In the article “ “Patriarchy, the system: An it, not a he, a them, or an us;” by Allan G. Johnson, the author explains that in order for society to get rid of patriarchy we must first realize that it is not a problem created by individuals but that it is a systematic problem. Because patriarchy is “invisible” like privilege it is impossible to get rid of it until we acknowledge that it is here. Patriarchy is part of cultures, and religions, even in our family households we practice patriarchy; everyone in a household has a role, the father must work to provide for the family, not talk about his feelings, and not allow his wife to work because her job is taking care of the kids and the house. We will never be able to see our potentials if we keep treating each other differently because of our genders.
Patriarchy is even embedded in the use of language, for example, the definition of the word virgin in today’s society is someone who is heterosexually inexperienced and thus incomplete, but if you define it without a patriarchal influence on it, the word virgin can be defined as a woman who is unattached, unclaimed, and unowned by any man and therefore independent and autonomous. Not only does patriarchy affect the definition of certain words that are usually used to describe aspects of women, patriarchy also influences the way the English vocabulary uses words to describe women, as Laurel Richardson states in her article “Gender Stereotyping in the English Language”; “in terms of grammatical and semantic structure, women do not have a fully autonomous, independent existence; they are part of the man. The language is not divided into male and female with distinct conjugations and declensions”, instead whenever the word man is used as an indefinite pronoun it refers to both men and women. Although women have obviously been around as long as men, mankind is the word used to describe men and women. This decision to use man to describe two genders is fuel to what patriarchy stands for, it’s as if someone said: “Men are obviously better than women in every way so when we want to include men and women in one word we’ll use the name of the better one among the two.”