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lucdoodle

Luigi!

goofbell

2023 karamatsu posting….

#I LOVE THIS FCKKK

conejobomba-deactivated20240125

🎀 sailor chibimoon ♡ sailor moon 🎀

dogposts

This dog unlocked the door for his human. (via)

animepopheart

★ 【jena】「 🌼 」 ☆ ⊳ mihashi // ookiku furikabutte ✔ republished w/permission ⊳ ⊳ follow me on twitter

fuckyeahchinesefashion

by 徐大花xudahua

a-krogan-skald-and-bearsark

Holy. Shit.

buried-in-stardust

A baby photoshoot

[eng by me]

punkitt-is-here

Super enjoying how much of the recent MLP stuff I've been watching (almost midway through season 6) deals with "friendship problems" that are more applicable to all ages. Stuff like "your friend is overworking herself and you're rightfully frustrated she can't find time to be with you and relax" and "I don't know what activities I can do with my friends anymore because we all like different things" and "I have a really annoying family member who I have to be tough on so they can become better" are all lessons that are good for kids to know, but also as a 20-something adult it just feels good to have a show talk about that kind of stuff. Like, yeah, the primary audience is kids, but I feel those!!! I understand these problems on a more relatable level and it's nice to have a show that's broadly optimistic and positive tackle things that are usually deemed too simple and childish to be worth bringing up in adult media without some sort of mature twist. I'm absolutely not saying those mature twists don't make for wonderful stories, or that MLP is only good when it caters to adults (which it obviously doesn't very frequently, it's still a show meant to sell toys to small girls) but you just don't see adult friendship problems tackled in pleasant and straightforward ways. The show doesn't have to mask any of its intent in a veil of maturity because it's a cartoon about talking pastel horses. I think a lot of stories for adults just kind of don't think it's worth their time to talk about this kind of stuff, because it's inheritly pretty simple, and a lot of works kind of assume you're too old to be talking about friendship problems, but that shit persists pretty much as long as you're alive and have friends, so it's just...nice to have a show focus on those small things that usually aren't acknowledged as its primary focus. I don't need to have a cartoon help me figure out the world - I'm a pretty well-functioning adult, I figure that out from other places - but it's just pleasant having something even acknowledge the smaller problems you can have in adult relationships and not be bitter or cynical about taking about them. It feels good!

wired-infornography

(via Show and Tell - Imgur)

2tonsea

I remember reading this a while back, I’m glad it’s made it’s way to my dash again

twotibsawhisker

things like this are more important than 90% of tumblr

whyisthisfrenchguymasturbating

bye im crying

majorasmssk

This comic made me feel things!

bluesilentartist

Hey, the source is not credited properly, so I thought that should be mentioned here. The short comic is from volume 5 of “Flight” comic anthology series. You can get a physical copy if you want to support the comic! The comic artist’s name is Svetlana Chmakova. Please check out her other works “Awkward”, “Brave”, and “Crush” at the library or bookstore! Also available in the ebook version. They all appear in the cute style and the color palette like the short comic.

For a fun fact, Svetlana Chmakova is the same artist who created “Dramacon” and “Nightschool” manga. Also the manga adaptation of ”Witch & Wizard”!

whatevercomestomymind

Beautiful

borderlinereminders

Radical Acceptance is basically about accepting our feelings, without pushing them down, even the negative ones.

It means accepting reality and feelings for what they are, though it doesn't mean you don't want to change them.

Here's an example (This is a "small" situation because I think this is best started with a more manageable circumstance first.):

Step 1 - Think of a situation that you have feelings about. (Note that I don't recommend trying this with traumatic events to start which is why I've used the example below.)

Example: Yesterday I embarrassed myself in front of the cashier at the store when she said "Here's your receipt" and I said "thanks, you too!" This has heightened my anxiety about future situations where I need to talk to a stranger.

Step 2 - What caused the event? Stick to facts and don't make judgements about something you've done.

Example: I was distracted by feeling overwhelmed and misunderstood what she was saying.

