The Dreamscape

Welcome I am; kylie. mid-30s. tea lover. coffee connoisseur. reader. writer. thinker. dreamer. feminista. i.e. fabulously feminist. capricorn. introvert. video-gamer. nerf herder. cat person. disney lover. formerly safkhet

[ur-daily-inspiration]

[badjokesbyjeff]

How many Apple engineers does it take to change a lightbulb?

None. They no longer make that socket, you just buy a new house.

[lady-raziel]

Tumblr is thinking of implementing an algorithm instead of the current following feed to ‘help smaller creators get in front of people’ and I’m like that’s what putting tags on your posts is for?

I’ve curated my following feed over YEARS and I don’t want it all of a sudden junked up with shit I’m not interested in because of some fucking algorithm. If smaller creators want to be seen, then they should put stuff in the tags. Putting random people’s shit all over my feed is not going to make me want to engage with it.

The reason why so many people like this website is because you are in control of tailoring your experience on here. But what that requires is some work— you can’t just come on here and expect it to be immediately altered to you personally. That being said, an algorithm that just throws shit at you that it thinks you’ll like is not the answer. At the end of the day it’s going to actually make it harder for people to tailor their experience on here, which will make the site worse.

[sadhoc]

i understand that this is the "disabled people know our own limitations" website, but ime, if you are the kind of disabled where everyone around you knows about it and has known you as a weak, incompetent, subhuman creature your entire life: it is important to learn how to make the distinction between "i can't" and "i'm not allowed to."

"i can't hold fragile things without breaking them" vs "my housemates won't let me do dishes anymore."

"i can't manage my own finances" vs "my family won't let me make my own financial decisions"

"i can't ever learn how to drive" vs "the state has decided that people with my disability cannot be allowed to drive."

also "what would need to happen for it to be possible for me to be able to do dishes?" or "what would i need if i were to ever move out?" or "what kinds of supports would i need if i did try volunteering?"

even if the answer to these you come away with is "i actually cannot do the thing, no matter what supports or accommodations i'm given" that's fine! they're still useful questions to ask!

[discodeerdiary]

Boy did I ever have to learn the difference between "I often struggle with normative social cues and subtext" and "I am bad at socializing and will embarrass the people I'm with every time I open my mouth"

[fierceawakening]

Absolutely.

At the risk of making other disabled people scream and yell at me, "can't" is not in my vocabulary.

"Not worth the literal months of research and construction/training/exercise/surgery/$foo it would require to do" is what's in my vocabulary.

[aspiringwarriorlibrarian]

You know, it's kinda funny how much of high fantasy centers around kings and nobility and courtly intrigue considering that the archetypal high fantasy, Lord of the Rings, had the rather explicit moral of "saving the world is up to this backwater hick and his gardener because no politician, least of all inherited nobility, would have the ability to see past their own ambition and throw away a weapon". Oh sure, Aragorn is a great king and all, but there's a reason he's over there running a distraction ring while the hobbits do the real work. Sauron loses because he gets distracted by kings and armies and great battles (i.e. typical high fantasy stuff) letting Frodo and Sam sneak through his back door and blow it all to hell.

Just saying, maybe old Jirt knew what he was saying when he said that the small folk doing their best and holding to each other was more powerful than a dozen alliances and superweapons and we should respect him for it.

[hamletthedane]

(No but seriously OP you’re exactly right)

[willowcrowned]

Maybe it’s just because I’m Jewish but I do truly believe that life gets ten times better when you learn to complain cheerfully

[willowcrowned]

I think a part of it is that it lets you acknowledge that something sucks, which is actually really good in a culture that wants us to pretend that everything is fine and we’re soldiering through all the time. Like, no, my grocery bag breaking and spilling all over the floor is not fine. I’ve had a long day and I’m really upset and on the verge of tears because I can’t handle one more thing and pretending like it’s fine only means breaking down later.

But if you let yourself complain, if you let yourself swear terribly and creatively, and you stare down at the bruised vegetables like they’ve personally disappointed you, and you make yourself smile because this is really just so, so stupid, you feel a little better. There’s a power to acknowledging that something sucks and making yourself feel better anyways. There’s a power to going “and THEN my bag broke, and it’s like—seriously? my day was bad enough” and doing it with a smile.

You shouldn’t have to pretend things are fine when they aren’t. You shouldn’t have to force yourself to smile through things that make you feel terrible. But if you can make yourself laugh by staring down at some strawberries that have decided to revolt, and give them a lecture on why they’re just terrible, really, and that makes you smile—then maybe that’s a good thing.

