About my personal post the other night, it occurred to me afterward that it might have come across as if I couldn't function in life and that isn't true. I'm actually highly functional just some days are rough. I'm not trying to make any excuses or say my life is horrible (it isn't) I just wanted to explain the reasons behind some of my perceived negativity.
All that said, I got some lovely messages so I'd like to reply to you all here. (Under the cut so as not to clog anyone's dash, unless you're on mobile in which case soz.)
littlecheshiremouth replied to your post “FWIW my negativity has a lot less to do with whatever Harry and Louis...”
hey, hi. you're not alone, you know? i'm kind of in a similar situation. fandom is my happy place too. and sometimes the bs makes it hard to handle. i get it. if you ever need a distraction or whatever, i'm always up for chatting about louis or hl :)
Thaaaaanks! I'll keep you in mind. :)
tommosgun replied to your post “FWIW my negativity has a lot less to do with whatever Harry and Louis...”
Huge hugs xxx always here for you if you need anything xxx
Thanks so much, Shar!! <333
2old2luv1d replied to your post “FWIW my negativity has a lot less to do with whatever Harry and Louis...”
Hi, sorry you’re feeling down, cliche i know but i’m 50 and ‘been there done that’ so if you ever want to chat or anything, message me,not always here every day, but i will be there for you and help all i can take care
Thanks very much! It's lovely of you to offer. :)
hiddensymposiarch replied to your post “FWIW my negativity has a lot less to do with whatever Harry and Louis...”
Thanks for sharing, sorry things are tough right now. Anything I can do to help make the fandom fun let me know! -Alex Xx
Thank you! I really appreciate it. :)
justaboatandafatbird said to too-old-for-this-ship:
You are a beautiful, brave person for your last personal post. I've followed you from the beginning of my interest in 1D, and I have always enjoyed your posts and perspective. As someone who also suffers with mental health issues and existential crises about life, I appreciate your need for fandom to be a safe happy place. This fandom has truly been a savior while I was going through some of the worst struggles i have ever experienced, thanks to people like you!
That means a lot, thank you very much! I felt a bit odd after posting it. I don't want anyone to think I'm making excuses for my behavior. I just want to be given a fair judgment I guess. Since there's a lot of stress in my life I don't want my experience here in this fandom to add to that. It would be nice to instead focus on the good and the fun and try to ignore some of the bad. At least that's what I'm trying to do now.
destinyshaped said to too-old-for-this-ship:
Hii! Fellow fuck-up here :-P We share a lot you and me. I am in my 30s, still depending on hand-outs from my parents, still not sure where I am headed in life, never have and never will fit the into the narrow mould of what ppl think a girl should be, mental health issues that just don’t quite go away (depression and social anxiety), still let the stunts and the bearding get to me, all though I am old enough and smart enough to know better. I just hate the feeling of being played all the time, all the schemes and all the shade. Just… aaagh! Just stop already, you know :-/ So hope you find some comfort in shared suffering :-P and know I understand your feelings about the fandom at large. I sometimes go on Tumblr on mobile just bc it is less intimidating when its smaller prints and I can scroll faster idk LOL (I also turn down the sound when the scary movies get to scary, so yeah strange like that me). Feel free to come talk or vent anytime… and Louis is cute isn’t he ;-)
Ah a fellow mind twin! Nice to meet you. :) We definitely share the same views it seems. I too sometimes like mobile better. Makes me feel more detached somehow, which is good. And yes, Louis is very cute indeed. Thank you! :)
amy-adderall said to too-old-for-this-ship:
Don't stress about the 30 thing. I was having a tough time with it too. I referred to my age as "twenty-ten" because I could not fathom being a thirty-year-old. Everything else deserves your focus! (And it feels the same as it did for ages 25-29...)
Thanks for the advice! ;) I'm working on getting over it. After my post I spoke to my therapist in depth about it and we're working on a plan to help me move past it. In the meantime though I will, without shame, lie about my age. People think I'm 23 and I'm just gonna go with that. (Also I may or may not be planning a Sweet 16 birthday party for myself this year. I never had one when I was 16 so why not? Who cares if I'm 14 years too late?)
Hi Marta. I never said but I have two kids, both boys:-). I love idea for the Larry mums club. I wish we wud all meet up for wine and cheese🍷. Have a great day!😄
I’d love that too. In Louis’ honour i’d take a cup of tea
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kanboko ha detto:
Hi love! ;)) What a good, splendid idea, your Larry Mums Roll Call ! I would gladly join, as an older french mum of 3 (15 girl I “converted” as Larry believer, 13 girl and 11 boy). I’m 51 now and not afraid to love proudly our 1D lads and give all my support and back to Louis&Harry in their difficult way to coming out. :))))
Thank you! And welcome ;-) (and good job on the converted girl)
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stinusmus ha detto:
Like to be added :-) I’m a proud mum of two boys. Went with the oldest (12) to the concert in Denmark: -) I’m totally a Larryholic!!!!!
Wecome! I wish my son was old enough to bring him at a concert!
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2old2luv1d ha detto:
hi please add me,i’m over 50 (never mind 25 !) mum to twins and luv luv luv 1D and especially H & L thanks x
Twins and re meant to love Louis ;-)
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Anonimo ha detto:
Hi I’m a 41 year old mom who loves louis and harry!
Hi anon! if you’d like to be added to the list, come off anon!
