STRUGGLE TO MINGLE

Sarcastic views of online dating by Huyen Dinh Follow me on Instagram

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#22: "Online Dating 7 rings" by @misshuyendinh

I see it and I didn’t get it 😂

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#21: "Swiping & Wiping" by @misshuyendinh

What is the better way than finding your King 🤴/ Queen 👸. while sitting on your throne 💁🏻‍♀️?

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#20: In the spirit of GOT, no worries there will always be tomorrow by @misshuyendinh

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#19: "Online Dating Pool" by @misshuyendinh

Welcome to the online dating pool where the options are plenty and fruitful at first glance but most of them are fuckboys.⠀⠀

Fuckboys come in all shapes and sizes 🍌 🍆 🌶 🥒 but they have the same intention : to fuck. Although I love fruit and veggies , I don’t enjoy eating them raw 😆. I prefer to season and cook my veggies thoroughly before eating them.⠀⠀

Swimming through the fuckboys pool 🏊‍♀️ can be tough, I include some flippers here to help ya with navigation. I was in a swim team in high school but all the practices still didn’t prepare me for this challenge. 😂

The dangerous thing about fuckboys is they often look confident and know how to talk to girls. I noticed most of guys put on their online dating profile that they’re looking for a relationship but they don’t in real life. They do so because they know that’s what girls want to hear 🙄. Fuckboys often want to do “casual dating” aka fuck for “free”(without putting in any effort). I ain’t a convenient store 🤨

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#18: Single by @misshuyendinh

Single as a dollar 💵 and not looking for change 😉 ⠀⠀ Don’t settle for less. Your right “dollar” will come 😉. Change is heavy to carry around with you, why would you want that?

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#17: "Consitency is the key to #singleforlife" by @misshuyendinh

Happy Valentine’s Day to all single people!!! Another year to #singleforlife journey. Keep it up, you’re almost there.

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#16: "I Complete Me" by @misshuyendinh

Valentine’s Gift 💝 idea for your single friends or your single self #valentinegiftideas💕💕

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#15: “It’s NOT ME, it’s YOU” by @misshuyendinh

“It’s NOT YOU, it’s ME” is such an iconic line people use to break off with someone. We all know there are different reasons laying behind that cliche’ line but people are so afraid of confrontation and they rather find an easy way out. Plus it makes them appear like nice people by saying that. It hurts and confusing but don’t blame yourself. Because this time you can shrug 🤷🏻‍♀️ and really believe that “ It’s NOT ME, it’s YOU.” ⠀⠀

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#14: Millenial Dating Stages's Cheat Sheet by @misshuyendinh

Here is the cheat sheet for millenial dating stages. There are million mini steps in between but I simplified it to 10 steps ONLY guys.

74% of the time, I made it to step 3 - Online Chatting. 11% to step 4 - Exchange Numbers. Maybe 5% to step 5 - First Date. And like 1% to step 7 - The Mini Talk. Never get to Step 10.

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#13: Over 30 & "The millennial princess & the frogs" tale by @misshuyendinh

Once upon a time, the Millennial princess is told that “You have to kiss a lot of frogs 🐸  before you find your prince.” She takes the advice and kisses 1 frog 🐸, 2 frogs 🐸🐸, then 3 frogs 🐸🐸🐸. They don’t change at all. She still doesn’t lose hope and kisses more frogs 🐸🐸🐸🐸🐸 but none of them turn into the prince 👑. Those frogs are still frogs.  And they live happily NEVER after. 

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#12: Over 30 & Single Survival Sticker by @misshuyendinh

It is nice to go home to see family and friends but everyone keeps asking me the same questions every time 😂. 2 years ago , people asked where my boyfriend was 🤷🏻‍♀️. Last year, people assumed I had one already and asked if I went home to get married 🤷🏻‍♀️. This year, everyone skipped all of that and jumped to when I would have kids 🤷🏻‍♀️. They advised that I should reconsider my life and be less picky for the sake of my own happiness and my parents 😂. 