[magicalgirlmindcrank]

Wild that Harley Quinn has always been this great of a character

[sailor-swan-quill]

truly the best thing about Batman The Animated Series (besides... everything else about it realistically) is the introduction and establishment of Harleen Quinzel aka THE Harley Quinn. <3's forever

[wooshofficial]

Girl what the fuck is going on in tumblr offices right now to let the decisions they just dropped be made

To the executive who made the decision and the RND staff that told said exec to make that decision: the only reason you’re winning the race right now is because you’re the tortoise. Don’t be the fucking hare.

[wooshofficial]

“Valley what the fuck are you talking about”

Today, tumblr staff posted a very long announcement on their blog, which you can find here.

It’s a long post that’s pretty hard to read, mostly because the entire thing reads like the writer was held at gunpoint by the zuck himself. (To the poor staff member who had to write this shitshow, I’m so sorry, may you get a raise for your efforts) Here are some of the main points:

Tumblr (the company) is concerned about gaining more users from outside sources, such as other social media sites

They’re planning on doing this by updating their advertising practices to the industry standard (basically, advertising tumblr the way Meta advertises Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat, or the way Twitter advertises itself)

They want to change how tumblr looks when you’re not logged in so that more people are convinced to sign up (they didn’t say how, exactly) but that’s not fully fleshed out yet

Gave a very interesting statistic that the average tumblr user scrolls though 25 posts a day and did not specify wether or not this is good or bad (most likely because it’s fucking wrong)

Plan to improve their “algorithmic ranking capabilities on all feeds” (which I don’t understand fully, but it sure fucking sounds like data mining)

Plan to change thread mechanics again, but this time they’re collapsible

Plan on putting new creators in the forefront by boosting their visibility on all dashes, and “improving the feedback loop for creators” (which once again I don’t understand fully)

Plan on implementing spam filters when posts make rounds

There’s a lot more RND on their end about to happen, regarding notifications, emails and staff-to-user communications

Want to make emails more personal per creator (??????????)

Backend stuff regarding site stability and performance on mobile

TL;DR: Tumblr is attempting to catch up with other social medias by becoming more like Twitter, even though the whole reason they had a massive influx of users recently was because of their lack of invasive, intrusive and vile business practices to sell themself.

Needless to say, people are fucking pissed. A lot of this is the exact opposite of what tumblr users want, and feels like the thing that’ll make this site finally crash and burn alongside the others. Which is terrifying!

So if staff are reading this, I’m gonna repeat my statement: the singular reason your site ended up being refuge in this time of dying socials is because the bar is in hell, and you barely jumped it by not having the bells and whistles that everyone’s tired of. Don’t trip while you’re still ahead.

[cacodaemonia]

Uh.

Thank you, op. I just. I also need to point out this part right at the beginning of the staff post:

The underlying problem is that Tumblr is not easy to use. Historically, we have expected users to curate their feeds and lean into curating their experience. But this expectation introduces friction to the user experience and only serves a small portion of our audience. 

@staff THE ABILITY TO CURATE OUR OWN DASHES IS THE BEST PART OF THIS SITE.

I can't think of many people who will stay around if some algorithm takes over and instead of seeing the things we actually want to see, we instead get fed nothing but blazed posts or whatever is most controversial atm.

STOP TRYING TO MAKE TUMBLR LIKE THE REST OF THE SOCIAL MEDIA HELLSCAPE.

Like op said:

the singular reason your site ended up being refuge in this time of dying socials is because the bar is in hell, and you barely jumped it by not having the bells and whistles that everyone’s tired of. Don’t trip while you’re still ahead.

[socialjusticeinamerica]

[posttexasstressdisorder]

None whatsoever, in fact.

[boot2004-deactivated20250524]

It’s time to bring this one here

[qiwhy]

I will always reblog this

[beowulf22121]

If this is the one I'm thinking of, Nazi got on a bus saying Nazi things, not to anyone, just saying the things out loud. People asked him to cool his jets, he refused and talked tough.

Puncher stood his ground and the argument continued off the bus. The argument was something along the lines of "I'm not saying you specifically should die, just all people not like me" and replies like "well I think you shouldn't say that"

The Nazi then tries to put a hand out and do the classic "wait wait wait, I don't want to fight." routine, leaving us with the clip above.

