A Mess, but like a cute one

he/they ; 24 ; I'm just trying to live, my dude ; 'Tis a journey

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

"No one remembered my birthday-" Well, but did YOU tell anyone it was coming up and you wanted to celebrate it with them?

"I wish someone would see through it when I tell people I'm fine-" Well, but have YOU considered not lying when people ask you how you're doing?

"I am so resentful of my friend because they keep doing this thing that really bothers me-" Well, but have YOU directly communicated that the thing is bothering you?

"I am burning out because my friend keeps expecting me to help them with serious struggles-" Well, but have YOU tried to establish the boundaries you need to feel okay?

"No one ever asks me about this thing I really care about-" Well, but have YOU brought it up yourself?

"I miss my friend but they haven't texted me-" Well, but have YOU been reaching out to them?

Sometimes people are mean, uncaring assholes, in which case you get to be mad. But sometimes you just need to communicate better. Try communication before you assume someone doesn't care!

[snipertrifle]

Having someone who knows you on such a deep level that they see past your mask, or sense you need a check in is such a deep satisfying fantasy. It's up there with living in a cottagecore farm, or buying all your friends houses when you win the lottery. But you have to make peace with the fact that this is also a fantasy. It is unfair to expect people to "just know" when to respect your boundaries or to push them.

Being cared for is not a fantasy. But you have to let people know you need it. And you have to understand that sometimes they will let you down. Just like you totally could live in a cute farm, but you still have to shovel shit, and the crops sometimes die anyway. Or maybe you win the lottery, but you still have to manage your money and learn real estate law.

The fantasy isn't the caring, the fantasy is not having to do the work. And it sucks. It's embarrassing. But like the meme says, it's not rotten if it's YOU. So do it for yourself.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

"The fantasy isn't the caring, the fantasy is not having to do the work"! Thank you for that addition. Because it's not a naive expectation to want someone to care to treat you right. But it requires communication and mutual effort to actually get there

[assiraphales]

ok so apparently in celebration of the 250th anniversary of paul revere’s ride this was projected onto a church in boston??

[xiaq]

“A church”?? That’s Old North Church! That’s THE church where the lanterns were lit.

[bedupolker]

I loooooove getting rejected. People should reject more. It's the "maybes" and ghosting that's just like too much. A firm but polite "no" is infinitely more respectful of everyone's time and feelings. Can we just do that?

[bedupolker]

You guys know this is a pretty normal human want and not a special accomdation to be saved for people with autism right?

[myfootyrthroat]

Sometimes it's not "your fault" but it's still "your problem" because nobody else can fix it.

[myfootyrthroat]

If your history of trauma causes you to respond to totally normal interactions as if you're under threat of violence, you are likely to be a source of trauma for other people, and you should work on that.

It's not your fault that you were traumatized, but you're literally the only person who can fix you.

[this-is-trans-joy]

I didn’t realise this had to be said until I came across a reel of someone in hospital but dear GOD if you’re in London during this heatwave do not swim in the fucking Thames PLEASE do not even touch the Thames I can name like five different ways you will be violently killed just off the top of my head STAY AWAY FROM THE THAMES and for that matter stay away from lakes/rivers in general and stick to safe, supervised areas of water such as swimming pools because the heat isn’t worth the risk of drowning, strong currents, harmful microbes, cardiac arrest with no help in sight etc. etc. PLEASE stay safe in this weather, especially if you’re not used to it!!

[the-elf-witch-from-space]

I love how humans are all like "NO we polluted our water! Do not swim in nature, swim in the approved chemical containers"

[this-is-trans-joy]

The undercurrent from the Thames is so strong it will literally drown you get your annoying ass tags off my post

[this-is-trans-joy]

Also, a lot of people have misunderstood this post as me saying that all lakes and rivers are bad to swim in, as opposed to the fact that there is currently a heatwave in a country that is not used to high heat and the risk of getting into complications or having a cardiac arrest while swimming with no lifeguard around is a huge cause of heat-related deaths in the UK. Seven people have already drowned in the past week. I’m not interested in “wow people in the UK are so soft everyone should swim in lakes” tags anymore because you’re missing the point.

[girlnephew]

[doctorbluesmanreturns]

[gh0stienj0yer]

i need to get off tumblr i’m at the aquarium admiring the fish and my brain goes “posts that make you want to get in the water” what are you talking about. these are live fish in the room with you. what post.

[gh0stienj0yer]

posts that make you want to get in the water

[sizzlingsandwichperfection-blog]

I thought you might appreciate this story about my recent experience while reading Everything is Tuburculosis:

On a flight to LA I struck up a conversation with the woman sitting next to me, idle chitchat while we waited for the plane to take off. In the air my husband pulled out a book, but the light above his seat was broken. Our new friend in the window seat insisted on loaning him her travel book-light. Shortly after, I pulled out my kindle on which I was reading Everything Is Tuburculosis. It opened on a particularly medical page. She asked if I was studying for med school. I explained what the book is about, and she was fascinated. A minute later she asked "Since I finished my book in the airport and I can't get my phone on the wifi, would you be offended if I read your book with you? I can see from here just fine."

And so for the next 2.5 hours or so this stranger and I quietly read your book side by side. Our reading pace was (thankfully) the same and every now and then she would silently point to something she found especially poignant or whisper a quiet "Wow" or "I never knew that."

