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Riddle me this;

Rosatrice can be denied with all the information presented in the visual novels only.

Also EP8 manga - which gives us the truth by Ryukishi himself - denies the theory completely and shreds it to pieces mercilessly, as deserved.

Yet still it is a thing and a lot people are thinking it as the truth.

Why?

witchofsound

angryinkeddrunk

I hate when parents don't explain death to their kids.

(This is all just personal opinion)

“It ran away.” No. That’s not fair. It’s dead. It’s not coming back. Don’t do that to a child. Death is really important to understand.

YES they might be heartbroken over it but you need explain the truth to them as best you can depending on their age. It will help them understand loss. I learned about death from an early age watching lions rip apart buffalo on animal planet. That bitch is DEAD. lol. When my cheap ass fish would die, they where dead. They went up to “fishy heaven”. When one of my cats died, it was dead. It went to “kitty heaven”. My mom used to read me a book about how things that die go to heaven. I was sad but my tiny, imaginative child brain could grasp the concept of my animals going to a “happier” place because they were sick.

I just don’t see why or how lying is better other than to protect their little feelings. No one wants to see their child sad but like I said before, I think it’s important to understand loss. Kids get hurt, it happens, it prepares them for adult life.

I’m no parenting expert and I know there are plenty of reasons I wouldn’t understand as to why people think lying would be better. This is all just a pet peeve of mine.

drbobbimorse

Okay so I’m a mortician-in-training and, right now, I’m taking the required thanatology class which is all about death, dying and bereavement. Our most recent readings were all about children and how to help them make sense of the loss and separation of a loved one. Apparently, most adults seem to think children don’t grieve but they do. Children essentially have seven stages of grief: shock, alarm, disbelief, yearning, searching, disorganization, and resolution. Their grief is harder to understand and assess because they have neither the vocabulary nor life experience to easily express their feelings and needs. A child’s belief structure and how they respond to death is determined by their age/developmental level, the manner of the death, and their relationship with the deceased.

Birth - 2 yrs: only non-specific distress reactions

2-5 yrs: don’t understand the permanence of death; concerned about physical well-being of deceased; not capable of cognitive reciprocity; may want to see and touch deceased’ repeatedly asks same questions about deceased; may act as if death never happened or in a regressive manner; may experience guilt (like, if they once said something like “I wish so-and-so would go away forever, they might think they caused the death)

6-9 yrs: more complex understanding; realize death is irreversible and that its universal; find it difficult to believe that death will happen to them (believe it happens only to older people); death can be personified and this allows them to run and hide from it; tendency to engage in “magical thinking” (don’t let them do this, its as bad as you lying to them; keep them grounded in the reality of the death), have strong feelings of loss but have extreme difficulty expressing it; often need permission to grieve

9-12 yrs: have cognitive understand to comprehend death is a final event; can understand and accept a mature, realistic explanation of death; short attention spans (they could be sad and grieving one moment and laughing joyfully the next, and someone could see that and negatively comment on it. Like, “how can so-and-so be acting like that?” This can intensify their already fluctuating emotions and present feelings of guilt and low self-worth); their vocabulary is advanced enough to express their feelings but they may not want to talk about what’s bothering them (they’ll let it build up and manifest in behavioral problems); interest in the physical aspect of death and what happens after; may imitate decreased’s mannerisms

13-18 yrs: understand the meaning of death; realize its irreversible and happens to everyone; normal puberty will intensify grief by adding to already conflicting emotions; often put in position of being the protector, comforter, caregiver (feel they must comfort others t their wen emotions are suppressed; they’ll look find on the outside but be falling apart inside); experience conflicting feelings about death (try to overcome fears by confirming control of their mortality; risk taking behavior); males are more likely to express grief in aggressive behaviors while females need comfort, to be held and reassured

There’s basically 10 rules:

Tell them ASAP: its important to start with what they know about death and then expand on that; be gentle and trustful; tell them in a comfortable, safe and familiar place and make sure its in language they’ll understand; never assume they understand the way you do

Be truthful: kids can sense dishonesty ok?! So don’t create lies to protect them; don’t make up stories that’ll have to be changed later on cause that only confuses them and promotes emotional instability; don’t withhold information either (within reason, see #3), place emphasis on the facts, and avoid euphemisms (i.e., “passed away”, “departed”, “went away”, “got sick” (they’ll associate illness and death go hand-in-hand and may think a common cold will kill them), etc)

Share only details they’re ready to hear: truthfulness should be balanced with their readiness for details (like, tell them someone died in a horrible auto accident but maybe not say they were decapitated and their head flew off down the highway in the process); children with actualize a crisis like an adult; its not uncommon for them to ask about a death later in life and that provides the opportunity to deliver info that wasn’t previously shared (i.e., the decapitation)