After the clip above a cop comes by, wakes the Nazi up, and asks if something is happening. The Nazi rips off his arm band and stuffs it in a pocket. Then he glares at Punchy, says "No we're all fine" or something similar, and storms off.

So yeah, this Nazi was being antagonistic for a good while before punchy decided he couldn't be swayed. Anyone willing to make excuses for the arm band seeing this will see it as a poor victim calling for peace being attacked. It's not. It's the Nazi realizing his hate speech has forced him into a corner and he's about to face the consequences of his actions. Maybe he threw away the arm band and changed his ways, and maybe he repaired it to try on a different bus, I don't know. I do know he learned that people aren't afraid.

[frauggiethecreature]

reblog if you fully and intentionally are referring to aspec people as well when you use the word queer to refer to the community

[mckitterick]

my partner once said, "if you have to explain your sexuality to straight people, you're probably queer"

[shrineart]

Your partner is smart.

[crazy-pages]

This is brain rewiring.

[junflower123]

[fvlter]

I was gunna put this in the tags but it’s a lot. When i first started going through the process of getting a diagnosis, i was labelled with ODD. I immediately took issue with this, it seemed like an unfair diagnosis based entirely on the session the psychiatrist had with my parents (which mostly consisted of “my child is being really difficult on purpose”), and Hoo Boy when i tell you ODD immediately strips you of your ability to call out anyone on anything, that would be an understatement. I couldn’t even disagree or bring up my concerns about the validity of MY OWN DIAGNOSIS without it being labelled as oppositional defiance. Whenever i displayed any negative emotion the “treatments” did so much more harm than good. When you label someone as ‘defiant’ (ugh), when that word is put on their medical record, that person is never allowed to complain about anything again. Knowing that POC are disproportionately affected with this diagnosis makes me feel sick, i can only imagine what’s being swept under the rug as someone just being “defiant to authority”, not even just in the medical field but as justification for police brutality and mass incarceration. When i say medical racism kills people, this is what i mean.

[noodle-the-queen]

this is so fucking important. reblog.

[the-messy-artist]

Has this been done yet

[msilverstar]

[ID: Pippin : "What about pride month?"

Aragorn, next to a Pride flag, "You've already had Pride month"

Pippin: next to a Disabled Pride flag, "We've had one, yes, but what about second Pride month?" /ID]

[transtessbian]

*my skirt flies up in the wind* kyaaaaaa!

*frantically tries to hold my skirt down as a comically large number of weapons spill out from under it*

[transtessbian]

*a gentle breeze slightly ruffles my skirt and one last dagger falls out*

[beemovieerotica]

it's so funny to me that conservatives think the reason university students become more liberal is because of the actual course material and not like. the fact that universities in the US introduce are oftentimes the first place Americans are introduced to a walkable environment with affordable health care, with community spaces for any affiliation under the sun where they give you free resources and cheap food. with included public transit and opportunities for training in your field of choice. and you realize that for how much you're spending on tuition/taxes, yeah, you do deserve these things, it would be insane not to have those. and then you graduate and go back to having to buy a car to drive 20 minutes to the grocery store.

[chibisketches]

It's also one of the first places a lot of people raised in insular, conservative areas meet "the other". People of other ethnicities and cultures, people of other religions, other gender presentations, sexualities, etc. You get to know them and start realizing how much of what you "knew" about them was myth or straight-up propaganda.

It's a lot harder to demonize queer people when the person helping you pass calculus is a trans woman, or your lab partner talks about his boyfriend exactly the same way you talk about yours. It's a lot harder to believe that immigrants are out to get you when your Hindu roommate cheerfully shares a care package of homemade goodies from home, or Malia down the hall covers your lunch because you forgot to bring your wallet to study group. You start rethinking some assumptions when the 6 foot spike-encrusted goth who sits behind you in lecture hall shows everyone photos of his baby niece dressed like a puppy for Halloween with all the pride of a new parent, and you remember when your flannel and camo-wearing uncle did the same thing at work last year with photos of your little sister.

Suddenly all those "others" are just people. They're your friends, classmates, coworkers, and maybe even romantic interests. And that's a lot harder to hate or fear.

