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Today I felt I needed to write.

Reflection of my journey, bringing knowledge to others, and simply being a good human are so valuable to me.

I love the old ways. I worked so hard to get where I am. Not just in the lifestyle, But at life.

I turned 50 this year. I promised myself, the second half would be better than the first. I would be authentic to myself.

I'm still learning. The day I stop learning is the day I die. I'm still growing. Becoming a better version of myself.

No longer surviving, But thriving.

I seem over the top for so many. But I was lifestyle before the internet and the influx of the BDSM apps and groups and so forth.

There was no testing the waters online. It was hands on, trial and error. If that makes me different ok.

I know I am not for alot of Dominants today. However for the one I was created to serve, they will find beauty in all that I have done in the last 30 years to prepare to lay my entire being at their feet. To give everything I am so that they can become who they were intended to be.

Serving under a woman, taught me the elegance, the Grace, of service.

She was so very proud of her girl. My heart aches for her today. Her kindness, and yes her harsh words I needed at times.

She used to say, My girl deserves all the good things.

She loved me enough to let me go, so I could do just that. THAT'S DOMINANCE.. and that is love.

Without that experience, I would not have known that side of myself.

I served another even though our season was short. He too showed me a side of myself I didn't know existed. My primal instinct. I will forever be indebted to that dragon. And today I am so very happy he has found His way. Why be bitter. Remember the beauty within the season. My first Master of 23 years he molded and trained me until he left this world.

Then there was the one that taught me the ugly, the violence that harms. And I almost lost me life. And today I am grateful, I learned and now I know what red

flags are.

My Life In Leather gave me back family, a place I belonged I didn't stick out because I longed to serve. I wasn't weird because I enjoyed being apart of something bigger.

That enjoy the beauty at and event standing at attention behind the The Master of the House I served.

I was nick named an emotional support slave. That I am proudly.

I live this 24/7. This is simply who I am. I cannot change it no more than I can change my DNA.

See in this life and this lifestyle, there is a place and a purpose for everyone. Your journey is yours. And when you choose to it is YOUR story to tell.

I hope when people look at me today they see the beauty in my service to my community and to who I am today.

I said all of that to say this. I found beauty in the darkness, and today I embrace the light.

Nameste

slave Draconica

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To serve from your heart truly changes the service. Be beautiful and shine

slave Draconica

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Her Breathtaking Song

With one click of the cuff

She hoped to be enough

For him to see

Her body blank sheet music

For him to write is Dominant Melody

Each moan a note well played

The arch of her back shows

His dominance she craves

His presence soft, yet stern

He knew her body

Every dip, Every curve

She is his cello

He is her bow

Her surrender song for only him to know

Every breath, Every sigh

Every touch, Every cry

He hears, He feels

He has written Her Breath taking song.

slave Draconica

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Life is about redemption, not perfection~Sir Au

Today I was speaking with my friend Sir Au and he said these words to me. It hit home hard. I asked if I could use the words and he graciously allowed me to do so.

I find it to be so very true. On my journey, I have made so many critical mistakes. I have tried to own my toxic behaviors and correct them.

It truly doesn't matter what caused traumatic experiences, we must be true to own our part, and to correct the behavior. Then to move forward with our head held high. To be a better version of ourselves. This is redemption.

It matters if you get up and dust yourself off. Finger pointing or the blame game is your way of deflecting your part. And you are not being authentic to yourself. Remember Integrity is everything.

Redeeming yourself is becoming a better version of you. It's A.G.Eing (Another Growth Experience)

gracefully. We have ALL made Mistakes, and if you say you haven't then you are NOT being true to yourself.

In this life it is up to YOU to keep a level of integrity that is ABSOLUTE.

When you reach that level of redemption, you become a better person for the one you are to serve or lead.

Remember there are no redeeming qualities in arrogance, and belittling others to take the shame off yourself.

When we can accept we are not perfect, life will never be perfect.

WITHIN OUR IMPERFECTIONS WE WILL FIND TRUE REDEMPTION.

Embrace the journey it's YOURS make it authentic to who you truly are. Perfectly Imperfect.

slave Draconica

9/27/21

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The thoughts inside my head. Sept.16, 2021

Well, today I find myself focused. As many know, I am not in service at the moment.

That in itself can be taxing on anyone with a slave heart and service driven. UGH is the best statement I can truly use to describe it.

However, today I have learned it is so very important to have quality over quantity. I was challenged to add a couple of sites and get my feet back in the pool so to speak. Well if you know me, I am ALWAYS up for a challenge.

Again jumped in both feet. As I am either all in or all out. No gray area here.. however I am working on learning balance. Which is hard because this is naturally my Life everyday.

