#81918

[akoreenpala]

Forgive and forget. Repeat. 70x7.

[akoreenpala]

“That happens in marriages, too, and in other relationships we have. I can’t tell you the number of couples I have counseled who, when they are deeply hurt or even just deeply stressed, reach farther and farther into the past to nd yet a bigger brick to throw throughthe window “pain” of their marriage. When something is over and done with, when it has been repented of as fully as it can be repented of, when life has moved on as it should and a lot of other wonderfully good things have hap- pened since then, it is not right to go back and open up some ancient wound that the Son of God Himself died trying to heal.

Let people repent. Let people grow. Believe that people can change and improve. Is that faith? yes! Is that hope? yes! Is it charity? yes! above all, it is charity, the pure love of Christ. If something is buried in the past, leave it buried. don’t keep going back with your little sand pail and beach shovel to dig it up, wave it around, and then throw it at someone, saying, “Hey! do you remember this?” Splat!

Well, guess what? That is probably going to result in some ugly morsel being dug up out of your land ll with the reply, “yeah, I remember it. do you remember this?” Splat.

and soon enough everyone comes out of that exchange dirty and muddy and unhappy and hurt, when what God, our father in Heaven, pleads for is cleanliness and kindness and happiness and healing.

Such dwelling on past lives, including past mistakes, is just not right! It is not the gospel of Jesus Christ. It is worse than Miniver Cheevy, and in some ways worse than lot’s wife, because at least there he and she were only destroying themselves. In these cases of mar- riage and family and wards and apartments and neighborhoods, we can end up destroying so many, many others.

Perhaps at this beginning of a new year there is no greater requirement for us than to do as the Lord Himself said He does: “Behold, he who has repented of his sins, the same is forgiven, and I, the lord, remember them no more” (d&C 58:42).” —Jeffrey R. Holland,Remember Lot’s Wife

“I would not willingly peel back the scar tissue protecting the deepest chambers of my heart and reveal the bruised hollows pooled with the blood of old wounds – the terror comes just thinking about it – but now, facing darkness I am left with no choice.

I love you, and because of that am going to try and raise the dead. “—Louise Bell Closson, How It Ends

[akoreenpala]

“Too bad, too sad, that he was again to be surrounded by a whole batch of Lot’s wives, those who thought his past was more interesting than his future.”-Remember Lot’s Wife,Elder Jeffrey R. Holland

It’s really important to see someone’s potential and trust in them that they can achieve the goal they have for themselves. We should not put a limit to someone’s capacity and willingness to change. And we should always see the good in everyone. Trust them and don’t doubt them that they can change.