[batsarebetterthanpeople]

here's my hot take about my generation and people younger than me (I'm 22 years old)

The reason current teenagers and people in their really early 20s are conservative on accident and have such shitty takes on the internet is because our generation was much more sheltered than previous generations and because we were raised to be ok with orwellian servailence and that is 100% the fault of our parents, Reagan Era kidnapping panics, and the rise of technology all coming together to prevent us from doing the sketchy shit that sends parents into panic mode but which is also completely fundemental to childhood development. If your parents had even a crumb of money to their name and even a shred of free time they started tracking your phone as soon as it was possible to. I did not experience this because my parents are actively trying to live like it's the 1990s and still have not gotten cell phones of their own, and did not let me have one until I was 18 years old and it was no longer their choice, but literally over half of my friends in middle and high school had their phones tracked by their parents at some point or other, and we would occasionally find this out, not because their parents told them, but when we were trying to do the aforementioned sketchy shit and their parent's car would pull up. And I would, like a reasonable person after finding this out, encourage my friends to just leave their phones at home, and their response would be "What if I get kidnapped" or "My parents are just trying to keep me safe"

This in my estimation has lead to a combination of kids being terminally online because they do have internet access and are better at deleting search history than their parents think they are, but don't have the freedom to go out and do shit without their parents' knowledge or consent, so they have the most privacy from the people who control their lives while they're on the internet, and kids not having the real world experiences they should have, not knowing how to connect with other people irl, not feeling comfortable leaving the house because of the horror story lies their parents told them to make them ok with the surveillance they were inflicting on their kids. Kids these days are growing up in the fucking panopticon when they should be out in the woods playing with knives or stealing cigarettes from their older sibling and going out to an empty parking lot to smoke them or whatever and that shit is sticking with them into adulthood. Things that were "tee hee we could get in trouble isn't this so fun and daring" in the 1990s and 2000s have become in the 2010s and 2020s things that are "If I do that without texting my parents some sort of lie to excuse where my location is my parent's car will pull up and I will get grounded for the next two weeks."

Like even when I was 19 I had a 16 year old friend who would volunteer their time at a food shelf and that's how we knew each other. We would talk about dungeons and dragons together, and the game store was 4 blocks from the food shelf. One day we left the food shelf earlier than they had told their parents they would and they got punished for that. We were literally just going to look at dungeons and dragons miniatures and dice, which was self evident if you could see where we started and how far we walked and where too. I have to assume that this isn't uncommon. It's wrong, but it's not uncommon.

[batsarebetterthanpeople]

Ok it has become apparent to me that people do not understand what I mean by conservative on accident.

Nobody my age is voting republican. Let's be clear on that. With the exception of a small minority of gamer gaters and people who were raised in actual cults most people my age are either commies or good liberals who votes straight blue down the ticket. This is because of the greta thunberg effect. We're all afraid of dying of thirst because there's no water anymore at the age of 35. Wealthy white children are no longer safe with the republican party which has become less of a political party and more of a death cult, and white children are less wealthy than they used to be (I specify white because POC by in large never voted for the party of the southern strategy for obvious reasons). We as a generation are so insanely blue that they're trying to raise the voting age to 25 about it.

This liberalism and party affiliation doesn't preclude them from being conservative on accident. What I mean by that is... Well

No kink at pride is a great example. The assumption that pride should exist at all makes them think that they're immune to conservative logic but they're still trying to enforce a dominant ideology onto a minority group. That person who made the tweet about how you shouldn't have sex in houses where there are children in the other room and if you can't avoid it you're a sex addict. That's a great example of like straight up puritanism coming out of the mouth of someone who proports themselves to be a leftist

If you ever see a discourse that feels like an obvious psyop as an adult and you can't understand why these supposed leftist youths are falling for it it's because that kid has never had sex in the woods and had to try to buy plan b under their parent's nose. My generation is dumb about sex. We're dumb about drugs. We're dumb about theft. We moralize literally everything. We're so dumb about stranger danger that we never learned how to community organize so while the vast vast majority of us are crushed by existential dread about debt and climate change but we never do anything about it because we just don't know how to organize because we're raised to see everyone else as a threat and we never went to or organized parties as teens because our parents would always know and stop us.

They managed to invent a generation that hates capitalism but fully buys into individualism and who is supportive of queer people and way less monogamous than previous generations but who still buys into the base assumptions of the nuclear family and thinks sex is evil. The levels of politics going on here are way weirder and stupider and more complicated than "young people vote republican and watch Fox news"

[hairasuntouchedaspartoftheamazon]

I've never seen anybody explain it so well

[tiktoks-for-dead-pope]

[anarchy-in-new-vegas]

I love Henry Cavill's portrayal, but this person looks more like how Geralt is described in the books than Cavill or Witcher 3's Geralt. Lean and a little wiry.