#alternativeparenting

[girlcannabis]

Putting him on to Steven Universe💕🌎🌍🌏 #stevenuniverse #bae #nevergrowup #bxc #alternativeparenting

[girlcannabis]

#skankitup #nodoubt #alternativeparenting #tattooedmoms

[girlcannabis]

Always in awe of her beauty. #loveyoutothemoonandback #alwaysandforever #charlottejade #whatkeepsmegoing #alternativeparenting

[girlcannabis]

Howling at the moon🌙🌙🌙 #sabbathbloodysabbath #charlottejade #alternativeparenting

[factorofmum]

Separation Anxiety: letting spaghetti-head exercise his bodily autonomy in interactions with others, appreciating his developing mind, and encouraging independent play. I have been spending too much time reading about RIE and AP and wondering why with all the labels, but recently stumbled across a great book called “How Eskimos Keep Their Babies Warm: And Other Adventures in Parenting” that looks at global parenting methods, I highly recommend it.

[dollyvonmonstress-blog]

Mother♥

Yes, we are using some Danzig as inspiration for the introduction title. Before I even begin, this will be more of a rant discussion. Just fair warning. So here we go! So as most that know me in person and even online, I am on the alternative side of everything. From the way that I dress and talk, to the way that I parent my daughter and love my boyfriend. Do I believe I am less of a parent because my parenting style skills are much different from typical other mothers? No, I definitely do not. I do believe that in this day and age, women can do anything and everything. I take pride in being a strong and confident woman. Feminism is a very large part of what I believe. Though, I also believe in being a housewife....only with many more twists and turns.  I live in a household where both my boyfriend and I both work outside the home. We both make our own money and pay the bills. What I feel is right in my heart....I also cook and clean the house daily on my own and make sure our beautiful daughter is clean and well. Though we both spend much time with her, as a mother, it’s a instinct to be by her side as much as I possibly can. My ways may not be anything like yours, and that is okay. I get bashed, criticized, and insulted for the way my household and family is ran. My daughter has her fair share of cute pink and purple clothing....but if I decide to dress her in black, band tee’s, even stockings...I see nothing wrong with it. The looks I get when out in public don’t bother me. Yes, I have tattoos and very obvious piercings. Yes, I have crimson colored hair and wear bright red lipstick. Yes, I wear high-waisted jeans and high heels. Yes, my daughter is wearing a black shirt and zebra print skinny jeans with a big red bow in her hair. The judgment that is passed is crazy, but if you really think about it, if I didn’t want the attention, to be envied and admired, and even hated...I wouldn’t be the way that I am. I love the reactions, good and bad...it shows me that there are so many different ways to life and I appreciate that. 

[progressiveparentingintheci-blog]

Pledge

I have had people cast judgement about my choice to educate & engage my children in federal, provincial and city politics (in an age appropriate manner), but as you know by now, I am a freethinker. I don't feed into fearmongering and I feel quite proud that my kids know and understand enough to have a healthy debate of their own when issues in our city or our community arise. That said, I didn't really bat an eye when agreeing to attend to a political campaign launch recently and I school my youngest in the evening, so this just meant she would also be attending. I had a quick chat with her about behaviour and then need to sit quietly and listen, so my guess is she was probably dreading every minute in the lead up to the launch, but we had some doodle books on hand which helped. She sat quietly and attentively, taking in all of the sights, sounds and stories. She perked up when she was clear about a point, glanced at me to check in that she understood it correctly and when I smiled knowingly, she applauded enthusiastically. She caught the good, the bad and the ugly and missed out on a few big words and unnecessary filler. When it came time to discuss campaign support (signs, voluntary hours and money), they began calling out the amounts beginning at $750 (the maximum for an individual to donate to a campaign) and explained the process/rebate the city offers in return for this generous support. Can I hear $750? Anyone in the room want to start the evening off with a contribution of $750? Then, up like a flash, there is my kids, hand flailing about,she is sold! $750!! If you are holding your breath wondering how the hell I handled that, you might be surprised to find that she gazed up at me with bright eyes and looking for a sign of approval that is exactly what she got. For me, this was the ultimate in proud parenting moments and cooler still? She's been hailed a community leader at the age of 7. What an incredible boost to a previously shattered esteem. This is the same kid who at the age of 5 used to school her SK teachers about all the reasons Toronto needed to "Evict Rob Ford". Hell, even she knew better than most adults at the time. She seems to have developed some anxiety around being front and centre (*fingers crossed* for a complete recovery on this one!), but there used to be a time where she'd engage people about all the reasons she'd be a better mayor. Side note: My teen sent a flurry of texts at 9pm when she got off work, to ask how the campaign launch went, sad that she missed it and keen to talk about how she could get involved over the summer months. Love these kids. And finally, did you know that the City of Toronto has a Contribution Rebate Program allowing contributors to claim a rebate from the City for contributions made to mayor and councillor candidates in an election? Have a read!

[progressiveparentingintheci-blog]

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