“Suppose it’s not a coincidence that a high number of BDSM submissives are survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Suppose it’s not a coincidence that many straight male pedophiles report finding adult women “intimidating.” Suppose it’s not a coincidence that men who buy sex from prostitutes have a perception of women similar to that of rapists. Suppose that when rapists describe breaking boundaries as a sexual thrill, they are pointing us to a truth, uncomfortable as it is: We seek power in our jobs, in our homes, in our relationships. We compete, we cut throats, we strive to conquest. We fuck to hurt, or to be hurt. Suppose it’s not a coincidence that the way we fuck each other in the bedroom looks a lot like how we fuck each other over in the world. The truth is that our sexual practices reflect our beliefs, our fears, our selves. Our sexual attitudes do not exist in a vacuum, nor are we necessarily born with them. But we have this incredible ability to deny what’s right under our noses. We call sexuality “natural” and “innate” and “instinctual” so we don’t have to acknowledge the truth. So we don’t have to change ourselves. Our reluctance to ask deeper questions is costly, and the children of this up-and-coming generation are paying a higher price than anyone else. Did you know that, as a result of having free and unlimited access to gonzo pornography via their mobile phones, boys are replicating what they see in porn and sending girls to the hospital with anal fissures? Well now you do.”
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