I. What are your virtues? II. How would you like to be made love to? III. How do you view your inner life? IV. Have you eaten well lately? V. What kind of affection do you give? VI. Could you describe your voice? VII. How do you console yourself? VIII. How would you like to live and die? IX. Please share a recipe or a piece of music. X. Write something good about something perceived as having a negative quality. Pass on to five others, whom you would like to know better.
(I) It’s always hard for me to talk about my virtues, as I have only a few or maybe I’m not aware of the others yet. Anyway, the only strenght I can be alway certain of is that I’m a tolerant person, I don’t judge other people and I’m open to new manners. I care about my loved ones, probably more than I care about myself (is it a virtue, though?). Also, I’m a quick learner and I’ve never had problems with studying/learning.
(II) Anyhow, it just has to be filled with love and affection and primarily the feeling that I’m loved and treated with care.
(III) There are times I reckon my inner life is the most interesting place on earth, but there are also the worse times when I think it’s a messy bundle of my insecurities and fears that hinder me from doing things I want. I suppose, it’s both, though I rather cling to the first option. Plus I believe my inner life is much richer than I can see it.
(IV) Yes, I have! I’ve never been more satisfied with myself concerning eating that I am now. Such a thoughtful question!
(V) Attention. I try to be with people I love as much as possible, ask about their feelings, opinions (I guess it’s also because of my inquisitiveness) and support them.
(VI) I’d rather not, since people say my voice is kind of bland and hoarse due to my unceasing cold.
(VII) I find consolation in literature, reading, music, nature, my dog and cats - basically, these are the fundamental things I need for living. At times I feel blue, I try to remind myself there is still a lot of world that I haven’t seen yet.
(VIII) The main thing would be with who I spend my life. I want to be content with myself, my ideas should correspond with my actions, my physical and mental health is both okay, I’d travel, meet new people and explore the world. And of course, I’d have a dream job that would be somehow related to art/books. As for my death, I’m not ready to think about it yet, though I hope it’ll be calm, I’ll die of either an illness or old age. Violent death is my nightmare.
(IX) I’ll go for the latter, music. Recently I’ve been listening to this, this and this. Good old Amy would be always my recommendation, though.
(X) Okay, it took make quite long to come up with something. I decided to go for the quote ‘You Can’t Love Someone Else Until You Love Yourself’. This has been criticized a lot on tumblr and I understand some people percieve it in a negative way, cause they take it literally. But for me, it means that you can’t love something truly, with your whole soul unless you love yourself first. Of course, when we are growing up, other people teach us how to love and that’s the way how we learn to love ourselves as well as others. But loving someone and not loving yourself isn’t the real kind of love, it’s just an illusion of love and what’s more, it can be harmful sometimes, for example when we are excessively dependent on the person we ‘love’. In brief, loving yourself first is important, cause then we are full of our own love, therefore we can give the others more than we’ve ever thought we are able to. Also, if you don’t see the beauty in yourself and don’t realise your qualities and virtues, then you can’t recognise that at others. I don’t know if it makes any sense, I’m awfully bad at explaining, sorry.
(This message has been in my inbox for almost a year, so I’d like to apologise for my overdue answer and also thank you for sending it to me.)
