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Hi there!

No we don’t introduce new admins, but if you want to check them out, they are on the admin page which is right here (when it’s updated and the new admins are selected)!!

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Hey, you can call me Roxy and this is for no one in particular. I was friends with a girl. She has problems with her family and mental illness. At first I wanted to be there for her but as the years went by I grew tired. I didn't enjoy her company that much anymore but I was the only one she had back then. But now she has her brother, boyfriend and other friends. I only have myself. We don't match anymore and she only talks about herself (1/2)

I have problems of my own (family issues and college and depression and social anxiety). I feel like a terrible person for cutting her out of my life like this. But I can’t keep faking and forcing myself into it, you know? (2/2) - Roxy

Hey Roxy, it’s Charlie!

Yes, I completely agree. You’re always the first person you should take care of. Yeah, that sounds kind of selfish, but you’re more important that anyone in the world to yourself. You need to be okay to help others, and especially if this girl has other friends and people to talk to, it is completely okay to put yourself first and take care of yourself. Also, if she’s only talking about herself and not asking you how you’ve been, that’s not a two way street and that’s not what a friendship should be like.

It’s not your responsibility to pick her up whenever she’s down. You can help her out, sure. But her feeling better? That’s not you at all. You are always first, okay? Don’t feel about cutting her out, love. I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself first <3

Love,

Charlie

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I love that you care what our names are.

Hey friend, it’s Charlie <3

We always care about you all, you mean the world to us. And we really want you to be happy and not to mention, names make it more personal to you and us. <3 And I really appreciate this kind message. <3 This means so much to all of us here.

Love,

Charlie

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Hi, this is for anyone really I just need a little advice. I like this guy, only he's about 5 years younger than me. We're both legal (he's 19) but I haven't really said or done anything because I'm petrified that I'm being creepy or taking advantage or something. Should I say something to him or should I just forget about it and move on?

Hey friend, it’s Charlie! (Could you leave me a name/nickname next time so I know who you are? Thank you <3)

I would say it doesn’t really hurt to try it out, especially since you’re both over 18. And if you want to tell him how you feel, you should and see what he says.

But, if you’re not comfortable with your own feelings and there’s nothing you really want to come out of the relationship, then you should move on. I really wish there was something else I could say, but crushes can be hard to figure out.

Love,

Charlie

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Hi, you can call me Calvin. I'm willing to speak to whoever. Recently one of my friends' panic attacks have been coming back and I happened to be there with them during one. I just sat there, and I feel so bad since I don't know what to do. They said me being there helped, but what more can I do to help?

Hey Calvin, it’s Charlie!

That’s so nice of you to help a friend go through a panic attack, which can often times be really, really scary. Honestly, you being there can be an assurance that they’re going to be okay and that they’re going to get through this and that’s usually enough. But if you would like, you can always ask them if it’s okay to touch them and rub their back or shoulders, hold their hand, tell them that’s going to be okay, that kind of reassuring stuff. Help them focus on their breathing, four counts in, four counts out. Check in with them after, see if they’re doing okay. Make sure they eat a little something after or even a sip of water because the attacks can be really draining. 

The thing about a panic attack is that they don’t know if they’re going to get through it, you know? <3 But with some convincing from great friends like you, they’re going to be just fine. <3 

Love,

Charlie

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Hey Cas, its Care again. I know its been a while, but I just wanted to let you know that I'm doing okay now. I stopped taking melatonin when I don't have to and I'm only having night terrors once in a while. My psych teacher said not to worry, btw.

Hey Care, it’s Cas <3

I’m glad to hear you’re doing well, it’s such great news this early morning! <3 And I’m so happy that the night terrors have stopped. <3 If you need me, you always know where to find me <3

Love,

Castiel

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Hi!! Is Charlie there? I have a crush on this girl that I talk to a lot on Twitter and I want to tell her but I don't know how she'd react. I feel like we don't know enough about each other to start dating, and I've never been in a relationship before so the thought is kind of intimidating. Any advice? :-( -Meg

Hey Meg, it’s Charlie!

I think if you’re not ready to tell her, you should wait. Especially if you don’t know her as well. I would say talk to her a little bit more, drag that crush stage along a little bit longer. I think it’s the cutest, happiest part of liking someone: everything they do is adorable. But, anyway, talk to her! Get to know her better and decide for yourself whether you want to take a step further. Sometimes the waiting sucks, but taking things slow isn’t a bad idea. <3 You got this, love.

Love,

Charlie

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Okay. So. I have an issue. I like one of my best friends brothers and he knows I like him and he kind of flirts? But he hasn't said anything about liking me back so it's safe to assume he doesn't like me back. Idk what I should do, do I try and stop liking him or? -L.S

Hey L.S, it’s Charlie!

If you think he doesn’t like you back and you’re not sure if you want to continue down that route, you should stop. Because it’s easy to have expectations of someone and have them let you down, especially if he’s never said anything about liking you back. Not to mention, boys can be pretty flirty and their behavior can be taken either way.

But if you think that you want to keep what you guys have now, then I would say keep trying. But if you’re looking for a relationship and you know he’s not going to give that to you, then you should not. Hope that helped <3

Love,

Charlie