For a few hours your book gave a strange sense of human connection to this childless 29 year old from CT on her way to a Bat Mitzvah in LA and a 60-some year old woman from Romania going to visit her daughter in Denver.

At the end of the flight she wrote down "John Green" in the notes app on her phone so she can finish the book, and get a copy for her daughter too.

What a lovely story. I am so lucky to have readers like (both of) you.

[bbnotumbl]

it’s my birthday

[ahotknife]

where’s that article by james frankie thomas where he says like “prior to my transition there was only one kind of sex i wanted to have. and i thought i could never have it” because i am about to blow these people’s minds

[ahotknife]

i found it 😌 the article was published on Slate and here’s JF’s commentary on it

[ahotknife]

i have gotten some very odd anons about this post that i’m choosing to ignore. but i am going to double down on this. no i don’t care if girls watch gay porn or imagine themselves as a gay person or wonder what it would be like to have gay sex. so many people imprison themselves by thinking they could never be gay and/or trans. well i’m telling them they better watch out. being gay and/or trans is real. and it could happen to YOU. as a matter of fact i sincerely hope it does

[projectxa3]

from Anarchopuppy

#tbh i think the intense stigma against “straight” ppl “fetishizing” queerness keeps a lot of ppl in the closet

#theres no harm in exploring those feelings in private. indulge in the fantasy and see where it takes u

#dont be a creep to other ppl obv but that goes w/o saying #if id had the courage to confront the ache id feel when i thought abt lesbian sex and how id “never be able to have it” earlier

#it wouldve saved me a lot of time

[marvelsmostwanted]

Very sad day when we have to celebrate that the Supreme Court upheld birthright citizenship. And not even the whole Supreme Court.

Their job is to uphold the Constitution. The Constitution says this and has said it since 1868:

All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside.

And three (technically four) Ivy League-educated Supreme Court justices were like "hm, I'm not sure if this applies to all persons born or naturalized in the United States, impossible to tell"

Meanwhile, per NPR:

The [Supreme Court's] decision firmly rejected the executive order that Trump issued on the first day of his second term. It sought to bar citizenship for babies born in the U.S. to parents who either entered the country illegally or who are living and working here legally with temporary visas. The executive order never went into effect because every lower court judge who reviewed it concluded, in the words of one judge, that it was "blatantly unconstitutional."

So just to be clear:

Justices Alito, Thomas, Gorsuch, and Kavanaugh were literally the only judges they could find in the entire country willing to even consider that this wasn't obviously unconstitutional, and they all sit on the Supreme Court. Tell me it's not political. Court reform yesterday please.

Supreme Court upholds birthright citizenship on constitutional grounds

The decision firmly rejected the executive order that Trump issued on the first day of his second term.

[utopians]

people aren't even exaggerating indeed is literally like that. walmart attendant $13 an hour, target attendant $13 an hour, AI dick sucker $40 an hour, home depot attendant $13 an hour, guy who designs bullets that can only kill children $160k a year plus benefits, gas station manager $18 an hour

[thememedaddy]

[endlace]

You if bugs didn't exist

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

I know smut fanfic doesn’t necessarily need to make logical sense but theoretically if two penis havers were going reverse cowgirl style, would the one being penetrated be able to fuck the thighs of the one being ridden

Idk thought you’d be the best person to ask about the logistics of different sex positions

I mean it seems like kind of a difficult angle to make that work IRL, especially given the upward angle of an erect penis and all. I've censored it with an aubergine but the general shape and directionality are still accurate.

like personally I don't see a supremely feasible way for those thighs to get fucked. but also it's make believe and you can never stop a determined pervert so do whatever you want.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

btw this post featuring barely censored porn isn't marked mature but I've had posts that merely link to information about sexual health get flagged immediately. and then of course there are the countless text posts where trans women don't do anything more risque than talk about being trans women. which could all mean anything.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

oh okay this post featuring barely censored porn featuring two nude men still isn't marked mature but the gifs I just reblogged of a Black woman with her genitals and breasts covered is mature content. fascinating.

[bugshroom]

you have only experienced one singular lame as fuck blunt rotation in your life or what… “safety tips” is killing me Who does that. ykw actually everyone in this blunt rotation is my nightmare blunt rotation.

[untitledrockshow]

dream blunt rotation

[queensinchains]

THE SHEEP DETECTIVES (2026) dir. Kyle Balda

[iconuk01]

US Supreme Court upholds birthright citizenship in blow to Trump

The ruling is a major setback for Donald Trump's immigration agenda, and has been welcomed by civil rights groups.

Some good news on the run up to the 4th of July

The Supreme Court has ruled that babies born in the US have a constitutional right to citizenship, rejecting Donald Trump's bid to end the 150-year-old policy.

In a 6-3 decision, Chief Justice John Roberts ruled that children born in the US "to parents unlawfully or temporarily present" are "citizens at birth" under the 14th amendment.

President Trump had sought to limit the right through an executive order, arguing that the children of undocumented immigrants and some temporary visitors were not "subject to the jurisdiction thereof", and thus not eligible for birthright citizenship.

The ruling is a major setback for Trump's immigration agenda, and has been welcomed by civil rights groups