opinions i have that maybe u should share
this is fully bc i was having a convo in a group chat that i think more people should know about
dont ship real people. this originally came up in an irl convo with someone im kinda friends with, and somehow we started talking Abt stray kids or smth, and she said something about shipping two of them and i immediately locked in and started telling her to not do that bc its weird to ship real people, specially celebrities. u dont know their life or their feelings. its also disrespectful to the people u r shipping. what if they like someone else but cant express it bc "the yaoi!!!". and maybe they do like each other, good for u, but if they dont, what then? fanservice? being awkward? its also bad for ppl u know. i will make exceptions if both ppl like each other and know the other likes them (smth in my friend group rn), bc then they actually reciprocate. but if u have friends and ur like "kiss, kiss, kiss, KISS, KISS, KISS!!!" they might start to distrust u, and distance themself from the other so they dont get shipped. its just disrespectful if they're real people. fictional? go wild long as its legal and not toxic.
respect ppl's beliefs. the amount of times my friends and i have had to remind this one dude (who I will call ay) that other people have different religions and political views is wild. even if u don't agree, its not worth getting in a fight. everytime someone around me is like "the day trump got elected was the greatest day for america" I'm like, "maybe for some, but ppl have differing opinions" while I wish I could spread my beliefs, but its a bit risky currently.
if ur not part of a group, do not speak for them. for example, Ay once started talking about choosing between Kamala and trump, and when asked why he chose trump, he talked about how trans women are just trying to sneak into women's restrooms or attack children and blah blah blah, and my response was, of course, "what stops men from doing that now? if someone was dead set on attacking women in restrooms, why would they transition for that?" how does this relate to the topic u may ask, but I then went with, "and I'm sure some generally are women. you're not trans, how do u know they aren't women and don't believe themselves to be?because because holy shit shut ur mouth, ur not a trans woman. I'm not either, complete oppisite actually (ftm), so I wouldnt speak for trans women. that'd be weird.
how u present does not equal ur gender. i personally present kinda femininely because i dont have a binder yet and still have a good amount of fem clothes, plus, extremely masc clothes are kinda ugly as shit. so u would probably look at me and think fem or enby. but that doesnt make me less of a guy. how u present doesnt make u any less of ur preferred gender or pronouns!!! u dont need to fit into the box that has been set for ur possible gender, because thats not made for u!!! u need to be u, not what ppl think of u. do what u want as long as it doesnt harm other or urself. present however u wanna, u know what u r and thats good enough <3
ur allowed to be basic. i see posts that r like "ure just like ever other bitch" and so what? every other bitch is hot. they look good. i dont care if its mainstream or some random tiktok subgenre, it is the clothes I wanna wear. what is ur problem with me liking clothes? u dont have to be unique. u dont have to be smth completely new. be like every other bitch. or don'. I'm not u. u r. who cares what i think? its ur body, ur outfit, and ur choice. not mine.
u dont have to know who u r. no matter if ur old, young, middle-aged, male, female, or smth in-between, u dont have to know. that is completely fine. u can be unlabled. u can be queer. it is whatever feels right to u. and if u dont know what feels right, u have a while to figure it out. ot maybe u never do. thats fine to. ur still u, and that's what matters. as long as u can not stress over it, it literally doesnt matter. be u. whether u is in a label or not.
i have more of these, but I'm now rlly irritated thinking of this, so I'm gonna stop before I smash my school laptop against the wall
