Row's study

Alex, they/she/any, 21, 🇮🇹. My previous blog got sent to the shadow realm for... I assume there was a reason...? Eitherway, here I am, trying again. This time around I'll probably post more stuff and maybe I'll actually post my art. I'm an overall queer person, a pagan, and an aspiring artist and maybe writer. Header and pfp by me. Sidelog: @rows-desk

[rows-study]

So, since there seems to be a new flavour of infighting in the air, a little PSA:

If it looks like it was engineered to make you want to infight, that's because it fucking was. It's fucking bait.

If it's an anon claiming to be part of the community, I can guarantee: it's fucking bait.

If you're questioning whether something is bait or a genuinely infighty person, it's fucking bait.

If it makes you want to start a fratricide war inside the community that will make us all more vulnerable (yes, you too, because that's how civil wars work and have always worked historically), it's fucking bait.

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For the love of everything that is good in this universe, don't fall for the fucking bait.

And even in the extremely fucking rare occasions where it's not bait (99.9% of the time because the person who's being an ass fell for bait themselves before posting whatever it is that they posted), don't bite.

Block.

You can block anons. You can block posts. You can block everything and everyone on this site.

The block button is right there begging to be used. Do it.

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If we fight, we are more vulnerable.

Infighting is something outsiders cause to make us easier to stomp.

Infighting will literally Never lead to anything good or useful. Never. Not for you, not for the community, not for anyone but our common oppressors. Full fucking stop.

Don't. Start. Infighting.

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I will not take part in this bullshit and I will avoid reblogging inflammatory shit, like I have been avoiding it before making this post.

I will not contribute to this mindless, self destructive endeavour.

Please use common sense and critical thinking, realise that functionally all infighting is caused by Bait coming from outside the community, and Just Don't.

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This has been a PSA by: a tired queer who'd rather not have to make any more of these.

[crabussy]

I saw an anonymous ask that got sent to an artist I follow that was along the lines of "I need an outlet for my stress, and being mean to people makes me feel good" and I would really like to say. to anyone who is mean to others for the thrill of it. I understand you completely and I was EXACTLY the same a few years ago. you're right!! it DOES feel good!!!!

for a few minutes.

[crabussy]

and then you feel even worse than you did before. you're not "letting off steam", you're building a dependence on bullying, and you WILL end up with misery as your default emotional state. even if you don't behave this way to your loved ones, it WILL start showing.

I've had to distance myself from friends whose main form of entertainment seemed to be upsetting strangers over harmless disagreements. play a stressful video game. join a sports team. get into media analysis and get angry at a shitty tv show. there are ways to blow off steam that won't make you a miserable person who has a hard time finding ways to relax.

[crabussy]

if I got out of that "get angry -> take it out on people -> feel good -> feel worse and need an outlet -> repeat" cycle, that means it's possible.

as soon as my efforts to escape that cycle started paying off, I was NOTICEABLY less stressed, I was VISIBLY healthier, and the urge to fight with people died down.

[crabussy]

these days, I'm quick to delight, I find it very easy to be kind to people, and I can calm myself down before jumping to conclusions. and I can tell you with absolute certainty that life feels IMMEASURABLY more enjoyable this way. my good days outnumber my bad days 10 to 1 despite the fact that I still deal with the same things I used to, and those bad days are much easier than they used to be anyway.

[crabussy]

but how do you even escape? what's the first step?

the next time you find yourself itching to lash out at someone to get that good rush of anger, try taking it to private dms with a friend who gets you! this stops the person you're angry at from responding and continuing the argument, which helps that reward-response feeling fizzle out.

from there, try a high-focus-high-stress fun activity instead of talking about it AT ALL. like I said earlier! video games! horror movies! go for a bike ride at full speed! let the cortisol and adrenaline or whatever it might be course through you until you feel calmer.

once you've got that down as a skill, you could even try flipping that anger on its head. MAKE something out of it. someone's artstyle pisses you off? make your own art the way YOU think it should be. someone hates something you like? talk with your friends about how that same something brings you joy, and why!

best of luck. been there. this isn't meant to be patronising or condescending. I don't know better than you. I only know how good it feels, and how bad it can be for you and the people you care about.

