Okay, so can I just say tumblr in general is really bad at a couple things:
recognizing that many people, probably most people, outside the ~tumblr fandom bubble~ flat-out don't understand the nuances of gender and sexuality, especially the relevant technical terminology or what can make something sound "problematic"
recognizing that reflex-attacking them for their ignorance (versus "I'm disappointed X said Y because they must not realize what Y means, can we teach them somehow?") just whips up a bunch of unproductive and premature wank
recognizing that validating intense emotional reactions to the point of near-infallibility on the part of the person expressing them might not always be a good thing
recognizing that just because feelings are powerful and worthy of acknowledgement and consideration doesn't mean they automatically confer the moral or factual high ground to the person expressing them
recognizing that while intent doesn't excuse people of their actions, it should goddamn well affect how you respond to them
If someone steps on your foot by mistake and either apologizes or is totally unaware, you are well within your rights to be hurt, but when you shout them down afterward and say they're a dirty rotten foot-stepper that makes you a jerk
I mean maybe this is the part of me who sympathizes heavily with Vulcans and Stoics (same difference) but I find it difficult to grasp this notion that emotions are beyond rational criticism or examination
Especially after nodding my way through "On Anger."
AKA Real Talk with Seneca
It's like half the time tumblr is trying to say feelings are these vicious, wild beasts that control us and we're just helpless against their onslaught
And if I believed that I probably would have given up on life a long time ago
I have to think there's a chance that one day, I won't be at the mercy of externals as much as I am now
(and I'm talkin' 'bout externals that affect my physical self not possibly inelegant statements from celebrities I admire)
Not to say controlling your feelings isn't incredibly fucking difficult but what's the alternative to trying?
The alternative is Achilles parading Hector's body around because he lost his fucking marbles over Patroclus
And if you try to control feelings at least there's a (slim) chance you'll end up like Diogenes who didn't give no fucks about nothing thank you very much
Or the Buddha because enlightenment = seeing the true nature of things
Let's be real Siddhartha and Seneca would have paled around and been like "dude you are so RIGHT"
And possibly consoled Marcus Aurelius together because the poor guy was so depressed and existential
....
what was I talking about
oh yeah
feelings =/= virtue
ADDENDUM: and a lot of the ancient dudes were big on the sentiment "don't get angry at uneducated people - pity them because they don't know any better and can't be moral or fully flourishing in their ignorance." I want to say Aristotle but he's not the only one.