Counselling Blog

Welcome to the official tumblr of The Online Counselling College. Disclaimer: The information contained in posts does not necessarily reflect the views of the Online Counselling College. They are for information only and cannot provide a formal diagnosis. If you require help with any mental health issues please contact a registered counsellor, doctor or psychiatrist. Also, all posts on this blog are copyright of The Online Counselling College (unless otherwise sourced). They can be reblogged on Tumblr but may not be reproduced or uploaded without permission. Unfortunately, we are unable to provide personal advice or counselling to our readers. Happy reading, and have a great day! For more information on the college, visit our website: www.onlinecounsellingcollege.com

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"No one is treasured more in this world than someone who lightens the burden of another." - Unknown

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“The mind replays what the heart can’t delete.” - Unknown

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“Deep in my heart I know I am a loner. I have tried to blend in with the world or be more sociable, but the more people I meet the more disappointed I am. So I’ve learned to enjoy myself, my family, and a few good friends.” - Steven Aitchison

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“I’m a good enough person to forgive you but not stupid enough to trust you again.” - Unknown

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Tips for Improving your Social Skills

1. Work on remembering peoples’ names.

2. Make an effort to stay in touch with people – even if it’s only liking an occasional photo on facebook.

3. Develop and improve your listening skills. This includes not interrupting when others are speaking, not trying to control the conversation, and showing a respectful, genuine interest in the speaker.

4. Hold the door for others, and let others out first (in elevators, on trains and buses etc.)

5. When you’re writing an email, keep it brief and to the point. Nobody wants to read a long, boring essay.

6. Keep your voice down when you’re talking on your phone. No-one wants to hear your private conversations (and especially when you’re travelling on public transport).

7. Show a genuine interest in the passions of others. Ask lots of open questions, and find out what you can about their hobbies and interests.

8. When someone joins a conversation you’re involved it, include them right away, and try to bring them up to speed.

9. Don’t be a whiner or find fault with everything. Instead, being affirming, optimistic, and try and find the positives.

10. Be tolerant and patient with other people. Do what you can to accept them as they are.

11. Don’t go on and on – so other people fall asleep, begin to feel annoyed or want to run and hide.

12. Don’t argue back aggressively, or try to pick a fight, if you disagree with someone (even when you’re right).

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“When the past calls, don’t answer. You’re a different person today.” - Unknown

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“From the very beginning you are being told to compare yourself with others. This is the greatest disease. It is like a cancer that goes on destroying your very soul because each individual is unique, and comparison is not possible.” - Osho

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How to Help a Friend See they’re Not a Failure

1. Remind them of all the kind and thoughtful things they’ve done for you, and for the other people in their life.

2. Remind them of times when they’ve pushed ahead, and kept on going, even when it was hard.

3. Remind them of the times when things worked out eventually, and their efforts were rewarded, and they reached a personal goal.

4. Remind of the funny things they’ve said and done, and the times when you have laughed, and shared some happy memories.

5. Show them they are worthwhile and are valuable by doing something special that makes them feel they’re loved.

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“I’ve got a bad case of the 3:00 am guilts - you know, when you lie in bed awake and replay all those things you didn’t do right? Because, as we all know, nothing solves insomnia like a nice warm glass of regret, depression and self-loathing.” - D.D. Barant

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“I withdraw from people and places from time to time. I need space from a world that is filled with millions of mouths that talk too much but never have anything to say.” - Kaitlin Foster

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“What worries you controls you.” - Unknown

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“Not everyone likes me but not everyone matters.” - ILIKETOQUOTE.COM

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Self-Awareness Questions

Self-awareness is having an accurate picture of how you tend to think, feel, act and react. It’s knowing what your strengths and weaknesses are, and knowing exactly what you want from your life. Also, it’s assessing how well you relate and interact with people you encounter in your daily life. This is crucial if you want to succeed.

The questions below can help to deepen your self-understanding and self-awareness.

1. Would you rate yourself as happy or unhappy? What has the greatest impact on your happiness?

2. Are there any areas of your life where you feel you are out of control?

3. Do you prefer a tidy, organised environment or a chaotic, disorganised environment?

4. Are you more attracted to something if you know it is forbidden?

5. Are you motivated, or demotivated, by competition?

6. Are you a leader or a follower?

7. Do you find it easier to do things for others than to do things or yourself?

8. Do you have clear boundaries or do people walk all over you?

9. Are you a morning or a night person?

10. Does being around people energise you or wear you out?

11. Do you prefer to be in the spotlight or the background?

12. If you could change one thing in your life, what would that one thing be?

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“Just because you took longer than others doesn’t mean you failed. Remember that.” - Unknown

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Rules for a Beautiful Life

1. Love yourself and other people.

2. Don’t grow hard and bitter.

3. Decide not to worry.

3. Live a very simple life.

4. Be thankful for the small things.

5. Smile and laugh frequently.

6. Think the best of others.

7. Make your dreams reality.

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“You will be too much for some people. Those are not your people.” - Unknown

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"Life went on without you. Of course it did. Of course it did. It was just an ending, not THE end." - Unknown