#-system-wide posts

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i made a mental connection so now i wanna see how correct it is

i am a system and...

... was NOT emotionally neglected, but have chronically ill alters

... WAS emotionally neglected, and have chronically ill alters

... was NOT emotionally neglected, and does NOT have chronically ill alters

... WAS emotionally neglected, and does NOT have chronically ill alters

nuance (put it in tags plz?)

Voting ended onNov 1, 2024

theory: at least on an individual basis, systems who grew up emotionally neglected may be more prone to having chronically ill alters in-sys because those thoughts of wishing they were sick/injured become internalized and establish themselves as the only way to get emotional needs met and paid attention to.

please rb/share for sample size! i really want to know if i'm onto something here or not---

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Hi so I don't know if the blog is still active but I was in this server and 3 trauma. systems said that endo systems aren't real and I was wondering why they think that? They also think trauma systems are the only ones

We personally believe that systems which identify as endo may not have access to their traumatic memories at this time, or may not realize that something they went through was actually traumatic for them.

For this reason, we do not believe endo systems should be attacked or fake-claimed, however, currently the diagnostic requirements for DID is to have sustained trauma* at an early enough age that the brain was unable to meld into one personality, with 2 or more distinct personalities present.

This may be why they view endo systems as invalid, however, there are many other dissociative and personality disorders out there - however DID is our main focus, and admittedly we don't know enough about those disorders to say how they play into those systems opinions.

We'd recommend doing your own research, so that you have that information under your belt if you're ever invalidated again.

* Please note that how much trauma is highly subjective and will vary from brain to brain, as different people will have different tolerances. Just because it doesn't bother one person does not mean it isn't a massive trigger for someone else.

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Scalemail Sys. lyric pranks itself with “Maria Mena - Am I Supposed To Apologize?”  Bonus: Asmo being Asmo

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We’ve been getting a lot of new followers lately! Welcome to all of you! Our alter list is a bit out of date, so we’ll work on that when we can, but we’re actually up to 33 alters now - our most recent one is Dolly, a porcelain doll who seems to be an internal helper for the younger ones. Like always, we’re open to answering genuine questions from singlets who want to understand better, and to making other system friends! So don’t be afraid of that ask box!

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Why Do We Forget The Good Things, Too?

DISCLAIMER: This is a theory, not a professional opinion.

We as a system have noticed that most of the time, our memory blocks on negative memories are more easily overcome than our memory blocks on positive things.

Why is this?

We speculate that maybe, as is often the answer with DID, is that our brain perceives it as safer, or more easily coped with. It’s not easy to know that things didn’t have to be this way, that in some alternate timeline where our blood relatives didn’t change for the worse, we could have been a healthy, “undamaged” singlet. That we could have been happy, could have been just “I”. 

Only just today did we remember that the father used to be kind, used to be caring, used to read bedtime stories when we were 2 - 3. We completely forgot the character Tigger even existed until his name was mentioned by a friend system, and we remembered in a rush that “The Tigger Movie: Read Along” was our favorite bedtime story, that we used to have a plushie of him that was, at that age, twice our height. And remembering that has us on the verge of tears. It’s borderline overwhelming, to have your subconscious whisper “It didn’t have to be this way. It could have been better.”

How many other “good” memories are we missing, because it hurts too much to know that it wasn’t always pain and isolation and abuse? How much is hidden away, because our brain knows we can’t handle it?

How much have we not grieved the loss of, because it would be too much to know what we lost?

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We’re having a blurred moment, and decided to draw to relieve some of the stress causing it. This is the result.

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So it’s Fathers Day...

We would like to dedicate a post to all systems who became systems because of their birth fathers, step fathers, or other paternal role - as well as systems who may not have formed due to those figures in their lives, but simply do not have a good relationship with them anyways. You’re likely facing pressure to forgive them, to love them in spite of what they did, or lacked care to do. You probably hate this day, and we would like to say that, unfortunately, we can understand that quite well. We’d like to give hope to you on this day - that one day, you can find someone who you think of as a true father, someone who you do not cower from in fear, someone who you can effortlessly and lovingly call “dad” or “papa” or “Vater” or “abba” or “apu” or “tatay” or “babbo” - and much more. No matter who you are, or where you are from, we wish you wellness, hope, love, safety, and peace.  Happy Fathers Day, not to him, but to you. If you are like us, then you probably raised yourself, and you deserve the recognition. So Happy Fathers Day to you. Not to him.