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Holly Spring Green (#012220 to #03e27a)

[jaehyunstinydoublechin]

Idk who needs to hear this but u need to stop wasting your time and energy waiting for people who hurt you to notice and fix it. Talk to them or forget about it. U don’t deserve to compromise your mental well-being over it

[jdm-partsnz]

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[calllinerantsandraves]

No names means no accountability

Any line that doesn’t require people to give their name will have the most nasty disgusting people on them.  They’re worse than trolls.  Anyone calling a place that doesn’t require names should BEWARE.

Places like that are not safe. 

I’ve discussed it with many people.  Lines where there’s no accountability are breeding grounds for behavior worse than trolls on the internet.  Anonymity breeds the worst behavior in people, and call lines are no different.

I’ve had the worst experience at this one place Contact in Michigan.  I talked to someone for 15 minutes before they asked what my immediate crisis was.  I told them I was looking for emotional support.  When I didn’t have the answer she wanted, she slammed the phone down.

These are the places I wish I could tell the world not to call.  People can be really hurt at places like this.

But also, I should have listened to myself.  When she refused to give her name, she was already rude about it.  I should have hung up then.

[calllinerantsandraves]

*Her* boundaries

I was trying to explain how hard it is to get support on the lines.  She obviously wasn’t listening during the whole first half of the call because I was telling her all about the call takers I was having trouble with. 

I told her that I didn’t have money for therapy.  She offered me a resource where I could find a therapist. . . for money.  Hello?

Then all of a sudden she decided that she didn’t want to hear about call takers anymore.  She tells me that it’s her co-workers and her job, so she’s drawing a boundary.  Nevermind that I had been talking about the same subject for the entire call while she obviously wasn’t listening.

That call line has some of the worst call takers ever.

Yet this morning, one of them really helped me out.  I wish I could just talk to those ones.  There’s only less than a handful of them.  But you can’t request them.  I have to waste your call on people like this.

[calllinerantsandraves]

Power imbalance

On many lines, call takers talk down to the callers.  They treat them like little children who need to be corrected, told what to do and given trite little cliches.  And don’t you dare question any of it, or you’re in the wrong.

I was telling a call taker about how I was having trouble finding support.  She told me in the most trite way possible that “The only person who can motivate you is YOU!”

What a piece of trite nonsense.  Everyone needs support.  Pretending that anyone can take on the world by themselves is a complete myth.

I told her that it was condescending to say that when I just told her that I was looking for support.  She gaslighted me and told me that she wasn’t saying that it wasn’t OK to look for support.

But it’s in the context of looking for support that I said that.  When I tried to explain that, she got hostile and told me that I’m misunderstanding.  She said it over and over that I was misunderstanding. 

I know this particular line has a pretty good feedback line where I can call a supervisor and generally get a real person to complain about someone.  I’ve done it before.  I was thinking about doing it again.  That gave me the courage to speak up.

I told her, is it possible that maybe you’re misunderstanding me?  Can it only be that I’m misunderstanding you but not that you’re misunderstanding me?  She says that she’s understanding me fully but I’m not understanding her.  Again, demeaning.

I said it one more time that in the context of trying to get support, it’s demeaning to say that the only person who can motivate you is YOU.

Then she got into salty tone and told me she would listen.  I told her the difficulty I was having finding support. 

She apologized for the “misunderstanding” earlier and told me that she hope I find the support.  I thanked her for the well wishes.

I’m glad I stood up for myself.  I probably would not have if I didn’t know this line didn’t have a decent feedback system. 

This call line system is completely BROKEN.  It needs more oversight.  It needs more feedback systems.  It needs more people to care about it, wheih generally means more funding

[nikowlodeonx]

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Hello mahal. Opening naman ako today, yehey. ❤️

Usual day again. Alam mo mahal ko, naiinis ako kay mam jean (as usual) mas lalo ako naiinis kasi mahal wala nako napag kkwentuhan ng mga bagay bagay. Huhu

Ano naman kaya ginawa nyo maghapon? Madami kana siguro kwento sakin 'no? Hihi. Ipunin mo lang mahal. Willing ako makinig pagbalik mo.

Mahal koooo. Mabuti nalang opening ako this week. Ma mroblema na naman ako next week ksi closing naman na ako. Hays. Mabuti nalang din andyan palagi sila Marton para alagaan ako.

Miss na miss na kita po. Malapit na ang monthsary natin, sana marinig ko ulit ang boses mo. ❤️ I love you. 😍