[isuggestguillotine]

i have a suggestion for relieving stress

[crabussy]

you know what that's a good outlet too probably

[veltroxx]

ah yes, because crabs are renowned for their soothing therapy sessions.

[crabussy]

looks like someone hasn't tried acupincher

[girlstinkgood]

The pervert lesbian vintage board game collector has prepared a rigged copy of Twister and mentioned she hasn't showered this week

[isoli-indivi]

The pervert lesbian vintage boardgame collector insists the original rulebook for Twister mandates all players remove their socks and shoes before stepping on the mat

[villainessbian]

Not to derail the post but how can twister be rigged? Isn't it just a mat with colours?

[seraphina-aureline]

wouldn't you like to know~

[voynichs]

obsessed with the fact that the welcome to night vale guy thinks he invented "welcome to [blank]" and gets really indignant and thinks other people who use that phrase ripped him off. its amazing. its a level of confident i aspire to be.

[somafalls]

[beardedmrbean]

[spaceshipsandpurpledrank]

[cognitiveinequality]

[mon3trs]

in space no one can hear you moan like a girl

[fat-fuck-hairy-belly]

Ground control here, we can hear you just fine

[despazito]

sometimes an american will be talking to you and they start throwing around numbers like 70 or 90 when talking about the weather and you just have to smile and nod

[oneheadtoanother]

[shutyourmoustache]

Making exercises more accessible to the disabled? Fuck yeah!

[ariesrin]

I love characters who would die for each other but will not, under any circumstances, communicate a single honest feeling.

[drarry]

Imagine being the gays at a pride event in 2004 living their lives when someone grabs the microphone and announces to the room that Ronald Reagan was pronounced dead. Can you even imagine the hype, the celebration, the pure elation

[drarry]

This is the Pride Month that It will happen. I feel it in my gay bones

[broken-horn-of-equius]

[daughter-of-sapph0]

happy pride

[lindleland]

[learningtogirl]

I've seen this clip many times, but never really appreciated the power of "what was her problem?" Just casually assuming that lesbians come in a wide variety of shapes and being inclusive. As a transbian who is probably still closer to Homer shaped than to my ideal, that's huge!

[soyalexnajera]

[mimeo-tan]

everything is a recession indicator because capitalist economies are always in recession

[estro-boi]

we gotta get back to torrent distribution, i just watched someone eat eight grand in bandwidth charges because they ran a direct-download piracy site with local file hosting through cloudflare. torrents were invented literally for this exact reason

[estro-boi]

torrents work like this

i have a file or folder on my pc that i want to share with other people. let's call it gayshit.mp3

unfortunately gayshit.mp3 is 750mb and im not paying for discord nitro so i need another way to send it

i put it into qbittorrent and it makes a torrent file. this is essentially a very small file that points to gayshit.mp3 so other computers can find it. kinda like a treasure map

i send this tiny file to my friend, who loads it into qbittorrent. their computer takes a moment to find mine over the vast expanse of cyberspace and then (as long as my pc is running and the file is still where it should be), it gets copied from my hard drive to theirs

this is the cool part: if somebody else loads that tiny file, they can download it from both of us. if i'm offline but my friend is on, the third person can still get it. this also means that if two people have separate halves of the file, they can download the other half from each other. as long as some combination of people have the pieces between them, they can all have the whole thing.

crucially this does not require a server!!! you can just upload the file to a few people and as long as they keep it, it's still accessible. as long as somebody, somewhere is still connected, it's available forever. the only way it goes away is if everybody disconnects from it.

please learn to torrent

[macleod]

How to Use Torrents (with Pictures) - wikiHow

An expert guide to get started using torrentsTorrents are one of the most popular forms of file sharing on the internet, accounting for over

always use qbittorrent, do not use bittorrent or utorrent.

[zoesupreme]

well the thing is that's an extremely reasonable concern