me: why do Bad Things happen to me
me, remembering im a fundamentally horrible person: ah.....yes,..
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me: why do Bad Things happen to me
me, remembering im a fundamentally horrible person: ah.....yes,..
You can be depressed and not feel sad or blue. Depression can also be a haze of sleepiness, distractedness/obsessiveness cycles, and a twinge of irritability that can be hard to recognize because you might already be a “fiery” person. It can feel like a lazy Sunday that keeps imposing itself for weeks or months.
I am honestly so mentally and physically exhausted, I just need to be held.
If ONE MORE PERSON says “What if they’d medicated Van Gogh!?” I think I’m permitted to set things on fire. If they’d medicated Van Gogh, he’d either have painted twice as much, or he’d have been happy and unproductive. And you know what? Starry Night wasn’t worth a terrible price in human misery. It’s neat. It wasn’t worth it. Sometimes I wonder if being an artist makes me jaded to ART. Because it’s not magic and it’s not mystical, it’s just paint or pixels. And it can do amazing things! But you don’t owe humanity to be miserable just so you can move paint around in interesting shapes. Jesus. Art is not some kind of Ones Who Walk Away From Omelas bargain where you agree to be miserable so everybody can go “oh! Neat!” for 5 minutes.
Ursula Vernon, dropping the mic. [x]
If someone underage initiates a sexual conversation with you- which isn’t just them asking for advice or sex ed -it is up to you, the adult, to shut the conversation down. You do not reciprocate and start speaking sexually/flirting back at them, even if the minor claims they don’t mind.
You shut down the conversation and leave because you’re the fucking adult. Stop being sexual to children even if they start it and say they aren’t bothered- they’re still underage and it is your responsibility as the adult to stop it.
some ethics for people writing about rape, whether they’re journalists or not (rape tw, csa tw)
1. there is no “ruining it for REAL rape victims”. All victims are “real” victims and the only thing that ruins it for us is rape apologism, which telling a victim they’re “ruining it for REAL rape victims” definitely is. You do not get to position yourself as judge and jury in every single case of sexual assault, that’s just something you don’t get to do, sorry. I don’t care if you’re a journalist. I don’t care if feminists are mean to you sometimes.
2. you definitely don’t get to lie about things a rape victim said and then be like “see this thing that I made up and claimed that she said proves she’s a liar” but that is just about a personal situation of mine so whatever.
3. you don’t get to gloss over cases that are LEGALLY defined as rape for very specific reasons, ie cases where a grown man has sex with a drunk 15 year old! Just for example! because the victim did not define that experience as rape. You can be clear that legally and practically and in a feminist sense this counts as rape without “putting words in the victims mouth” and acting like that’s impossible and like because the victim has not publicly called the experience rape THEREFOR you are MORALLY OBLIGATED to imply if not outright state that that kind of situation is a-okay is disingenuous and fucked up.
4. don’t get so far up your own ass about your “journalistic integrity” that you forget to have like basic human empathy for people who have been through a major, possibly life-altering trauma. This seems to be really hard for a lot of “journalists”. You’re a human being telling a story about a human being to other human beings, you’re not descending from the mountain with the word of God chiseled into stone, you pompous ass.
5. feminism is not irrelevant here. You’re not being “unbiased” by refusing to engage with a feminist perspective in any way.
6. knowing someone who was raped, even if it’s your girlfriend, even if it’s your mom, does not make you an expert on rape and magically make it okay to repeatedly call rape victims liars and endorse and participate in behaviors one through 5, stop using survivors as human shields you callous monsters
Thank you
MUVA shuts down anyone confused about the meaning of consent !!!
Amber Rose on one of OWN’s newest shows It’s Not You, It’s Men, hosted by Tyrese Gibson and Rev Run .
It’s sad that she’s explaining such a basic concept to two grown ass men.
or bc her texting me “dinner” has meant for the last 15 years (or however long she’s been texting bc she doesn’t want to come get me, discounting when i didn’t live with them) has meant “dinner is ready/it’s time to eat so come upstairs. and then today suddenly it apparently actually meant come upstairs and answer questions i haven’t asked and do this and this before grabbing a plate. but i’m expected to magically know that’s changed and bc i didn’t i get yelled at for it. and then have it thrown in my face later in the middle of something completely unrelated.
i can’t believe my mother really said “well you certainly ate a lot for someone who has a headache” as if the fact i finally ate a full meal means i’m lying. or as if the fact i forced myself to finish bc i know part of this headache is due to needing food, is just a farce. like i was supposed to just eat two bites and not finish bc i feel like shit. bc that makes sense.
