#25032019

[stimme-der-seele]

Manchmal bin ich alles für dich und manchmal weniger als nichts. Es tut weh.

[desekilibrio]

;; transparencia

me gustaría saber qué pasa por tu mente cada vez que me ves. pero a la vez me da miedo la posibilidad de que puedas verme como yo me veo. como en realidad soy. porque sé que estoy mal por mi culpa y trato de entenderlo pero y ¿tú?. ¿entenderías que estoy dividida?

si crees en los zombies supongo que crees en los monstruos, así que te resultará fácil entender que soy uno.

pero no temas

no te haré daño

jamás

solo mírame una vez más para que pueda mentirme y hacerme creer cosas que no son.

o si.

acumularé cada ínfima mentira

hasta que me canse y las encienda para que veas el esplendor de las llamas.

para que me veas arder

majestuosa

aunque termine destruida

en cenizas

escondida detrás de la oscuridad

mi oscuridad.

pero no te engañes. que viva en llamas no quiere decir que sea fuego, en realidad soy un océano de lágrimas acumuladas y oportunidades perdidas.

y no te invito a nadar porque no hay salida, pero si te invito a que veas desde lejos. porque desde lejos todo parece bonito.

desde lejos no escuchas los gritos y las peleas.

mis gritos.

y las peleas donde siempre

pero siempre

pierdo.

[taeminrecuerdos]

25.03.2019

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[taeminrecuerdos]

25.03.2019

Panel de exhibición por el lanzamiento del libro fotográfico de Taemin; 'POTRAIT', en Shibuya Tsutaya.

[failedimitator]

D sends me a video of a golden retriever picking up a cat by the leash and walking off with it. The video is all over the internet under titles like, dog stops cat best-friend from getting into a fight. Or good boy breaks up fight before it starts. When D sends the video, she says that different groups of her friends react differently depending on whether they’re cat people or dog people. The dog people go -- oh, dogs are so smart. And the cat people go -- this dog has no chill.

Watching the video, all I could see was the human hands all over it. Not only was the dog constantly checking in with whoever it was behind the camera, but the cat had a collar. What’s the percentage of cats with leashes? What percentage of those leash cats end up on the internet? I’m just saying, if I have a golden retriever and a cat and I want to train the golden retriever to pick up the cat, I’ll get the cat a leash so it’s easier for the dog.

“You don’t have to train them though,” D says, “Golden retrievers are bred to carry things.”

OK. I’ll show my hand. 

1. I’m a cat person. And 

2. I believe that putting cats on a leash is straight up animal abuse. 

As humans, abusing animals for our amusement is pretty much our favourite past time. Think about the otter you’ve seen playing basketball. An elephant balancing on a ball. Dogs with fancy fur cuts at dog shows. Dog shows. And every single photo of a cat dressed as Bane.

I’ve seen enough videos of people training animals to do seemingly cute things that the only thing I feel when I see most of these videos is revolt.

“It just sounds to me like you’re taking one bad experience you had and extrapolating it to all animal videos,” D says. “I know animals, and I can tell you that that dog doesn’t look trained.”

“Or he could just be really well trained,” I retort.

It’s crazy how this person who I feel I understand -- who I feel understands me -- is taking a position that seems completely insane to me. 

“There’s no universe in which there are no human hands in this,” I say.

“And with all due respect, I don’t think you know what the fuck you’re talking about,” she replies.

At the end of the day, we changed topics. I told her about how my legs have started hurting from running four times a week. She told me about her ex-boyfriend texting her out of the blue.

I think of relationships -- the whole spectrum of them, from professional to romantic and everything in between -- at least in the beginning, as a data gathering process. A process to build a model you think best represents that person in your head. The idea being that the more data you collect, the more accurate the model, and the more accurate the mental simulations.

“She wouldn’t like a brownie topped with chocolate ice-cream.”

“Yes, he would totally love this book of Syrian poetry.”

Not all data is created equal, but early on, it’s difficult to know which ones to take seriously, and which things to disregard. Her belief that the dog raised the cat and thinks of it as its child, and that’s why it’s being protective -- does that mean she’s naive and gullible? Does it mean she likes dogs? Or does it just mean she believes that the dog raised the cat and thinks of it as its child and that’s why it’s being protective?

It all depends on the quality of the model of that person you’ve built. Which in turn depends on the quantity of data you’ve gathered. Which, of course is correlated with how much time you’ve spent together. 

Which is to say that there’s no short-cut to building solid relationships.

[devitaapem]

Mencarimu, wahai belahan jiwa

Bahagianya jika kita yang jomblo ini bisa segera mendapatkan pasangan. Tidak dipungkiri, ketika menginjak kepala dua, naluri kita mulai mencari. Mencari tambatan hati, belahan jiwa, atau rusuk pelengkap raga. Apapun namanya tak terlalu penting. Asalkan segera menemukannya pasti hati langsung bermekaran bunga-bunga.

Ternyata menemukan apa yang kita cari memang tak semudah mengepalkan jari-jari tangan. Diawal pencarian kepalan tangan kita bisa memberikan semangat. Lama kelamaan kepalan tangan mulai mengendor. Diikuti semangat yang mulai padam. Lelah mencari sosok yang kita impikan.

Mungkin tidak semua dari kita pernah berpacaran. Kalau menurut agama yang namanya pacaran itu haram hukumnya, karena menjurus pada perzinahan. Namun diluar dari keagamaan, seseorang yang pernah berpacaran pun tidak menjamin akan mulus mencari belahan jiwanya.

Sudah pernah mengenal banyak macam karakter. Namun tak kunjung menemukan yang tepat. Begitupun yang tak pernah berpacaran. Kadang mereka kesulitan untuk berinteraksi dalam pencarian.

Di zaman sekarang ini pemikiran kaum muda mudi sudah mulai berubah. Pendidikan dan karir menjadi fokus utama mereka. Mungkin ini juga yang menjadi salah satu penyebab banyaknya jomblo di dunia. Terlalu fokus bekerja hingga membuat para orang tua resah.

Bagi kalian yang sedang dalam proses mencari, semoga dapat segera menemukannya. Menemukan yang terbaik. Dia yang telah dipilihkan Tuhan untukmu. Jangan lupa terus berdoa. Semangat.. :)

[riricitaa]

x

look at all the flaws he doesn’t have

[maxieee]

Advance birthday for my man last Saturday. Blessed birthday my love. ♡♡♡ #25032019 (at MONTI) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvbipIjBCsfGnaK36_o77BMz-he3NzNmUwBA8M0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=cfcd39ifttr9