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Love, Respect and Humanity

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It's my 6 year anniversary on Tumblr 🥳

Happy!!

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Throwback: July 21st 2021

Welcome to my dark side.

After 7 years and 10 months of suffering I wrote this. Was I able to break free? Yes. Exactly 3 months and 15 days later.

Moral: Things take time and a lot of pain before they fall into place. All we can do is keep going forward.

-Sushma

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Indeed, things come your way when you least expect it.

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A little reminder:

Time changes both people and things. Although I detest change, it is necessary for learning. Always keep in mind that overthinking won't get you anywhere, so whether anything goes well or not, be prepared to welcome new experiences.

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My Name😆

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

8 Small Happiness Boosters

1. Count your blessings; practice being thankful.

2. Do something small to make someone else smile.

3. Enjoy spending quality time with yourself.

4. Be your own cheerleader and your own best friend.

5. Waste an hour doing something that you really love.

6. Set aside your electronics for an hour.

7. Experiment and try a new activity.

8. Go to bed when you’re tired; get plenty of sleep.

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8 Tips for Having a Low Stress Life

1. Simplify – your time, your stuff, your social life.

2. Live in the moment.

3. Practice gratitude.

4. Take control of the thoughts that pull you back into the past.

5. Stop the anxious thoughts about “what next”, and of your future.

6. Practice getting comfortable with saying “no”.

7. Don’t worry about others, and what they think of you.

8. Do your best, then relax, and resist perfectionism.

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Do you Lack Confidence?

Traits associated with low self-confidence include:

1. Undervaluing your experience and abilities; writing yourself off as being “no good at anything”

2. Accepting the blame for things when it isn’t your fault

3. Holding back, especially in groups, and dreading sharing your opinion – or anything about yourself or your life; being very shy and reserved

4. Having unrealistic, perfectionist standards for yourself – and at the same time being highly self-critical

5. Obsessing over things that went wrong in the past (especially if was something you said or did)

6. Being preoccupied with the negative outcomes and potential failures (And what people will think of you – as a consequence of that)

7. Being fearful of a wide range of people and situations; dreading going, or doing, something new

8. Doing things to please others – even when it’s thing you really don’t want to do (for fear of disapproval, rejection, or losing face)

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How to Avoid Choosing the Wrong People

1. Choose people who genuinely like you, and who want you to be yourself.

2. Choose people you don’t need to impress.

3. Choose people who treat you with respect.

4. Choose people who want you to do well, are happy when you’re happy, and who want to understand.

5. Choose people who are loyal, and who care

6. Choose people who’re dependable and safe.

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8 Things You Need to Chill Out About

1. The few things that aren’t going right – When things go wrong, take a moment to be thankful for all the other things that are still going right. And if you’re struggling to be thankful for what you have, be thankful for what you have escaped. Sometimes the best gifts in life are the troubles you don’t have.

2. Trying to label everyone and everything – Sometimes you’ve just got to take people and situations for what they are, appreciate them, and not try to label them or change them.

3. Worrying about what everyone else thinks – The minute you stop overwhelming your mind with caring about what everyone else thinks, and start doing what you feel in your heart is right, is the minute you will finally feel free.

4. Wasting time on the wrong people – You cannot make someone respect you; all you can do is be someone who can be respected. No matter how much you care, some people just won’t care back. At some point you have to realize the truth – that they no longer care or never did, and that maybe you’re wasting your time and missing out on someone else who does.

5. Old wounds and grudges – You will never find peace until you learn to finally let go of the hatred and hurt that lives in your heart. In order to move on, you must know why you felt the way you did, and why you no longer need to feel that way. It’s about accepting the past, letting it be, and pushing your spirit forward with good intentions.

6. Superficial judgments – Every human being is beautiful; it just takes the right set of eyes to see it.

7. Letting small disagreements snowball out of control – Don’t let a single poisonous moment of misunderstanding make you forget the countless lovable moments you’ve spent together.

8. Showing a lack of self-respect – Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention you should be showing yourself. Choose to be your own best friend.

Source: http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/12/14/9-things-you-need-to-chill-out-about/ (Abridged)

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10 Ways to Simplify Life

1. Don’t try to read other peoples’ minds and don’t expect others to be able to read yours. Communicate if it is important to you.

2. Don’t expect to be friends with everyone. We all are different – and we all like different things. Instead, invest your time in a few good friends. That’s all you really need to feel happy and fulfilled.

3. Create a budget and live within your means. Accruing debt will only cause you to feel stressed.

4. Get rid of the monster of jealousy – and only compare yourself with yourself.

5. Organize your clutter and get rid of some stuff. It will leave you feeling calmer, and will save you lots of time.

6. Stay on the sidelines and don’t get drawn into pointless dramas in other peoples’ lives.

7. Finish what you’ve started - and then do something else.

8. Treat every person you meet with respect, and err on the side of being patient and kind.

9. Accept there are things that you can’t change or control – and focus on those things that you can change or control.

10. Don’t be too proud to apologise. Admit that you were wrong, then say you’re sorry, and move on.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

7 Things You Should Never Be Ashamed Of

1. Listening to your intuition.

2. Respecting and standing up for yourself.

3. Making your own choices/ living your own life.

4. Taking time for yourself/ investing in self care.

5. Feeling and respecting your own emotions.

6. Following your heart, and investing in your dreams.

7. Letting go of the past (that’s not who you are now.)

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“It was a privilege to love you, and it was a privilege to let you go. Both helped shape me into the person I have become.”

— Beau Taplin

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How to Fight Perfectionism

1. Delete “ought”, “must” and “should” from your vocabulary.

2. Get rid of all unrealistic goals, and replace them with realistic, achievable goals.

3. Accept and love yourself unconditionally.

4. Recognize that NOBODY is perfect – despite what the media, or other people, say.

5. Love your quirks and value your uniqueness.

6. See mistakes as lessons on the road to success.

7. Notice all the positives, and small accomplishments.

8. Enjoy, and be thankful for, the good things in your life.

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How to Deal with Envy and Jealousy

1. Ask yourself the question “Why does this matter so much to me? For example, is it that I feel I’m not enough, or do I feel lonely and overlooked?”

2. Ask yourself “What is MY definition of success?” Then think of realistic goals you can set for yourself, instead of always thinking of what others have achieved.

3. Focus on the talents and the gifts you have been given, and think of how to use these in a meaningful way. Don’t wish that you were someone you were never meant to be.

4. Ask yourself “What kind of person do I really want to be … and try to develop those traits and qualities. Who you are matters more than what you look like or achieve.

5. Make a list of all the things you can be grateful for today – the blessings that you have, and all the gifts that you enjoy.

[sushmasirimalle]

"Things happen all the time it's just that some gets to you and some doesn't. It's an episode, a phase which eventually will pass and a new tomorrow awaits you to understand this fact so keep going"

-Sushma

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"Everything is a facade, every word is a curse. The cruelty of reality hits you hard in the face in unknown ways"

-Sushma