Me: *starts crying* Me to myself: omg here go your lil crybaby ass…
its too early to sleep. plus i can barely breathe properly so sleep isn’t really an option anyway.
So many men have internalized the lie that they have uncontrollable sex drives, and no way to control their anger. They aren’t ashamed of their abusive behavior because they see it as a something natural to them and maybe even central to their masculinity. It’s scary as hell.
Hence, anti-consumerist politics is a lifestyle politics that assumes the problem with capitalism lurks at the point of consumption rather than the point of production; it assumes that the solution to capitalism is based on our buying choices, on de-commodifying by refusing to buy from big corporations, and living as pure anti-capitalists in an individual sense. The fact that the vast majority of people, especially those with the power to change society, cannot opt out in this kind of way, or the fact that buying at ‘ethical’ sites of production does not at all escape commodification, eludes this simplistic and self-righteous politics. Nor do most of the people who push this anti-consumerism see any contradiction in wearing clothes, walking down sidewalks, or living at the centres of capitalism which is entirely dependent on the brutal system they claim they are fighting when they make fun of people buying Banksy prints at Walmart.
“Argh! Lifestyle Consumerist Politics!” (via blackfeminism)
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15 facts about people with concealed anxiety
1. They don’t hide their anxiety, they hide their symptoms. To have concealed anxiety isn’t to deny having it – only to do everything in your power to ensure other people don’t see you struggle.
2. They have the most anxiety about having anxiety. Because they are not comfortable letting people see them in the throes of an irrational panic, the most anxiety-inducing idea is… whether or not they’ll have anxiety at any given moment in time.
3. They come across as a paradoxical mix of outgoing but introverted, very social but rarely out. It is not that they are anti-social, just that they can only take being around others incrementally (which is mostly normal). Yet, on the surface, this may come across as confusing.
4. They make situations worse by trying to suppress their feelings about them. They are extremely uncomfortable with other people seeing them in pain, and they don’t want to feel pitied or as though they are compromising anyone’s time. Yet, they make things worse for themselves by suppressing, as it actually funnels a ton of energy into making the problem larger and more present than it already was.
5. They are often hyper-aware and highly intuitive. Anxiousness is an evolutionary function that essentially keeps us alive by making us aware of our surroundings and other people’s motives. It’s only uncomfortable when we don’t know how to manage it effectively – the positive side is that it makes you hyper-conscious of what’s going on around you.
6. Their deepest triggers are usually social situations. It’s not that they feel anxious in an airplane, it’s that they feel anxious in an airplane and are stuck around 50 other people. It’s not that they will fail a test, but that they will fail a test and everyone in school will find out and think they are incompetent and their parents will be disappointed. It’s not that they will lose love, but that they will lose love and nobody will ever love them again.
7. It is not always just a “panicked feeling” they have to hide. It can also be a tendency to worry, catastrophizing, etc. The battle is often (always?) between competing thoughts in their minds.
8. They are deep thinkers, and great problem-solvers. One of the benefits of anxiety is that it leads you to considering every worst case scenario, and then subsequently, how to handle or respond to each.
9. They are almost always “self-regulating” their thoughts. They’re talking themselves in, out, around, up or down from something or another very often, and increasingly so in public places.
10. They don’t trust easily, but they will convince you that they do. They want to make the people around them feel loved and accepted as it eases their anxiety in a way.
11. They tend to desire control in other areas of their lives. They’re over-workers or are manically particular about how they dress or can’t really seem to let go of relationships if it wasn’t their idea to end them.
12. They have all-or-nothing personalities, which is what creates the anxiety. Despite being so extreme, they are highly indecisive. They try to “figure out” whether or not something is right before they actually try to do it.
13. They assume they are disliked. While this is often stressful, it often keeps them humble and grounded at the same time.
14. They are very driven (they care about the outcome of things). They are in equal proportions as in control of their lives as they feel out of control of their lives – this is because they so frequently try to compensate for fear of the unknown.
15. They are very smart, but doubt it. A high intelligence is linked to increased anxiety (and being doubtful of one’s mental capacity are linked to both).
http://neverignore.info/15-things-you-need-to-know-about-people-who-have-concealed-anxiety/