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I'm not even sure what I want to achieve with this post, but since Jongin means a lot to me, I want to write down my thoughts about Kaistal being official now:

First of all - I'm happy for both of them. Congrats of finding yourself in this way.

Then - I'm kinda proud of EXO-L, especially Jongin stans who took this mostly in such a nice and sweet way. I remember so well how much hate Baekhyun and Taeyeon have got as their dating status was releaved; I'm so glad that this wasn't repeating with Kaistal. I don't know if people grew up a bit and became more matured or if it's simply because there were already loads of people who liked Kaistal before they were official. Anyway - I'm just super happy and glad that it's way more quiet how people are reacting.

As for Krystal, I really like her and I'm glad that she's Jongins girlfriend. I like f(x) in general a lot and they were my fave girl group for some years (and still one of my faves, but I don't focus so much anymore on them). My bias is Luna, but that doesn't change the fact that I support Krystal totally. I think it's so cool, that she knows Jongin for so many years now and that she developed feelings for him out of a friendship. I adore relationships like that in general since the people know each other well then and have lots of trust in each other. And I approve totally, that she's quite similar to Jongin in some way; fashion, expressions, interests.. no wonder she and Jongin get along so well.

As for Jongin - God, I'm proud of you! You did it, Nini. I'm super happy for you. I was recently thinking a lot when you would finally date someone (and I hoped that it would be someone that I like a lot too) and see now - it happened. I'm not sure what's going on in your head right now because I know you get upset when people reveal private stuff about your life (I mean who wouldn't...) - I hope you're okay. I saw your performances today and I was kinda shocked when you weren't smiling and enjoying your stages fully. I felt so much pressure on you and your eyes were kinda teary. Of course I could only imagine all that and interpret too much in what I've seen, but I'm watching you for over 4 years now and I haven't seen you like that in a long while. You tend to pressure yourself a lot and feeling guilty for fans when you can't achieve the things you want to do. So please Nini, don't feel guilty in any way, it's okay you know. EXO-L will still love you.

I feel like Jongin dating someone might be a chance for the fandom; I hate how cruel some fans can be. They "claim" their bias and argue with others who is the better stan etc. I saw a lot in the past 4 years and I understand; basically every fangirl goes through the stages where they imagine themselves with their bias and act jealous when they read other fans comments. I can't speak for everyone of course (it depens what you see in Jongin/your bias) but as you mature and grew older you build up a natural distance to your bias. Don't get me wrong - it doesn't mean that you don't support him or her anymore, it's just that you realize that you shouldn't put your bias in the centre of your life. They live in the entertainment industry and live a completely different life and you will never get close to them, unless you get also in this industry kinda. They might not be the people who you adore so much, they won't be perfect as you think they are - but hey, fans support their favorites no matter what. You get the realization, that you can support them as long as they are on the stage and let me tell you - you are important in your bias' life. You make them liked and successfull, no one else but you. And with this, I want to reach out for all the Jongin stans who feel kinda broken now; we are still in his heart. Jongin loves EXO-L and his relationship won't change that. We can still enjoy him on stage and he will always give his best for us, like Krystal will give her best for all the MeU's. Don't you dare feeling useless now and not loved, 'cause as how much we love our fave group, they love us fans back. And one day, there will be someone who will love you the same way, as Jongin might love Krystal. And also this fact won't change a single thing about your love for your fave group, right? There are different kinds of love out there.

And with that - let's support. EXO & f(x) SARANGHAJA!

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