Franz KAFKA on the real, or the real gaze, the sense of lack and the acute awareness about how one has many blind spots, how the sexuality is a constant conquering egendered by a drive or a zeal to know, a need to map the desires of others by meeting them, or dating ever new people, an unrest of wanting to absorb the field, of wanting to know who one is for others. In this sense sexuality is about vision, about what escapes vision, about the desire of the other who remains enigmatic to us. Sexuality in the field of vision is a story of our coming to terms with our lack, our never being able to look at oneself from outside, never able to deconstruct the riddle of what one is to the world, unable to stop wondering about it, unable to just simply go out into the world and be seen.