Step 3 - Accepting the feelings. What emotions do you feel when you think back on this event? Try and be open about this and note any physical changes you might feel like your heart beat increasing.

Example: I feel embarrassed when I think back on it and it makes my hands a little sweaty.

Step 4 - The plan. This is where you come up with a plan on how to handle the situation and/or its effects. If you are not significantly affected by the situation, the acceptance steps may be enough. The DBT skill "Wise Mind" might be a good skill to use when coming up with a plan

Example: I can use rational thoughts to help me navigate this. Realistically, she probably talks to dozens of people a day. She also unfortunately probably deals with a lot of rude people that are more likely to stay on her mind rather than my little mix up with words. If anything, maybe it was refreshing for her because I was polite and chipper with her and maybe she felt the positive effects of that mood I was trying to convey.

Here are some coping thoughts that may help:

I do not have control of the past, only this current moment.

Ignoring my emotions only allows them to fester and continue to bother me.

This is uncomfortable, but I am going to get through this.

violentviolette

i often find the language of dbt to be extremely alienating to people with cluster b pds and its such a shame because the concepts themselves do genuinely work

gratitude for example, telling people who've been abused their entire lives "u just have to focus on what ur grateful for" or having us write lists of things we're "grateful" for often feels kind of like a slap in the face. "being grateful" is often a thing used against abuse victims to keep us complacent. we always have to be "grateful" something wasn't worse instead of being allowed to acknowledge the pain we've been put through. it's a touchy word for a lot of us

but the *concept* that dbt "gratitude" is proposing is actually just perspective. life is a constant flow of experiences, some are good, some are bad, and it's very very easy to see the bad things that happen. they hurt and suck and so u remember every little one that happened in ur day and so its easy to get swallowed up by them and feel like ur life is nothing but bad things. on the other hand noticing the small good things is a lot harder and takes some practice, but once u start doing it u realize that ur day to day life is much more balanced than u thought it was. there are suddenly more good things that ur taking notice of that are now at the forefront of ur mind and shit doesnt feel so hopeless and desolate. it helps to give u a better and more balanced perspective

framed that way i think a lot more people understand and can resonate with it. instead of "learning to be grateful" its about "actively acknowledging small things that make u happy" which is much more tangible of a goal for a lot of people. taking the time to appreciate the cool bug u saw or the cat u got to pet or that really good song u heard or cup of coffee u had, teaching people to stop for a second in those moments and acknowledge "hey this is good, this made me happy" is what the core concept of gratitude is trying to teach. but i just feel like the language it uses to try and do that is ultimately really ineffective for the people it was designed to help

mordcore

for those of you like me, who are poor and can't afford to buy things just because they are pretty, and who struggle with spending or impulse control, some advice on how i learnt to stop buying the pretty things anyway:

notice which websites and stores make you buy things and spend too much money. and stop going there. don't open that online store. just do not. block it from your browser if necessary, there's probably plugins for that.

don't go into the irl store, or limit visits to a few times a year, and make a budget. eg. "i can spend €50 in darkstore today" because i actually have the €50, and if i don't, i better don't go at all. yes your friends who want to go with you might be annoyed or disappointed, but if they really are your friends, they'll understand that poverty is no joke and neither is impulsive spending. you can hang out in the park or at your home instead it's gonna be okay.

notice things that make you want to seek out those stores. for me it was the rush of buying new things to cope with feelings of loss of control over my life ("retail therapy"). find better coping methods. i find that badly playing a song i like on the guitar and singing along, or making a drawing or collage about my feelings or about something else is a great way to cope with difficult emotions, and there are other good skills as well like talking to a friend, taking a walk, cutting or dying my own hair, exercise such as hitting a punching bag, doing as many pushups as you can, running as fast as you can; watching a comfort show or playing a comfort game, taking personality tests online, and there are many other options because not everything works for everyone nor for every situation: dbt skills pdf

identify your needs and find activities that help you with them. 👍 this goes for any kind of emotional struggle and maladaptive coping btw it's just that impulse buying lead me to so much more stress down the road but i got a lot better at it and thought i'd share some of what helped me

#self help