Encourage expression of feelings: a child will experience stages of grief very similar to those of adults (adults typically follow the Kubler-Ross 5 stages while kids have 7, seen above) and they rely on adults for permission to “feel” loss; best way is for them to learn is to hear and watch adults because they get their understanding of grief through their senses; its not unusual for them to go up to people and just make a statement like “My dad died” cause they want to see how that person will react and give them a clue as to how they should react, so its important for adults to “feel” their grief in the presence of the child; explain why you’re sad and reassure them that its okay for them to feel sad and cry and that its okay if they aren’t

Take child to the funeral: seeing is believing; they should be given the option to view the body but don’t force them; a funeral can be a positive experience but their level of involvement in the funeral process should be their individual decision; give them the choice as to the extent of their involvement

Take child to the cemetery: it can be comforting to them to know where the body is buried and how it got there; it can also help them direct their grief at an appropriate object (this lessens emotional disorganization), and it lessens the child’s chances of denying or avoiding the death

Let them tell others about death: adults “talking over” kids creates anxiety; when the child can explain it to another person, in their own words, they feel more in control and have a greater understanding; let them speak!

Encourage talk of the loss: this allows feelings to be expressed and incorrect ideas about any aspect of the loss to be corrected

Be available to answer questions: you need to answer each question as sincerely and accurately as possible; understand that some can’t be answered but simply being available is important; and be patient cause they will ask the same question repeatedly

Never tell them how they should or shouldn’t feel: you don’t like it when people do it to you, so don’t do it to kids; they should be encouraged to express any feeling and they should feel accepted for it; being told “not to feel” a certain way leads to emotionally “playing dead” and that’ll create repression, which creates interpersonal conflicts in later life due to inability to communicate emotions

angryinkeddrunk

This was a super interesting read.

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Spanish mattress ad focuses on asexual people

“I’m…not interested in sex. It doesn’t mean having some kind of disorder or illness. It’s just a liking. Sex used to be a sin, but now it seems like the sin is not liking it.

I’m not attracted to neither girls nor boys. We asexual people don’t view people as a source of pleasure. Everything that makes us feel good with ourselves is normal. We fall in love romantically, we don’t feel desire. I’d like people to feel free, and if what they feel is love in freedom, then let them practice love in freedom, no matter what.

The bed is the last bastion of freedom we’ve got left.

“70 million of people in the world are asexual”.

In Flex we think that, in their bed, everyone is free to do or not to do whatever they want.

Because the night is ours.”

Yes, maybe the ad is not perfect, but I can’t believe we have an ad (that airs on national TV) explaining what asexuality is and featuring asexual people!

(There’s also a shorter version when you can hear them say you can say, simply, that I’m asexual)

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@theasexualityblog

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Listen, I know i’m a damn pedant but hearing people say “the Iliad is a tribute to war” makes me really sad. Because! it’s all the way around! The Iliad shows how senseless war is, how life carries much more value. The point of describing those horrifying, explicit deaths, the point of giving each soldier a name and a little story when they are killed, is showing how warriors, both Trojans and Achaeans alike, are actual people with names and families and lives. How horrible war is.

The hero of the Iliad is a man who hates that war, who is kind, who delights his heart with music and preparing a feast for his friends, who hates injustice and his greedy but mediocre king, who wants to come back to take care of his old father. Achilles is the embodiment of the anti-war sentiment. He doesn’t understand the war, he’s tired, he just wants to go home. He only goes back to battle because they’ve broken his heart, because they killed the person whom he loved the most. The Iliad is essentially an anti-war poem!

Usually, pro-war epic poems show the protagonist proud and victorious. But the Iliad has no winners. Yes, the Trojan War is won by the Achaeans (at what price anyways?), but the Iliad itself ends with the grief of an old man who kneels before the killer of his family to ask him mercy. And Achilles, who doesn’t feel any violence towards that poor man, hugs him and they cry together, because they’ve both lost the person they loved the most in that stupid war they didn’t ask for. No, the Iliad is not a tribute to war. The Iliad is a tribute to the defeated, to grief, to loss, is a call out on the greed and brutality of the winners and the powerful (re: the entire character of Agamemnon).

Yes, its meaning has been twisted before, but don’t let that make you forget the true meaning of the Iliad. Don’t let them make you forget the grief of Priam, the never-ending pain of Achilles, the sorrow and self-hate of Helen, the sacrifice of Hector and the death of Patroclus, because both die to protect his people. Maybe another poem, in another time, was written to make a tribute to the Trojan War, but the Iliad isn’t that poem.

hiddenlookingglass

I have very little to add to what the OP said: the Iliad is about many things , including pride, honour, anger, loss and grief. It shows us that those who are winning may sometimes, for the briefest of moments, think that war is glorious, only to have their illusions shattered by the horror of it all. The Iliad as a glorification of war is meaningless. The Iliad as an account of human suffering is not.