With that said, eventually I came to a point of not wanting the next service experience. I became ready for MY SERVICE CONNECTION.

To lay my surrender down to the one deserving of all that it is. All the experience, all the knowledge, AND all the struggles, the hurt, the trauma. Absolutely all that is slave Draconica.

I found I do have a voice, and what I have to say matters. At least to the Master that will find beauty in all I am and all I will ever be.

But to be of service, would that be enough? Hmmm. Upon further self evaluation I found nope.. there was another piece missing. I needed siblings. A slave sister or brother I served along side.

This could come from the fact I have no biological siblings. However I have served in a family type dynamic, it was beautiful. I felt complete and whole.

I know leave it to me to complicate things. Hard enough to find a Dominant of the same mindset, let's add poly to it.

I will not ever give up, what I need in a dynamic to just be of service ever again. It can cause so much damage.

I believe in the beauty of this lifestyle. And I believe, in the beauty which is service. I believe in the beauty which is poly. And most of all I believe in the beauty that is me.

Today, I believe I am worthy and deserving of the dream.

I know that if anything in the lifestyle there is someone (s) for everyone. You have to be patient, and trust the process.

Thanks for reading

The ramblings of my slave mind

slave Draconica

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Mastery: More Than Being Dominant

Words have meaning. To truly understand what is going on, it is helpful to know precisely what a word means and the message it conveys. Most people do not take the time to do this. Also, when it comes to the BDSM world, they tend to think that what applies in the traditional realm is not applicable here. This is where they are mistaken.

Mastery

Too many people believe that simply because they have a particular characteristic that this translate into knowledge. The prime example of this are all the people we meet online who claim to be "Masters". Here we have an individual who has identified the quality of domination within oneself yet falsely believes that equates to mastery. Therefore, our wonderful new person capitalizes his name and enters the BDSM world as a master.

In the electrical field, we see many who enter that career because they have the inclination. From the days of their youth, they were always tinkering with electronic devices. This lead to a fascination with electricity and, ultimately, a pursuit of it as a career. However, this leaning towards the electrical field does not make this person a master. In fact, he or she enters as an apprentice studying under a Master Electrician. It takes years of study for one to reach this certification. A general tendency does not equate to mastery. You find this true in all the skilled fields.

Yet in BDSM people do not think like this. They think the term Master is something that is given (usually self-titled). Few realize all that goes into successfully being a master of someone else. To start, it requires mastery over oneself, something few seem to be able to do. Secondly, total responsibility must be assumed hence the shift of playing the blame game which is so often present in people today. Finally, areas of expertise such as particular types of play, psychology, and time management all come into play. As you can guess, simply because one suddenly claims to be a master, that does not mean any expertise is present in any of these fields.

Mastering Oneself

I see few mention this in the online world but I feel it is the most important part of becoming a master. So many are touting that they will take complete control of a slave's life and run it as they see fit. The question is what are your qualifications for doing that? For example, most want to control the money on a slave's behalf. How successful is that person at running his own financial affairs? If that person just blew through a $1M inheritance with nothing to show for it or is in debt with credit cards beyond human comprehension, perhaps that is a bad idea. The same is true with one physique. While it is not important to have a supermodel body, do you have enough control over yourself to exercise and eat properly. Sure, there will be exceptions to the rule because of illness or some other medical condition, but the fact is most people in the Western World do not take care of themselves physically. To me, this shows no mastery over this part of one's life. Yet these people often are out there promoting the idea that they want someone "who is fit". Take a look in the mirror first.

Having a natural inclination towards domination is only the starting point. If you seek becoming a master of someone else, it is best to start the process of study. Like in the trades, it is going to require years of study before you are at this level. Unlike those professions, there are no course nor certifications which can be attained. It is up to you to seek out the knowledge and sift through all the misleading garbage that is written. This can make things difficult. However, the effort itself shows a great deal about the embracing of this idea. One who seeks to learn and ardently pursues that end cannot help but to acquire knowledge.

I often write how the journey into BDSM is a journey within. If you truly desire mastery, you will need to get honest with yourself about how well you have mastered your own life. One area that is critical is emotional mastery. People who cannot control their emotions are dangerous. This is magnified when we are in a lifestyle where someone else is vulnerable to attack (either physical or psychological) from that said person. Emotional stability is one of the main areas where masters are different from dominants. One can make rational decisions in the face of emotional upheaval whereas the other simply allow his/her emotions to dictate the outcome. Emotional mastery is something that I stress for all people. This is a process that will take years to accomplish so it is best to start immediately. Fear, anger, resentment, and anguish are present for all humans. Masters will know how to deal with these things in an effective manner where someone else is not harmed by words or actions. If not, crossing the line into abuse is very easy. And this is not good for anyone involved

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