--- friendly note: over the last like... two months or so it’s been cropping up a bit that people are unfollowing me because i’m not responding fast enough, or setting threads with me into archive because it’s been ‘this amount of time’. and this is not me telling you that you can’t do that because obviously do whatever you do, but like. this is me saying that i have never claimed to be fast. i’m a full-time teacher and full-time grad student. right now i have 61 drafts plus about like 50 asks. a lot of these are not short, and i dislike trying to push out replies just because it’s been x amount of time because then it’s not my best.
what i’m saying is that naturally, if you unfollow, i’m going to drop the thread. sorry i don’t write fast enough for you, hope you find someone that can.
but if you make a note that such and such thread has been archived -- well now i don’t know if you ever want me to reply, when i was going to eventually. i can’t make promises as to when it would happen. and then it gets me anxious about writing with you because i think now you’re expecting me to reply to you sooner than i normally can, and what that does is make it take me longer because for every day i don’t reply, i wonder if you even want me to, and then it gets to the point where its been so long that i convince myself you’ve forgotten about it.
i’ve become more liberal in dropping things, yeah, but there’s still rules to it. 1) the blog is inactive. 2) i genuinely don’t think you’re interested. 3) we literally have like twenty things and they’re all banter. 4) we’ve started a longer plotted thread so i drop something small we did.
my point here is this ---> if you’ve come into writing with me expecting quick turn around, may as well let me know i can remove our thread from my drafts. i’ve picked up threads after a few years, okay. there’s never a ‘too late’ in getting your reply to me, and i expect the same courtesy. if you can’t extend the same courtesy, for whatever reason -- and i won’t ask, because that’s your reason -- then let me know. but if you have like a ‘after this amount of time it’s considered dropped’ i immediately panic if it’s even close to that amount of time, and that affects my muse for the reply even more.
i’m just a little tired of people not directly coming to me to ask if a reply is coming, or when, or if i’ve seen things, and either assuming it dropped or unfollowing altogether. my reply will come when it comes. i’m managing 28 muses here. if you want to write with me, send a meme! i’m happy to still do things with you in the meantime -- maybe it’ll even spark muse for the thread. just because i’m not replying to that one things doesn’t mean all things are over. but there’s gotta be a communication. if i assume you’re waiting, and you assume its not coming, there’s a problem -- so just talk to me if you’re worried.
but uh yeah -- short point, i am not fast. i will never be fast. if you need time constraints on replies, we’re probably not a good match.