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Let me tell you some of my “super picky” requirements for a partner: someone who I can have chemistry 🧪 and great conversation with because it is a struggle to keep a flowing conversation through online dating apps for even few hours 🙅🏻‍♀️. Now, he doesn’t have to be Nick Young from Crazy Rich Asian haha but someone who I can find attracted to and have passion in life. Without any of that, I would be better to stay single & fabulous. 💁🏻‍♀️

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So next time I go home, I will stick this sticker on my forehead. And you can feel free to use it too.

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#11: Let your Single Bell jingles by @misshuyendinh

Let your Single Bell 🔔 jingle. Isn’t Christmas 🎄 the most single-ful time of the year 😏?

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#10: No GHOSTING except Halloween by @misshuyendinh

Don’t be a ghost , BE A HUMAN. ⠀⠀ Ghosting is a new brutal dating trend that happens a lot on online dating apps. It is the act of suddenly cutting off any kind of communication with the person they’ve been seeing. People seem to be afraid of confrontation. ⠀⠀ Here is my story. Let’s call the guy “Mr.Casper” 👻 . ⠀⠀ After connecting on the app, Casper and I met up. The first date was amazing. He insisted to see me again as soon as possible. After he left, he even called me on the way home to say that he liked me a lot. We had a second date a few days after that. We also facetimed/called each other 2-3 times a day for two weeks. I was pinching myself that how he could be that perfect. ⠀⠀ Until the end of the 2nd week, he called me at late night. My phone rang only one time. I tried to call back few times right away but no answer. “Maybe his phone was on silent”, I told myself. ⠀⠀ I texted Casper the next day. Nothing. Texted again after few days. Nothing. ⠀⠀ BOOOOOO, I just got GHOSTED. ⠀⠀ Watching @insecurehbo makes me feel much better because @issarae is so on point on portraying how her character reacts after getting ghosted. ⠀⠀ I, like her, was having this inner dialogue with myself for days. Did I do something wrong? I re-read the convos between us few times to see if I accidentally said anything not right. I kept checking his IG to see if he was online or not. He still updated his stories so it meant he checked his phone. How come he didn’t reply me? Maybe my messages didn’t go through. It happened, right? I was going nuts with all these thoughts but couldn’t help to stop them. ⠀⠀ I eventually told myself that I should not take this too personal. It is not me, it’s Casper’s problem. ⠀⠀ Almost a week passed. He finally texted me and said that he wanted to focus on himself (whatever that means). By then, I was over it. ⠀⠀ I will start putting this sign out to prevent any 👻. ⠀⠀ @cosmopolitan recently published an article about a dating app called @badoo which has a new anti-ghosting feature. Very interesting. ⠀⠀ Have you got ghosted before?

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#8: It's a Mis-match by @misshuyendinh 

Wooo “It’s a match”, how exciting!!! 

With so many options that dating apps offer nowadays, that message pops up quite often.

But is it a match? Or more of a Mis-match? 

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#8: Dating Radius in L.A. by @misshuyendinh

I am not sure about other big cities but dating in L.A. can cost a lot of time and energy due to the insane commute and traffic. It is really spread out here among each area: Downtown, Koreatown, Hollywood, West Hollywood, Beverly Hills, Santa Monica, Venice, …. But you will do anything for love, righttttt? 

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Will you be willing to conquer the 405 or I-5 to meet the potential “The One”.? 

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#7: Love at First SWIPE by @misshuyendinh

In this digital dating age, we most likely don’t experience “ Love at first SIGHT 👀” anymore. It is more like “Love at first SWIPE 👆” .Is it LOVE or LUST since dating apps becomes more of hookup apps? 🤔

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#6: Tinder on the Toilet = Hot Shit by @misshuyendinh

It is not surprising that people use their phones longer in the bathroom to do all sort of stuff. Going on dating apps is also a popular activity while doing business 💩. What is other better time, right? 

According to surveys, 83 percent of people who said they used Tinder while on the toilet were men. But I know ladies do it too 😏.