adding to my own discomfort by focusing heavily on things which upset me do nothing except detract from my joy and happiness, and is not the reality I should be cultivating for myself. It is a manner of self-discipline as well as a state of mind, and, in a way, is a positive aspect of subtle manifestation; I can achieve the things I want in my life if I choose to focus on them and strive for reaching those goals.ย
Do you have a coupleโs song/playlist? Use this space to share what it is.ย
Honeybeeย by Olivia Rodrigo: Honeybee is our coupleโs song. Not only is it a nickname he fondly uses for me, it is also a song with a sticky-sweet melody that describes a gorgeous, precious love, coupled with the anxiety that comes with having something to lose. Qui and I both struggle to overcome anxiety and he hides it better than I do, so this song spoke to both of us on a level we werenโt prepared for. I know he and I both live in fear that weโll lose the other, which is why we both focus on the present as much as we can, and the blossoming love we have now.
Couldnโt Make It Any Harderย by Sabrina Carpenter: This track explores learning to let yourself be loved despite having been scarred by past relationships (an unfortunate scenario I know all too well). This deep-cut hurts me to include in our playlist, but it is the harsh reality of how it feels for me to try to let my guard down.ย
Lunaย by Tom Petty: Luna is of significance to our connection with the moon as this song references escapism and captures the moody, melodrama of a relationship that is centered around longing for someone unreachable. It feels that way, sometimes, within our relationship because of the Jediโs stance on attachment, as well as that we both are known to distance ourselves and disassociate from time to time due to our deep connection to both the world around us and our inner peace, as well as Quiโs connection to the Force guiding him in ways I sometimes struggle to understand.ย ย The song discusses romantic obsession and Luna/the moon is used as a metaphor for liberation. The impromptu, unrehearsed feeling of this song speaks to Quiโs philosophy of existing within the moment (and the lyrics are absolutelyย gorgeous.)
Sweet Nothingย by Taylor Swift: A soft, calming love song centered around blocking out the surrounding noise and two hearts narrowing down to just the love shared between them, separate from the pressures of the rest of the world and the demands life places on us.ย
Supernaturalย by Ariana Grande: One of the more upbeat songs on our playlist, how it feels to completely surrender to an all-consuming, passionate, sparkling love rather than fighting it. Once I knew I wanted to marry him, this song is truly how Iโve felt about Qui. Iโve spent a large portion of our relationship trying to distance myself from the feeling of falling in love, but now that weโve married, I feel very safe within myself and trust him enough to surrender myself to this magical connection that weโve built.ย
With Youย by Aly & AJ: A song about embracing a dizzying, consuming relationship, and losing yourself within it, wanting connection and closeness with your partner. Sometimes I forget that the rest of the world exists when Qui and I are together.ย
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Since most of the self ship templates available include a lot of the information written above, I am using this space to share our marriage certificate (I designed it myself<3) Just wanted to also include that Benedict is my self-insert's last name, not my real name. My real last name won't ever be shared on here.
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Qui says Iโm his moonflower, as per the beautiful pendant he got me to honor our marriage. What heโd gotten before seemed to have been just a placeholder for what was to comeโI think this is the perfect one and Iโm sure he agrees.
According to folklore, moonflowers symbolize mystery, magic, new beginnings and romance and were thought to have certain medicinal properties. They are symbolic of night and provide a botanical link to the lunar cycle because they only bloom at night.
Qui-Gon hates my sleep schedule or lack thereof. Last night I was up until 3:30am and slept until 11:00am. Heโs trying desperately to get me to go to sleep now (12:22pm) buuuut Iโm feeling snackish.
Iโm so terrible at putting together playlists because I donโt know or like a whole lot of music, but I am slowly growing a tiny, minuscule little playlist for me and Qui๐ฉต Itโs not much at all yet, but itโsโฆat least it exists. That much is enough for me.
Qui-Gonโs voice is always so tender whenever heโs trying to gently ease me into bed. I canโt help but ask if itโs okay to watch one more episode of my show before going to sleep and he tenderly strokes my hair as he agrees to just one more.
