Thoughts On Meeting The Exception
You don't think you'll meet them until you actually do.
No, I'm not talking about "the one" or whatever it is Mr/Mrs Right is being called these days. I'm talking about the one person that changes everything you've ever known about yourself and how you interact with others. The one that causes you to stray from your normal, familiar, tried and true modes of behavior.
I'm too much of a realist to think meeting this person equals spending the rest of your life with them. However, I am an idealist enough to believe that this person is meant to teach you something or several things. The very least, that such a behavior from you is quite possible.
Having met my exception (the first one thus far anyway), I realized something else. No matter how hard you try or how distracted you think you are, I think you can't help but fall for them.
They show you a side of yourself you've never seen before. Maybe, its a side you've even wanted to see but thought it impossible. And because of that ability of theirs, effortless in their part, they've become this thought-provoking, fascinating puzzle. You can't stop thinking about them, trying to figure out what it is they have that makes them so different, or what is it about them that makes you act so. Eventually, that fascination grows into admiration. Add in some meaningful conversations, the kind you yearn for but hardly ever find, and admiration grows into a quiet affection. Even if their effect on you terrifies you to the bones, you're still drawn to them because they're doing something no one else has done before. And in your search to try to figure out why, that's when it happens.
But even if you don't end up together (life's great like that, isn't it?), its still an experience to have. No matter how terrifying it is, or how vulnerable you feel, you shouldn't run away. Even if you believe in your heart of hearts that this story will end with him meeting his love of his life and you walking away with your shattered heart, you owe it to yourself to stay. Because exceptions don't come everyday, and they came into your life for a reason (even if its not the reason you want) and I don't think being friends with them, no matter how long or short that relationship might be, is something you'll want to take back.